Best CF stories part 2

[HepLaurenceLB]

First thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3905995-Best-CF-Stories

When we sold our first flat the buyers asked for the keys the day before contracts were exchanged, as it was more convenient for them to move in that day.

Eh, no, you only get in the house when you've paid for it!

Years ago my friend invited me on a night out and to meet her at her friends (I didn't know her). As I arrive they've decided not to go where we agreed but to a different club known for drug taking..she knew I would refuse to go there and thus was left to look after her friends 2yo twins for the night as the other babysitter "cancelled" yeah right!! Roll around to 5-6am and my friend is nowhere to be seen (went straight home) and the mum of twins strolls in Macdonald's breakfast for herself in hand.....I just left, never again! So called friend was known for this kind of manipulation

I worked with a woman who was struggling with debt she had two kids to feed. Her mam had died and she had a few bits she didnt want. One item a cat ornament I said I would buy even without seeing. I paid £30 for it (too much really) but wanted to help her out. She went out on the piss with the cash. Then asked if I would give it back to her daughter when I decided to get rid or died

This is actually financial abuse and should of been reported to police.

@MRSGGG - you see, you kind of missed a trick there. If the plans have changed, you say "Oh, I see that we're not going to X as we had all previously agreed and as you know I don't want to go to Y, I'll duck out of the night out now" and then you leave or you say "Oh, sorry, going to Y doesn't work for me" and then you leave. You don't hang around to see the outcome of that decision you have made and end up minding someone else's children. You go home.

I don't know why so many people don't do that and they end up in the situation where they are reluctantly minding other people's children as unpaid baby sitters.

@BosleyCharliesAngel

Totally I was an idiot. I wouldn't let any of that fly now. Sadly she became a drug addict and did much worse (not to me) over the next 20+ years. She was (probably still is) a master manipulator.

That's a shame but as they say (whoever they are) You live and learn.

I've got a few, all re the same CFer

After loads and loads of hints, I gave a friend a massive bag of clothes my DS had grown out of for free (I come from a large extended family and we are sent far too many clothes for the DCs). These were beautiful clothes, some still with the tags on, lots of brand names and even some designer. It was a whole new wardrobe full for her DCs.

Roll on a few months, I hadn’t long come out of hospital and I needed a lighter weight pushchair for my DD. Said friend went “oh I think I have one in the loft you could have that one if you like”. I said yes, great, saved me having to buy one and get it delivered.

Next day she rocks up at the doorstep with a banged up cheap pushchair, it was clean, I looked it and went well it’ll do the job for now. And then she said “don’t worry about the hood that bangs back into shape, let’s call it a tenner”. I still can’t believe I gave a tenner for it, I think out of shock. I never passed on anymore of my DSs clothes to her - regardless of hints.

Same CF asked me to look after her DCs whilst she went to a funeral for a few hours. Of course, not a problem.

The children were dropped off at 8am with nothing for the day, no change of clothes, nothing. Ok fine maybe just an oversight, looked after them all day, they were really hard work, no to everything, mammoth tantrum throwers , had to make them special lunch and time rolled on. By 4pm I was getting worried, no answer to phone calls or texts. Her children were tired and cranky, I managed to get them to eat something for tea and I’d had to find spare clothes for them, including pjams.

At around 8pm I hear a car horn outside of my house, popped my head outside of the door and she leaned her head out of the car window to tell me she was drunk and I needed to walk her children to her house. No apologies, no nothing. Her house was to be fair just a few yards away and I was quite glad to get her children home, so I did....

The real CFer part was when I got stuck coming home one day and called her in emergency to ask if she could pick my DCs up from school (she was picking up her DCs from the same school). She said yes but I would have to pay her £10 an hour plus food costs & if I was going to be any later than 6, there would be an extra charge. I got someone else to collect them and no we are no longer friends...there were a few other stunts she pulled as well, but this and the buggy one were the final straw. Bold as brass that one.

@BloodyDarrener

Same boss, months later. I'd booked a Saturday off a month in advance as mum had bought tickets for early access to Alton Towers which was 2hr drive away. I was allowed to invite a friend too so it was Dad, mum, friend, my two brothers and I. Big, hugely expensive family day out.

As we arrived Boss phoned me.
"We need you in today."
Me: "Sorry, no can do. It's been booked and approved for a month and I'm here now"
Boss:"No, we need you in."
Me: "Erm... I'm miles away now and I can't. Sorry. Listen, I've got to go, I'm just about to get on The Runaway Ghost train. Bye"

I thought that was the end of it. Before the ride was done I could hear my mobile ringing from my bag.

He rang back half an hour later. "Where are you?! You're not here yet. Why aren't you here yet?!" He genuinely thought I would do as he'd said! Maybe he thought I was lying about where I was too?

Me:" Because I told you, I can't work today. I'm hours away and won't be coming back until late tonight. I'm off today!"

He called repeatedly for the 4 hours. Every 15 minutes or so. Sometimes him, sometimes his wife. He even got my friend, a fellow chef to call who thought it was mental he was ringing and told me to try Nemesis and enjoy!

Boss called with a perfectly reasonable solution in his view.. "Set off back now and you can be here by 2pm. Yes, I suppose that will do. We can see you at 2pm!"
As he was hanging up I said no and explained that there was no bloody way I was making my dad and family leave a paid for family day out and ruining their day so I could come in to work on my day off.
"Oh no, this is no good. We need you here. It's a busy day. No, no. You'll just need to come in."

My dad took my phone out of my hand, turned it off and put it in his pocket.

I never lost my job or anything. In fact, I handed in my notice a while after. Two months notice so my work friends wouldn't suffer with having no replacement for me. I kept reminding boss that I was leaving on XX date and he needed to get a replacement. He got one person. An inexperienced kid in and she was awful. Not her fault but commis chefs you can pay teens wages to are rare. He'd need an adult.

Come my last day my workmates all said goodbye and boss said, "See you Tuesday then."

Me. "No. I don't work here. You know I'm finishing."

Boss:"But you need to come in. There's no one to work downstairs. I'll see you Tuesday."

I laughed and walked away. He called on Tuesday asking where I was.

I'm late to this thread but what a complete Wassack your ex boss was! I wonder if they turned on on the Tuesday expecting you to be there! Twit!! 🌹

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Reading these CF threads is so inspiring. Giving me balls for any potential CFs I meet in future

CFers rely on your being shocked. My DD is an experienced babysitter with caring qualifications and first aid experience. The number of people who tried to take advantage of her is staggering. Or expect her to clean their house or cook meals for the family whilst sitting after the kids go to bed because 'you're just sitting there doing nothing'. Thankfully she has a spine and the money has to be paid in advance upon arrival or she leaves. She's actually called the police on pisstakers who try to stay out all night.

Same with friends wanting to borrow things she's worked hard to pay for herself. She says no, I don't loan out things.

I can't read these because it's so frustrating! However has anyone any tales whete the CFs get their comeuppence, please ?

The essence of this thread is people who expect others to be kind and support them but don't return the favour.

It's nice to share things and be generous helping others out if this is reciprocated but some of these CFs spoil this

my neighbour complained that the lights in my kitchen are too bright for her dog (we share a closed alleyway and we both have side doors from our kitchen that lead into the alleyway - both doors have frosted glass and are directly opposite each other so she can see the light on in my kitchen and vice versa)
She wants me to do one of the following

1. replace glass door with door that has no glass
2. stop putting the lights on late at night or first thing in the morning
3. put a blackout curtain/blind up that fixes to the glass part so no light can leak out
4. change the lights for dimmable ones

WE have to do all of this and WE have to pay for it because its inconveniencing her dog and as she's lived there longer she has the right to leave her house as it is as we are causing the problem

As we have a shared alleyway - the alleyway leads directly into our garden, we have recently built a wall and plan to put a gate up ASAP so that it's not opening up directly from the end of the alleyway.
I mentioned it in passing and CF neighbour went nuts saying her dog likes to roam around our garden like she did before we moved in as previous owner used to let her do it, we are depriving her dog the right to exercise and she may need access to her back wall!
Just to add she has no rights over our garden by the way shes just a CF who likes wandering in our garden and doesn't like us having any privacy.

CF neighbour also asked if DP could leave for work later as starting the car up wakes her (retired) husband up and she wants him to sleep as long as possible so he's not under her feet first thing in the morning

This one wasn't me but woman 3 doors down recently moved in and is apparently allergic to animals. CF neighbour went over to introduce herself and then new neighbour invited CF neighbour in for a cup of tea and asked if it was ok if she brought her husband? New neighbour said yes, CF neighbour went back and left the husband but took the dog and was massively offended when new neighbour said CF couldn't bring her dog in her house

I could write a CF book filled with things my neighbour has demanded!

If someone gives me something, who isn't family I always buy wine chocolates or flowers to say thankyou. Isn't that what you do!
If I'm invited to a party or to dinner I bring something along, may not be much but something. I once took a salad of mixed leaves including sorrel from my garden to a barbecue, went down a storm. Family get homemade jam, pickles and infused gin. I don't get CF who think life owes them a favour. But what is even stranger is these people dont even see it as a problem. Well she didnt want it or wouldnt be giving away! Or maybe I'm wrong and their is a lot of CF just trying it on out there

I know someone who when new neighbour's moved into THEIR close would take a set of rules to sign on the day of their arrival. Royal CF

@rawalpindithelabrador Good for her!

@woodhill Yes, they ruin it. I used to be very generous with my time and expertise and was taken advantage of when younger. Now it's no every time. If people want my professional help, they pay.

This still has me bemused, 5 years later!

I was chatting to a CF dad from our daughters school who I spoke to from time to time but I didn't really know him and his wife that well. He commented that they needed to buy their DD a new bike. We had just bought our DD a new bike for her 5th birthday and as she was much taller than his DD I offered him my DD's old bike. I could have sold it but thought I'd be kind!

I said he could pop by and pick it up when it was convenient to him. He asked whether I could just drop it off when I next went past his house, and if he wasn't in, could I leave it in the back garden. I obviously refused that super kind offer!

After he had collected the bike he messaged to say he had a gift for my DD. I said there was really no need but he insisted. I then had a couple of follow up messages to say he'd drop the gift off when he next went past. Again, I thanked him and said it was too kind.

The following day he messaged to say he'd posted the gift into our postbox and he really hoped my DD enjoyed it. I thanked him very much and took my DD, who was obviously rather excited as she was only 5, to the postbox. She opened her 'gift' and the CF had decided that the perfect thank you would be the Peppa Pig bell that had been on my DD's old bike when we gave it to him.

He messaged again to check we'd got it, I didn't really know what to say so just confirmed we had received the bell. He said his daughter didn't want it because it was babyish so we could have it back!! How the hell would anyone ever think that was a nice gift?? He then had the cheek to say to me at the school gates a year or so later that when my DD had finished with her current bike could he have it?

A cf I know- I was on a career break at the time and she was working so she thought I was there to be used! She once ordered furniture to be delivered on a day she was working as she had assumed I would sit in her house all day! I said no. But who does that? I would never ask someone to do that!

I know someone who when new neighbour's moved into THEIR close would take a set of rules to sign on the day of their arrival

Guess they're having a lot of fun during Covid

Your post reminded me of a pal whose new friend was putting down a separate concrete pad for her car. This excited the attention of the very exclusive area's busybody, who constantly stopped by with "the village wondered ..." or "the village wanted to know ..."

He finally had enough and told her "yeah, I run a mobile fish and chip business and that's where the van's going to go"

Chaos ensued ...

@Brockaslass

A year or two ago, I was at hospital having an eye clinic appointment. After the appointment me n my hubby and our son called at the on site cafe it's just a little place with a few small round tables. We'd already had a coffee and hubby has gone back to counter to get some food and son had followed to make sure his dad who is deaf was understood. I was sat at a table in my wheelchair. The table was one big enough for 3-4 people. There was one of them really high seats nearby not appropriate for a wheelchair and only one seat. When a man came in with his wife and looked around realisesld there was no tables. He then promptly grabs my wheelchair as if I was just an inconvenience sighed and tried to wheel me across to the one seat. Telling me "I'll just move you over here, because there's two of us and your taking up a bit of room" I literally had to grab my wheels and slam brakes on and shout "excuse me". He seemed quite put out that I hadn't just obiendently moved. My DS7 heard the noise and turned and berated him telling him "What do you think you are doing, you don't just move someone in a wheelchair because you want a seat, she's a human being" and honestly he really peed me off because he seemed more put out that A) I hadn't moved when he'd tried too move me, and B) when he raised his issue with the girl serving she told him that she could quite happily call security but that frankly what he did could be considered a safeguarding risk at the least at worst assault. I mean I was so horrified that he actually thought he had the his given right to just wheel me out the way and I wouldn't complain. He stormed off muttering onscienties at everyone, us, the staff, security who weren't even there the pure audacity of some people is unbelievable.

you win

i jsut cant believe what he did wow

My ex who said he really liked me but he wanted to see other woman

@Ddot

My ex who said he really liked me but he wanted to see other woman

Did he pull the classic, 'Can we still be friends?' Nope. Friends don't treat me like shit. Fuck off.