Best CF stories part 2

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First thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3905995-Best-CF-Stories

@cleanasawhistle

Shocking what people do when there is a death in the family.

Reminds me of a friend .....when her mother died her and her siblings emptied the flat.Nobody wanted much because it was mainly old furniture.

The only thing of any value was a jewelry box full of jewelry.
Oldest sister says I will take that for safe keeping and when we can all get together we will divide it up between us.

A few years goes by and jewelry has never been mentioned so a sibling sends a message saying lets meet up and look through the box etc.

Oldest sibling then decides to get in her car and drive round different relatives houses....in order of who she liked best and say take what you like.Some of these people were not even close relatives.
Later that night she replies to sibling who sent the message saying been out all day,not much left here is a pic....full of a few scraps of jewelry that noone else wanted.

Sibling tried to explain but it wasnt yours to give away...
They havent spoken since

A few years back friends returned from their honeymoon the day after his grandmother had been buried, they knew nothing of her death despite the family knowing where they were. They were told that the Aunt's family had 'done all of the hard work to clear the house', ie remove anything of value for her children, leaving the rest, and he was welcome to 'help himself'. They went round and took what she called 'a hideous tea-set', the Aunt didn't recognise Clarice Cliff. When she eventually found out what it was worth she tried to get it back to be sold and the proceeds 'fairly' shared between the grandchildren. As they had had far more in value, it was declined.

In bed and shattered

Ignore that sorry

At our wedding venue DM went a bit mad with ordering the floral displays. She booked and paid for the flowers independently from the venue as our gift and they had cost a fortune. We planned to give some out to guests as they left the next day.

When the venue saw us handing out our flowers they went mental and insisted we put them back: turns out the florist had tipped off the venue and they had arranged a wedding fare the next day as they knew there would be lovely flowers!

I just meekly apologised as I didn’t want a fuss, but I still think what CFs they were!

@JudgeJ "I remember his trying to sue his Oxford College because he only got a 2.1 a few years back! Is it mean to hope his parents chuck him out of the flat and stop any payment to him??"

Nope.

He is more than capable of earning his own money.

A 2:1 from Oxford, a Masters in Tax Accounting and training at a big accountancy firm - he should be able to pay his own way.

My Grans really expensive watch has never reappeared after it was taken by one of her sisters ‘to be fixed’. It’s been almost 50 years so it’s at the slowest jewellers ever!

@JudgeJ in my family, we might give gift suggestions but things around the £10-20 mark or general suggestions like "nice jammies." BIL doesn't work due to a disability so he sometimes asks us all to contribute towards something bigger like a phone, but never one person to buy an expensive gift. I can't imagine someone asking me for a present that cost hundreds.

@olympicsrock

In bed and shattered

Me too!

@Suddenlyfamily5

At our wedding venue DM went a bit mad with ordering the floral displays. She booked and paid for the flowers independently from the venue as our gift and they had cost a fortune. We planned to give some out to guests as they left the next day.

When the venue saw us handing out our flowers they went mental and insisted we put them back: turns out the florist had tipped off the venue and they had arranged a wedding fare the next day as they knew there would be lovely flowers!

I just meekly apologised as I didn’t want a fuss, but I still think what CFs they were!

but if the DM, had paid for the flowers then surly your DM owned them to give away ?

@Suddenlyfamily5

At our wedding venue DM went a bit mad with ordering the floral displays. She booked and paid for the flowers independently from the venue as our gift and they had cost a fortune. We planned to give some out to guests as they left the next day.

When the venue saw us handing out our flowers they went mental and insisted we put them back: turns out the florist had tipped off the venue and they had arranged a wedding fare the next day as they knew there would be lovely flowers!

I just meekly apologised as I didn’t want a fuss, but I still think what CFs they were!

They would cost a fortune!!

Previous colleague of mine, was widowed quite young and had struggled to bring up her 2 daughters, plus was having to work past retirement as she just couldn’t afford it.

Her dd was getting married and she wanted to contribute to the wedding. The bride and groom told her they would love her to buy the flowers, which she readily agreed to, thinking that it wouldn’t be too expensive. They chose the flowers and colleague was sent the bill….over £2.5k! Colleague was in tears worrying about how she would pay it, and think she had to take out a loan in the end! Don’t know if it was just them being CFs or genuinely thinking this was a reasonable amount as her dd was a Nurse Practitioner (band 8), marrying an Orthopaedic Consultant, so had no shortage of money!

My friend told me shortly before my wedding that she had just started a little side buisness making frames (the box frames with a photo and scrabble letters and charms etc in if anyone knows what I mean) and that she was going to make us one for our wedding. That was all she said so I assumed this was our wedding gift and said thank you very much. Shortly after the wedding she pops round with it, hands it to me and says “so for the materials and my time if we call it £15”!!!

I had been friends with a woman for 10 years or so.
I gave her money to buy food for herself and her children as she was apparently on the breadline, not a problem.
Until she posted on FB about her new tattoo two days after... massive, must have cost more than what I gave her.
I wanted to call her out on the post, not sure why I didn't, but I really distanced myself and we're no longer friends now.

@Suddenlyfamily5

At our wedding venue DM went a bit mad with ordering the floral displays. She booked and paid for the flowers independently from the venue as our gift and they had cost a fortune. We planned to give some out to guests as they left the next day.

When the venue saw us handing out our flowers they went mental and insisted we put them back: turns out the florist had tipped off the venue and they had arranged a wedding fare the next day as they knew there would be lovely flowers!

I just meekly apologised as I didn’t want a fuss, but I still think what CFs they were!

How can that happen?

They were your flowers.

I’m dumbstruck.

When my mother was dying, my cousin on Mum’s side drove 2400km in her husband’s work utility vehicle (they have a luxury 4wd that they drove all around Australia in) loaded up with plastic bins in the back. She cleaned out my grandmother (on Dad’s side, so no relation to her at all) granny flat, taking antique clocks, sewing machines, family memories, etc that should have been shared between my cousins on that side and myself, and also items from Mum’s house. She ebayed a lot of it before news got to me (I was living overseas trying to return at this stage.) I phoned her and pointed at that she was an executor of the will and I would be getting lawyers to check out her eBay accounts, those of her family members, and her back accounts. I wanted her to excuse herself from any further executor duties and return any items she still had at her own expense or me and my two cousins would see her in court. She kept insisting that my mother “forced” her to do this, but as my mother had a brain tumour, it wouldn’t have seemed very believable. She had also taken $100000 from my mother. Do you think she came to her funeral?

@Pugsnotdrugs101

My friend told me shortly before my wedding that she had just started a little side buisness making frames (the box frames with a photo and scrabble letters and charms etc in if anyone knows what I mean) and that she was going to make us one for our wedding. That was all she said so I assumed this was our wedding gift and said thank you very much. Shortly after the wedding she pops round with it, hands it to me and says “so for the materials and my time if we call it £15”!!!

Wtf! It would've been a crappy wedding present as it is, never mind paying for it! Did you pay her?

@Pugsnotdrugs101
Please say you didn't pay her
I'd have given it back, "we didn't order this, you told me you were made it for our wedding. You can have it back"

I was a primary school teacher and the son of good friends of ours was struggling with his literacy so I started tutoring him at weekends - a 40 mile round trip. She was a SAHM and her DH was self employed so didn't have much money but they were good friends and I was happy to help.
Cue one Christmas and she asked me to call in at our local Lidl to get a couple of things from the middle - to give her very good friends as pressies. I did. She didn't have the cash so could she pay me in eggs from her hens - 10 eggs for a £20 debt.
Finally come the last session before Christmas - I had hurt my back but, rather that let them down, my daughter drove me. I turned up with pressies for them and both their boys they had got me - you guessed it - nothing.
Apparently whilst I was with their son they were scrabbling around to find something to wrap up for me. It was a very well used quiz game in a bashed up tin box.
The scales fell away and I saw them for the CF they were. Once I felt their son was OK literacy wise I went NC and told them why.

I have another one.

Some of my friends have a lot of spare cash but they also have long pockets and short arms.

I went for a coffee with one recently and she got there and said she had no money on her or card and could I buy her a coffee and her DC a drink too. OK, no problem. I am not tight. Then she proceeded to order a full on breakfast for both of them and it cost me £22. She has said nothing since. Then some friends organised an activity and I went to pay for mine and the person said it couldn't go ahead unless this person paid that day. I text her to say I would pay and she can pay me back and she has not even mentioned it.

Years ago I also went to this massive clothes and bag sale (pre touch pay etc.) where you could only pay cash. It was in the middle of nowhere. I took £200 to buy a load of things to last me. When I got there this friend, not the other one above, said she hadn't had time to get cash and could I lend her £100. I then had to wait months and months whilst she didn't offer it back.

Some people just go through life expecting others to pay for them and they just cannot see what they are doing or care that the other person is now out of pocket.

My husband and I once let the girlfriend of a friend/collegue stay in our spare bedroom for around 8 weeks after she was made jobless and homeless on the same day (she was a live in nanny). We had only met her once before but wanted to help someone down on their luck. She stayed rent free - all she had to do was buy her own food and tidy up after herself. When she moved out after 8 weeks, friend messaged us to ask if we wanted to go over so they could cook us dinner to say thanks. We accepted the invite, thought it was lovely of them but then got a text an hour later saying the ingredients had cost £15 and could we transfer it to them. We never replied and never spoke to them again. They had clearly disregarded the fact that we took on the extra cost of another adult living in our house, who was home all day everyday while we worked 8-5, for 8 weeks until they got back on their feet and, to show their appreciation, they thought it was a good idea that we pay for a thank you dinner that they wanted to make us.

Not an actual cf tale but I thwarted the attempts of one at my cousin's wedding a while back. The event manager was being a bastard on the day, doing everything he could to spoil it. Claimed dear cousin owed him money when in fact he told her to pay last £1k afterwards in case of price adjustments etc.

Anyway the nasty man brought round 3 couples before the ceremony & one afterwards to view the room. He told the last couple that all the decorations that we paid for would be there for their wedding next day. I overheard him telling waiting staff not to come in until 10am as they would reuse everything from my cousin's wedding.

At the end of the night, me and some guests stripped back the room, all dirty table linen in a neat pile. Tables & chairs stacked up on the side. We took home all our decorations that cost over £2k which the shite promised the other couple for free everything cleaned so the shite couldn't complain that we trashed the room.

I would have loved to have seen the shite's face at 10am the next day expecting the room to be ready. There was an hour to get the room ready before the next wedding at 11am! He also told his staff not to come in until 10am. Karma and all that.

Many years ago when I used to work in pubs, the landlord and landlady asked if I’d work a full weekend so that they could have a weekend away (their first in a lot of years). They said I’d have to live there because for insurance reasons the place has to be occupied overnight. No problem all good

They didn’t mention that they weren’t taking their 16 year old daughter with them!

@ElliFAntspoo

We decided to install a CF in our back door, and got one with a little radio transmitter thing that you attach to your cat's collar so it only unlocks for him. Only it turns out another cat in the neighbourhood has a similar collar that opens out cat flap, so we now get uninvited visits from this strange moggy, and we don't know whether ours has discovered he can go into another stranger's house.

Another catflap CF one! Years ago when I was a student we had a shared house on a terraced street where the front doors opened straight into the front room and no alleyways between houses. There were catflaps on the front door and the back doors which were both locked. When we moved in, the NDN came round to tell us to unlock the catflaps so that her cat could come in from the front Street without having to go all the way round the block (she only had a catflap on her backdoor) and that she was good friends with our landlord and had a long standing agreement to do this. We said ok thinking it would be nice to have a cat around the place. Unfortunately the cat in question (large tabby tom) was not at all friendly and would come through at all hours bringing in half dead mice. It was really inconvenient as it meant we had to keep the doors to the kitchen and front room open which was quite drafty. About six months later the landlord was round collecting our rent cheques and the cat strolled in. He looked put out and asked if it was our cat! Turns out he didn't know the CF NDN and had no such agreement!

I have another! I actually have many relating to this person (before I got the sense to cut them off!) ex friend worked in a well known clothing store that I LOVE. (For context, she doesn’t drive and I do and this clothing store is 2 busses away) she asks if I’d like to go Christmas shopping there with her one day and use her staff discount, I thought that was a really nice offer and would save me some money on Xmas shopping so agreed. I kid you not, we hadn’t even walked in the door to the shop and she said ‘oh I realised you can’t use my staff discount because we are only allowed to use it on ourselves’ she then proceeded to do all her own Xmas shopping and I basically realised she had just wanted a lift so she didn’t have to carry all her shopping on the bus 🙄

Pugs did you wait around for her and drive her back?

@frazzledasarock

Pugs did you wait around for her and drive her back?

I bet I can guess the answer.....

That is what I hate about these threads ( though I cant stop reading them ). The CFs just walk over people and rarely get anyone giving them the result they deserve. To just meekly apologise and leave your wedding flowers there....what??!! To lend people money, or pay for CF and daughter's full breakfast - why?!

"I didnt want to cause a fuss" = I have no backbone and prefer to be walked over. More fool you then!

Yet here I still am, reading them enjoying the few ones where there is a comeuppance