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Best CF stories part 2

657 replies

HepLaurenceLB · 30/01/2021 11:01

First thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3905995-Best-CF-Stories

OP posts:
Cuntness · 02/11/2021 14:17

What is wrong with these mums?!

My friend isn't on here but she could honestly fill a thread with stories about her mum.

Another highlight, when my friend was clearing her old bedroom and setting aside things to sell, her mum insisted on going through it all too and anything her mum had bought over the years, she wanted the money for. This included Christmas and birthday presents that my friend had outgrown and general stuff your mum just buys you "just because".

Her mum will also state that she's "not spending much on Christmas this year" and will then request something really expensive as her gift. My friend just goes along with it!

lurker69 · 02/11/2021 14:28

I accepted a friend request from a school mum (i don't know why i didn't really know her) after a few weeks she pops up desperate for money, i thought it must be an emergency so i lent it to her, before she had paid it back asked for more!! i said no, then she pops up asking me to take her kids to school i said no. she pays the money back. Posting pictures of her new trainers on facebook. pops up again asking for money, i said no! pops up again can i have 1 of her kids after school i said no!
It really took a while for it to sink in that i don't mind helping people if they need it but I'm not a mug! she is by far the cheekiest fucker i have ever met!

Jobconfused · 02/11/2021 14:35

Family member is a CF. She planned a long haul trip to Canada with her friend whose mum was from Canada but grew up in the U.K. With help from said friend, they were planning to stay (for free) at friend’s relatives throughout the country. A week before travelling, friend’s mum tragically passes away. Family member still goes to Canada and stays as friend’s relatives. Friend stays behind. Needless to say they’re not friends anymore.

Firstruleofsoupover · 02/11/2021 15:21

I attended a book keeping class which ran for several weeks. Toward the end one of the students proposed we all donate a fiver towards a gift for the teacher. She kindly offered to choose something really nice. So we all did. And this was a course for people claiming unemployment benefit. On the final day we were all shown the gift she had identified - the worlds most hideous glass flower holder. Not even wrapped. Nobody said anything and the teacher looked a bit nonplussed. I was later told that the gift buyer and her husband had previously run a glass business, that had failed.

DroopyClematis · 02/11/2021 15:29

Bloody hell @Jobconfused !

Notaroadrunner · 02/11/2021 15:33

[quote PissedOffNeighbour22]@Cuntness my mum spent mine and my brother's inheritance. She reckons she paid my dad off with it in the divorce and because it was inherited from her dad, it was hers anyway Hmm.
There's some wonderful mums around Angry. [/quote]
Who had left you the money? Did the executor not ensure that you and your brother were given the money?

Pellewsmate · 02/11/2021 15:43

My eldery aunt went in hospital for a few days, when she returned home she found out that her grandchildren had taken her TV and fridge because they were certain she wouldn't be coming home.

UbicornsFunkyTop3 · 02/11/2021 16:10

My aunt gave me a landline telephone after upgrading hers when we moved in to our current home. 4 years later her upgrade broke and she asked whether we still had her old one knocking about.

I explained that we did but it was packed away in the loft. This was last month.

I was 9 months pregnant at the time and had been reliant on crutches for awful SPD, I'd become housebound for weeks by this point as I just couldn't walk anymore - which she knew.

Despite that, she wanted me to climb up the ladder into the loft, dig out the telephone from one of the umpteen boxes and then get two busses across the city to take it to her.

She's fit, healthy and has a free travel card Confused

PizzaCrust · 02/11/2021 16:12

Some of these are so grim.

Luckily it’s been a long time since any CF things have happened in my life. The stand out person was probably a school friend who was notoriously tight. Was always in and out of our cars and never offered petrol money, yet when we were in hers once, requested it.
Didn’t pay her share of the deposit on a house we booked for a week for a holiday, but took a deposit back when the money was returned. One of our poor friends ended up losing his money because she wouldn’t admit she took it. Also on this trip, her and her bf wanted us to pay them petrol money, even though no one ever was in his car. Everyone else gave who was driving them around petrol money, but they were baffled to why no one wanted to fund their petrol money as well Confused

For secret Santa she’d always buy you the cheapest thing she could find.

She wasn’t short on money, either. Well off family and had a job. Just didn’t want to spend a penny on anyone but herself.

SantaSubordinateClause · 02/11/2021 16:21

My SIL is the Cheekiest F’er I have ever met. She basically rinses everyone around her.

Despite having a decent paying job, she sits back and expects everyone to pay for her. At Christmas she sends us emails asking us to buy her £60-100 presents. We sold our house a while ago and rented whilst we looked for our family home in another town. She asked us to lend her £250,000 out of the money, which was most of it, to buy herself a house and when we said no she threw her toys out of the pram. That would have left me and my DC without a house.

I no longer have anything to do with her. She has delusions of grandeur and self importance. I have never met anyone like her in my life.

Oh wait……MIL

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 02/11/2021 16:39

Who had left you the money? Did the executor not ensure that you and your brother were given the money?

I'm guessing that the mum was the executor.

When we were younger, my DSis had a friend whom she invited to come over for tea one evening (all agreed with our DPs). After that, once she knew when our tea time was, she would turn up EVERY day 'to play' five minutes before we were about to eat and then have to go home five minutes after the meal, with no actual time for ever 'playing'. This went on for some time before we realised what was going on, after which our too-nice DM told her kindly that the time didn't work for us for playing, so not to come back again unless it had been pre-arranged.

Of course, I don't blame her at all - her mum (single parent) was obviously telling her when to go around to the Sausage Rollses for her tea. As well as the cost, we thought it really sad that her mum apparently never wanted to share any family tea times with her DD and would rather her crash another family every single evening.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 02/11/2021 16:49

She asked us to lend her £250,000 out of the money, which was most of it, to buy herself a house and when we said no she threw her toys out of the pram. That would have left me and my DC without a house.

Wow - the nerve! Was she meaning for a very short time or basically you providing her with a long-term free mortgage (or just effectively a gift) with your own house money? (I can probably guess)

She reminds me of a post on a previous CF thread, where five siblings inherited equally from a DP (or might have been a DGP) and one of them wanted to take all of the money for herself on the promise that she would then leave it to her siblings (i.e. same generation, similar ages) in her will.

She was most affronted when they somehow didn't want to just forego their inheritance for probably decades, until finally getting it near the end of their lives - with every likelihood that they could die before their CF sibling anyway!

SantaSubordinateClause · 02/11/2021 17:03

She wanted us to lend her the money so she could buy a massive house and she said she’d pay us back. I know her too well to pay it back and she wouldn’t have cared if my kids had no home.

I despise her. I just can’t get my head round it.

PissedOffNeighbour22 · 02/11/2021 17:05

@Notaroadrunner we were only about 10 when the money was left to us when my mum's dad died, but we knew all about it. It wasn't a lot, but we were poor so it meant a lot knowing it was there for when I reached 18.
As @WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll said, I'm pretty sure my mum was the executor.

It only came to light when I asked for the money (thinking it must have accumulated a reasonable amount) for university. Turned out she'd spent it years before and that meant I couldn't afford to go to university. I'm sure my brother would have frittered his away, but mine would have been put to good use.
It still pisses me off now. Even more so that I'm sure she'll come to me for money when she's elderly and doesn't have anything left to live on.

Irishfarmer · 02/11/2021 17:07

What does CF stand for?

OhMyfanwy · 02/11/2021 17:12

Cheeky fucker @Irishfarmer

DottyHarmer · 02/11/2021 18:00

Schoolmate Queen Bee mum invited me round for coffee. Being a sad Norma Nomates, I was thrilled. I turned up only to discover it was a Phoenix Cards thing….

This woman also buttonholed me and asked could she have my pram. I was thoroughly confused as dd was in it! I said, “Well, er, dd is using it atm but maybe when she’s a bit older,” so CF says, “She’s far too big for a pram.” She mentioned it again, so I just went and parked it outside her house. I didn’t like the pram anyway, but I must have been mad looking back now giving the woman a free pram.

HarrisonStickle · 02/11/2021 18:14

@HepLaurenceLB

My DH’s grandfather decided to sell his very large house and move into an old people’s home. He told his grandchildren (8 of them) that they could choose an item of furniture each. They had two weeks to visit and choose what they wanted. My DH couldn’t get there until the second week. All that was left was a Peddal bin and a coffee table. Turns out that DH’s eldest brother and his wife had turned up on the first day with a removal truck and took everything. I don’t really care but it was so grabby.
This reminds me of when my father's wife died a couple of years ago. I arrived a couple of days later than his other children (different mother) and he told me I could take any clothes I wanted. I went upstairs and there was a coat and a couple of other things hanging on otherwise empty rails (she was a great clothes fiend and loved designer labels!). I wondered where they were but didn't say anything.

After the funeral, his other children were leaving and one of them had their boot open. It stuffed with black bin bags full of clothes!!! Could hardly get it closed. Then I noticed the back seat also piled high with bags. "They're for Amy".

Amy being her daughter. WTF a 12 year old would want with a 60+ woman's clothes I haven't a clue! Or why she thought I'd actually believe they weren't going to sell an absolute shedload of designer clothes...

I guessed that the coat and other couple of items had been left because she knew Dad was going to suggest I take something, so there had to be at least ONE thing left for me!

I'm in stitches just thinking about this because this particular daughter does her utmost more than the others to pretend I don't exist, and everything is a competition to her. She more or less arranged the funeral, then a while later another relative died and I arranged that funeral. I heard Dad speaking to her on the phone at the time and he said what a good job I'd made, then a pause as she spoke, then Dad saying "It's not a competition you know."

Grin Grin Grin

Adha · 02/11/2021 18:24

We had a work colleague who never replied to any emails on time and was known for missing all deadlines . One day her coworker decided to confront and got a reply that if they want her to reply then they will have to give her a nudge. Can’t believe she got away by just waiting for her coworker to reply all emails for so long!

cleanasawhistle · 02/11/2021 18:34

Shocking what people do when there is a death in the family.

Reminds me of a friend .....when her mother died her and her siblings emptied the flat.Nobody wanted much because it was mainly old furniture.

The only thing of any value was a jewelry box full of jewelry.
Oldest sister says I will take that for safe keeping and when we can all get together we will divide it up between us.

A few years goes by and jewelry has never been mentioned so a sibling sends a message saying lets meet up and look through the box etc.

Oldest sibling then decides to get in her car and drive round different relatives houses....in order of who she liked best and say take what you like.Some of these people were not even close relatives.
Later that night she replies to sibling who sent the message saying been out all day,not much left here is a pic....full of a few scraps of jewelry that noone else wanted.

Sibling tried to explain but it wasnt yours to give away...
They havent spoken since

Gingernaut · 02/11/2021 19:36

Now, this is a cheeky fucker with bells on.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10157107/Faiz-Siddiqui-test-case-Court-Appeal-rejects-sons-bid-force-parents-pay-maintenance.html

Un - Bee - Leev - Abul.

LunaTheCat · 02/11/2021 21:04

@Maireas

Many years ago, when I was a student, I did part time cleaning to earn money. I cleaned every week for a couple who had a daughter of my age, who was also a student. They were well off and she lived at home, didn't need to work. One day the woman, Anne, said that her daughter Estelle was getting rid of some clothes and did I want them? I was really pleased and tried them on upstairs, great quality, better than I could afford. I went downstairs and thanked them both, then Anne said "Shall we say £40?". I was embarrassed because I thought they were a give away. I said I couldn't afford that. Anne said, "it's OK, we'll take it out of your wages" (I was getting £5 per day). I was too young/stupid/embarrassed to say no, so I worked for them for free for weeks.
That’s horrible . You however, ,have grown and become a lovely generous person and that family will always be mean.
JudgeJ · 02/11/2021 21:05

@SantaSubordinateClause

My SIL is the Cheekiest F’er I have ever met. She basically rinses everyone around her.

Despite having a decent paying job, she sits back and expects everyone to pay for her. At Christmas she sends us emails asking us to buy her £60-100 presents. We sold our house a while ago and rented whilst we looked for our family home in another town. She asked us to lend her £250,000 out of the money, which was most of it, to buy herself a house and when we said no she threw her toys out of the pram. That would have left me and my DC without a house.

I no longer have anything to do with her. She has delusions of grandeur and self importance. I have never met anyone like her in my life.

Oh wait……MIL

Is it as normal as it seems on this site for relatives to tell other relatives what they want for Christmas, birthday etc??
JudgeJ · 02/11/2021 21:06
I remember his trying to sue his Oxford College because he only got a 2.1 a few years back! Is it mean to hope his parents chuck him out of the flat and stop any payment to him??
SirGawain · 02/11/2021 21:07

At our trade union AGM refreshments were always provided. A colleague whose principles did not embrace unions used to turn up for the refreshments then slip away before the meeting.