Best CF stories part 2

[HepLaurenceLB]

First thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3905995-Best-CF-Stories

7RuledbyASD
Nah it was worse for them.
I was by far the best dancer (and had part choreographed the number....several other performers had begged me to stay ,including friend calling me on the way out.
It was a huge charity gig so no pay anyway.
I felt great leaving friend in the lurch after that

My CF is my Dsil who is a few years my senior. Thirty years I started working whilst at Uni and lived at home. I had no idea how to operate a current account so my sister helped me set it up ( only had a savings account until then).
My parents financially supported us all so all my salary was just going into my bank. 3 years later as I graduated I went to my bank and asked for a bank statement thinking I must have a really good amount in there. It had hardly any money in it!!
Confused I got the statement and returned home to speak to my Mum and try and figure out what was going on.
My DSil had made me sign blank cheques (i had no idea what they were) and was regularly taking my money for the entire 3 years!!!! My parents were shocked but she explained it away as alllll the clothes she had bought me over the years.... errrrrr.... the oddd thing doesn't equate to 3 years salary.

I set up a new bank account and she continued to sponge money from me for another decade till I put an end to it... I paid for every meal, every holiday, every concert ticket, her fuel etc..
Then she intensified the CF with my time, insisting I pick up her DC from school, taking them with me or making other family members take her DC on holiday with them... she is Oscar level CF!!

PinkKind I dont understand..isnt this theft and fraud? Why would your sil think.its ok to do this?? Is this your brother's wife?as you say sister but also sister in law -not that it even matters. How much money altogether was it??? I really cant understand how she was allowed to steal...

@ElliFAntspoo

I love that you thought this was a while thread about cat flaps 😂😂😂

@thetaleunfolds

Last year of school I was working in a travel agency, and my two best friends talked me into using my mega discount to book 'a girls holiday to Greece'. Only broke it to me AFTER I'd booked it and shown them the confirmation with all our names on including mine, that I wasn't invited - the girls trip was just them and their new group of friends. One laughed at how ridiculous it was that I thought I was invited. I'd slowly been pushed out for a year or two before hand but that was the final straw.

It was already booked but in my name so I cancelled it. They found out it was cancelled too late, and ended up in a caravan in Devon for a week while my other friend and I went to Orlando for 2 weeks and had the best time ever.

Zero regrets. I haven't spoken to either "friend" since.

This is just so awesome! Haahaa!

nothingIcando
I was using DSil (to say sister and not confuse DS with son - sorry for complications).
So basically because I signed those blank cheques she would just write the name part to herself and write the amounts in. I had no idea as I only had ever had a savings book account. I had no idea that for current accounts the bank posted statements out or anything. I think she just used to dispose of them.

It was 3 years of salary for a fairly well paid part time office based technical job whilst I was at Uni so into the thousands. My Mum and Dad were horrified and couldn't understand why I had signed the cheques.. i just signed most if not all of the cheque book when it arrived because she told me to

I could write thousands of stories about her.. she is still in action!!

These are great, just placemarking, ready for some more please 😀

why didnt you ask for it back or at least to be paid back in instalments

she stole your wages ffs

@PinkKind

nothingIcando I was using DSil (to say sister and not confuse DS with son - sorry for complications). So basically because I signed those blank cheques she would just write the name part to herself and write the amounts in. I had no idea as I only had ever had a savings book account. I had no idea that for current accounts the bank posted statements out or anything. I think she just used to dispose of them.

It was 3 years of salary for a fairly well paid part time office based technical job whilst I was at Uni so into the thousands. My Mum and Dad were horrified and couldn't understand why I had signed the cheques.. i just signed most if not all of the cheque book when it arrived because she told me to

I could write thousands of stories about her.. she is still in action!!

Shame your dps couldn't have tackled this on your behalf, absolutely disgusting of your sil and what about your db?

My parents had no idea what she was up to and were devastated. DSister (sorry using Dsil earlier and confusing everyone ) has used every member of the family for money and now everyone sees her for what she is. She constantly claims she is broke but is a shopoholic.. If any member of the family make any improvements or major purchases she immediately cries that she is broke...

Oscar performances each and every time!!

@PinkKind I honestly don’t think I could move on from that, that’s 3 years of salary she stole from you.

billybagpuss
When I graduated and was working full time she declared I had even more money (and very little expenditure) so I didn't need the part time money back!!

She continued in similar fashion for several years but am now very very low contact with her!! She is under the illusion that the world owes her everything!!

PinkKind Didn't your parents insist she paid you back or didn't you try to make her? That's blatant theft! I must admit though I'm rather agog at you not checking your account for 3 years!

How on earth did she get you to sign them, what did she say they were for? I'd really try to get it back somehow, borrow something of hers and not return it, stop buying her birthday presents (if you buy them) say you'll take it off what she owes you.

Is it too late to take her to small claims court?

@Isitoveryetoristhisforever

I'm not sure if mine is CF or just really annoying... you decide.

When pregnant a close friend decided she wanted to throw me a baby shower. Each to their own but I don't really agree with them, think they are a bit grabby (we are in the UK if that makes any difference, I know they are more of the norm in america). I also hate being the centre of attention. Anyway... she keeps mentioning it and I keep saying no but eventually I agree to a small lunch with friends before baby arrives. I specifically ask her to tell people I don't want gifts and it is just a lunch our as who knows when my next one will be! Next thing I know she tells me she has booked everything for 2 weeks prior to my due date at a venue 40 minutes from my home. I don't drive so have to get the bus... a bit thoughtless but I try to remember she is doing something nice for me. Also worth mentioning my pregnancy was high risk so I was meant to be on bed rest from 36 weeks. I mention the travel to her and say I will ask dsis to get time off from work to bring me at least one way. She says not to be silly, if I can get myself there she will bring me back. Very kind of her.

I arrive on the day to find she has arranged a huge party (with a lot of people I don't really know and are more her friends than mine) and charged everyone a small fortune for food and a combined gift. I am not trying to be ungrateful but the food was not something I would have chosen at all, say for example Mexican when I cannot eat anything remotely spicy which she is aware of. So I don't really eat. She then orders multiple rounds of champagne for everyone, obviously I am not drinking. I start to worry she is drinking a lot when she said she would take me home. I mention this to her and she says we will share a taxi... she lives 10 minutes from the venue while I am 40 minutes. Anyway long story short, at the end of the party (which I did enjoy but spent a lot of the time feeling self conscious while she posed for photos with me... I was huge and despite my protests she insisted we took a lot) I book a taxi for myself. She is too tipsy to carry anything at this point so our friends help load us into the taxi with cake and gifts etc. She jumps out at her end and I continue on home...costs me a fortune and thank god my neighbour saw me pull up and helped me into the house with all the presents etc. She then rings me two days later to say she had a great time and would I mind bank transferring my share of the bill to her. I said i was confused and she tells me she over did it and is now a bit skint so I need to chip in.

I don't mean to be ungrateful and I hope I don't sound it but I can't help but feel the whole party was more for her than me. And ended up costing me a lot of money I just didn't have at the time. Maybe I'm just a cow....

You are NOT a cow, she's a bloody limelight hogging dickhead! I was hoping I'd read down and see you hadn't paid her but sadly you did

Pm

pinkyredrose
My parents tried but nothing came of it. They were soooo shocked by her behaviour but it was the first of many many incidents involving her and they despaired of her in the end.
I was a very shy young person and she was my older beautiful sister and this was all around 30 years ago. I had only ever had a savings book account so had no idea about current accounts, statements, pay slips, cheque books etc. When the cheque book arrived she just told me to sign the cheques in one go...so I did ... i really did not know any better or that she or anyone would ever do anything like that. It was a whole lifetime ago.
I was devastated at the time but just learnt to accept it and moved on.
My Dad quickly taught me how to operate an account and actually taught me soooo many life skills. My parents were reallllly lovely honest people so were equally devastated that one of their children could do this at all. It was alien to them. They tried to make it up to me but it wasn't their fault. I couldn't possibly allow them to compensate me for my Dsister's actions.
You cannot choose your family but I had the best parents.. unfortunately that cannot be said of my dsister..

@PinkKind I can't believe you didn't know how a basic bank account works or what a cheque book is!
You must have been at least 18 to be at uni, so old enough to know better really.

@Thecurtainsofdestiny

When we sold our first flat the buyers asked for the keys the day before contracts were exchanged, as it was more convenient for them to move in that day.

Eh, no, you only get in the house when you've paid for it!

My mil moved a few years ago. I was messaging her on the day of the move to see how they were going - we had been the weekend before and she had done very little packing but apparently the movers told her not to worry they can help (they had to draft in more help so don't think they meant to help as much as she thought they did). Anyway, through the texts I realised she thought they could go back the next day to collect the rest of their things! I explained that she can't, the house won't be theirs and they have to hand their keys over that day. She stopped replying (her mo if she doesn't agree with what you say) so I asked my DH to call her to make sure she knows she has to take everything today.

At 4pm I finished work and was going round to help them unpack. I rang as I was leaving work to see how they were getting on and mil was saying that the estate agents wants the keys by 5pm 'but well we are still unpacking so they are just going to have to wait!' I said I would take them. Arrived at her house 15 mins later and they hadn't even gathered their keys together. Mil and fil started looking all through different coats and bags to get them all. I dropped them off and on way back remembered they had an electric garage but hadn't given me the fob for it 🙄

@popNlock

..but absolutely devastated I didn't get to perform!! 😭 it was for the greater good though🤣

Erm she got what she wanted, you didn't get to perform and the rest of the group were fucked over, how is that showing her?!

[quote inappropriateraspberry]@PinkKind I can't believe you didn't know how a basic bank account works or what a cheque book is!
You must have been at least 18 to be at uni, so old enough to know better really. [/quote]
You’d be surprised, I worked in a bank 30 years ago pre switch cards and credit cards were much rarer (in fact for a long time marks and Spencer didn’t accept them as they didn’t believe in encouraging debt, until they realised how much business they were losing) on more than one occasion I came across customers who had presigned their cheques. Maybe confused by travellers cheques which you would pre-purchase and had to sign immediately.

My CF recent (and other) experience has, thankfully, nothing to do with family or friends but with builders. We have a property abroad and had to get an area of 150 m2 paved. Measured, agreed a price - fairly relaxed on timetable. Three weeks later they finished, so I went there with my mum to check on the work and pay. Even at first sight I could tell the area done was smaller than agreed. Phone my husband to explain in detail how to measure (not straight forward square, etc) and it came to 110 m2. Long story short, even with their measurements, the couldn't make it more than 125 m2. By then, I was getting so fed up, so sat down and said "ok, we agreed a x price for 150 m2, you delivered less, so I'm working out the price per square meter and paying for the (good, to be fair) job you've done so far. Builder and his son weren't happy and became quite "insistent" to a point my 70 yes old mum got very upset. So I threatened with police, and the guys switch tactics, saying the father has just leased a new 4x4 for the son, relying on the money from this job!?! I said, not my problem, gave them the cash I worked out we owed and went into the house. They must've stayed for near another hour standing around, measuring 10 times over. In the end, they left and I never heard from them again. Still fuming when I think if what CF they were!

A couple of years ago a couple in my friendship group invited everyone to a BBQ at theirs. They are notoriously tight and everyone was surprised that they were hosting, but thought it was lovely of them. Until the message arrived asking people to bring along a garden chair, some drink, and whatever meat they wanted cooked on the BBQ...hosting couple would ‘happily provide bread and sauces.’ I didn’t go in the end but people who did reported back that the couple had done well that day, stocking their fridge with all the leftover meat and drinks that people had brought along with them.

@ElliFAntspoo did you think we were 300+ posts in on thread 2 about cat flaps?

Phone my husband to explain in detail how to measure (not straight forward square, etc)

@StormySunshine

My CF recent (and other) experience has, thankfully, nothing to do with family or friends but with builders. We have a property abroad and had to get an area of 150 m2 paved. Measured, agreed a price - fairly relaxed on timetable. Three weeks later they finished, so I went there with my mum to check on the work and pay. Even at first sight I could tell the area done was smaller than agreed. Phone my husband to explain in detail how to measure (not straight forward square, etc) and it came to 110 m2. Long story short, even with their measurements, the couldn't make it more than 125 m2. By then, I was getting so fed up, so sat down and said "ok, we agreed a x price for 150 m2, you delivered less, so I'm working out the price per square meter and paying for the (good, to be fair) job you've done so far. Builder and his son weren't happy and became quite "insistent" to a point my 70 yes old mum got very upset. So I threatened with police, and the guys switch tactics, saying the father has just leased a new 4x4 for the son, relying on the money from this job!?! I said, not my problem, gave them the cash I worked out we owed and went into the house. They must've stayed for near another hour standing around, measuring 10 times over. In the end, they left and I never heard from them again. Still fuming when I think if what CF they were!

Yeah you’re the CF in this case. Refusing to pay work that’s done. I’d assume a miscommunication and ask them to re do before I refused payment.