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Best CF stories part 2

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HepLaurenceLB · 30/01/2021 11:01

First thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3905995-Best-CF-Stories

OP posts:
Smileandtheworldsmileswithyou · 30/01/2021 12:40

Yay! So glad there is a new thread.

BlueThistles · 30/01/2021 12:44

yay 🎉

Puzzledandpissedoff · 30/01/2021 13:16

Thanks for the new thread, OP Smile

Lorddenning1 · 30/01/2021 13:56

My sis has form for being a taker, but she been enabled by my parents etc. I had a pile of clothes, branded stuff to sell on eBay, one of the t shirts was around £75 band new, only worn once and I put it on for £5 and it had already got around 6 bids and was being watched by 20 people after it's first day, my sister bobbed round for something and noticed the big pile of clothes and asked what they were for, so I told her and she said oh can I have a look, her eldest 2 were coming up to wearing that size, so she went through them and tossed aside the next, burtons things and picked up all the designer ones, like Ted Baker, Ralph Lauren etc she said you don't mind do you, cancel the eBay ones and I will give you the fiver! Knowing full well I wouldn't take a fiver off family (unwritten rule in our family) so off she went with an arm full of clothes that her eldest two probably wouldn't even appreciate or look after!!! It also probably would of made more than that on EBay too! I was fuming, she won't get away with ever doing that to me again.

GrandTheftWalrus · 30/01/2021 14:15

Just here for the bookmark

Maireas · 30/01/2021 17:18

Many years ago, when I was a student, I did part time cleaning to earn money. I cleaned every week for a couple who had a daughter of my age, who was also a student. They were well off and she lived at home, didn't need to work. One day the woman, Anne, said that her daughter Estelle was getting rid of some clothes and did I want them? I was really pleased and tried them on upstairs, great quality, better than I could afford. I went downstairs and thanked them both, then Anne said "Shall we say £40?". I was embarrassed because I thought they were a give away. I said I couldn't afford that. Anne said, "it's OK, we'll take it out of your wages" (I was getting £5 per day).
I was too young/stupid/embarrassed to say no, so I worked for them for free for weeks.

Lorddenning1 · 30/01/2021 18:24

@Maireas this kind of happened to me too, someone on my Facebook asked if anyone wanted some children's clothes or they were going to the Charity shop, I messaged her and said yes please, and went I collected them she said is £10 ok for you, I thought she was giving them away for free! And luckily I had a tenner on me, who does that?

Maireas · 30/01/2021 19:00

Yes, @Lorddenning1 - it's awkward!
This was about 1981, before the internet, so you either gave clothes away or sold them to a dress agency who took a cut. It's the disparity in wealth as well, it was obvious that I was worse off than Estelle. She had a car, I had to get off the bus early and walk to save 30p. My grant only covered my rent. I just thought it was a bit mean!

Clicketyclick21 · 30/01/2021 21:12

I posted this quote on the old thread but it's good to have the reminder.
'Givers need to know & strengthen their boundaries because the takers don't have any.'
I saw this on a poster in town a few years ago and it always struck a cord with me.

Notimeforaname · 30/01/2021 21:26

Just catching up with these threads someone mentioned the Paris wedding boat. That was me😭 Just brought it all flooding back Grin I was eating a Twirl with my cup of tea and it thoroughly ruined the second finger for me

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HepLaurenceLB · 30/01/2021 22:05

My DH’s grandfather decided to sell his very large house and move into an old people’s home. He told his grandchildren (8 of them) that they could choose an item of furniture each. They had two weeks to visit and choose what they wanted. My DH couldn’t get there until the second week. All that was left was a Peddal bin and a coffee table. Turns out that DH’s eldest brother and his wife had turned up on the first day with a removal truck and took everything.
I don’t really care but it was so grabby.

OP posts:
Ilovelblue · 30/01/2021 22:05

I had an additional role to my day job at the company I worked for. It was very much an essential role but not regarded as such by the powers that be and instead of extra payment for the task, I would once a year receive a set of vouchers which could be redeemed at a variety of places such as restaurants, hotels, garden centres, department stores etc. I asked my best friend if she would like a weekend away - I would pay for the hotel (admittedly a budget type one but still at no cost to herself) and would put some vouchers towards a meal in the city. She had told her work colleagues she was "on a freebie" which irritated me but then complained about the hotel which was perfectly adequate and it hadn't cost her a penny. When we went to the restaurant, I duly provided the vouchers which came to £50 though the bill was in excess of that. Had I been in her position, I would have willingly paid the remainder of the bill as a thank you for the free weekend but she just calculated her half of the extra and pushed it across the table to me.

I never asked her to share in these vouchers again and as it happened, a couple of years down the line the company changed its policy and started paying me a set amount each month for this role which went direct into my salary.

Lorddenning1 · 30/01/2021 22:28

@Notimeforaname do you have a link to that one?

Notimeforaname · 30/01/2021 22:33

I think its in the original CF thread ...somwhere?? Sorry!

Notimeforaname · 30/01/2021 22:37

It's on page 8 !! Of the thread linked at the beginning of this one!

HighSpecWhistle · 30/01/2021 22:39

[quote Lorddenning1]@Maireas this kind of happened to me too, someone on my Facebook asked if anyone wanted some children's clothes or they were going to the Charity shop, I messaged her and said yes please, and went I collected them she said is £10 ok for you, I thought she was giving them away for free! And luckily I had a tenner on me, who does that?[/quote]
So you spent £75 on a t-shirt but expected free clothes?

Also whilst your sister was being a little cheeky asking you for the clothes, it's odd you didn't offer them to her for a price or ask her for money - that's on you. You don't have to say yes.

Ownerofmultiplechimps · 30/01/2021 22:52

My BIL used to be a seriously CF, he may still be tbh but don’t have a lot to do with him now. Before it became a nightmare I sold lots on EBay & BIL asked if I’d mind listing some of his fishing gear. I agreed on the proviso he provided technical details for the listing as I know nothing about it. He then drops it off whilst I’m at work & went on holiday for 2 weeks. Didn’t provide a scrap of info & then texted daily to find out how his sales were going. Ignored my response asking for info & whinges when he returns that they haven’t sold. My fault apparently because I should have googled everything (40+ items) & ive risked his new home because he planned to use the money for his deposit. Wish I’d told him to shove it at this point but made him photograph & list himself on my profile because didn’t want it cluttering up the house (he’d have left it for us to store). Everything sells & he then argues with me about the fees & postage costs because if it sold for £50 + postage that’s what he should get. Fully expected me to cover these for him because he’d helped my seller rating! Dh was daft enough to go into business with him, luckily start up costs were relatively low so they split them, worked well for about 8 weeks until BIL got bored of it & stopped. He ignored Dh calls for weeks eventually says he’s not doing it anymore, Dh says sell on what equipment we can & split it. BIL had already sold it & Dh never saw a penny. Tried to sell on our baby equipment we very clearly loaned him when he’d bought the wrong things. He was outraged when I asked for it back because we were having our 2nd (his DD had outgrown it) because he’d arranged to sell it to a work mate & agreed to buy something with the profit. Swore blind I’d told him it was a gift for his DD even after I’d shown him the texts where he said he’d return it because he knew we were trying for more dc.

hansgrueber · 30/01/2021 23:04

@HepLaurenceLB

My DH’s grandfather decided to sell his very large house and move into an old people’s home. He told his grandchildren (8 of them) that they could choose an item of furniture each. They had two weeks to visit and choose what they wanted. My DH couldn’t get there until the second week. All that was left was a Peddal bin and a coffee table. Turns out that DH’s eldest brother and his wife had turned up on the first day with a removal truck and took everything. I don’t really care but it was so grabby.
A friend was in a similar situation, they were on holiday when their grandmother died and no-one bothered to tell them, they arrived back the day after the funeral. The house had been stripped of almost everything by an Aunt and cousins, a few of pieces of pottery were left in a box, Ugly things he was told. However, his wife knew Moorcroft and Clarice Cliff when she saw them! He who laughts last....
DaenarysStormborn · 31/01/2021 09:27

I have two. Uncle is a CF.

Went for family dinners of 15 people regularly. They would have all the wine but never pay and allow my retired GPs to pay for everyone which they really couldn't afford. DF got sick of this and used to sneak off to the bar to pay to avoid argument. Eventually started announcing 'let's split this' and letting the awkward silence go on and on...

Same people. Family holiday in an AirBnB. 'Let's split this by family' they say when booking for 6 people vs our 3 people and GPs couple. The difference was huge! Eventually they agreed to pay for number of people rather than splitting it into 3 equal parts.

They do this at every event to the extent that the bill is always the worst part of the whole meal.

HeidiHaughton · 31/01/2021 16:03

SIL and her husband had a huge wedding. Family were told what to contribute, not cash as both sets of parents were paying, but household items as she wanted to upgrade everything in the house. Nothing under £500, think chest of drawers, full Denby set etc. Dh dutifully bought what he was told to buy (we weren't married but lived together at the time) and we never even got a thank you. When we got married her and her husband didn't even give us a card. When we bought a new house and had our families over for a lunch she brought half a bottle of wine for herself and a picture frame she didn't want and had wrapped up out of the box.
Her and her husband are as bad as each other. I don't bother with them now unless dh wants them to visit.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 31/01/2021 16:52

My DH’s grandfather decided to sell his very large house and move into an old people’s home. He told his grandchildren (8 of them) that they could choose an item of furniture each

I've got a live version of that going on with the house next door, whose elderly owned died last March. Her three DCs live in different parts of the UK, and every so often they'll all arrive with OHs and DCs in tow to argue at megadecibels over who should take what

Obviously this never gets resolved because the house is still rammed with stuff, and goodness knows how they agreed the transaction but the place sold in just 3 days early this month
Clearly it'll have to be emptied before completion, but how they'll finally do it is anyone's guess

DuchessofHastings1 · 31/01/2021 20:12

Has anyone got the link for mexican house thief thread?
True searching but it's just threads which have mentioned it.

Orgasmrendition · 31/01/2021 20:21

@DuchessofHastings1

Has anyone got the link for mexican house thief thread? True searching but it's just threads which have mentioned it.
I don’t think the Mexican house thief was ever it’s own thread, there’s a link to the first thread it was mentioned on the 1st CF thread, linked in OP
CostaDelCovid · 31/01/2021 20:25

@Lorddenning1

My sis has form for being a taker, but she been enabled by my parents etc. I had a pile of clothes, branded stuff to sell on eBay, one of the t shirts was around £75 band new, only worn once and I put it on for £5 and it had already got around 6 bids and was being watched by 20 people after it's first day, my sister bobbed round for something and noticed the big pile of clothes and asked what they were for, so I told her and she said oh can I have a look, her eldest 2 were coming up to wearing that size, so she went through them and tossed aside the next, burtons things and picked up all the designer ones, like Ted Baker, Ralph Lauren etc she said you don't mind do you, cancel the eBay ones and I will give you the fiver! Knowing full well I wouldn't take a fiver off family (unwritten rule in our family) so off she went with an arm full of clothes that her eldest two probably wouldn't even appreciate or look after!!! It also probably would of made more than that on EBay too! I was fuming, she won't get away with ever doing that to me again.
Why on earth did you allow her to take them? NO is a complete sentence, as they say on here
Clicketyclick21 · 31/01/2021 20:35

Check the classics for the Mexican House thief thread. There's also a cf wedding thread on there as well, some people are bloody shameless.