Best CF stories part 2

[HepLaurenceLB]

First thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3905995-Best-CF-Stories

I love the stories where people have shot down CF behaviour.

I have a small one. I live just over an hour away from Birmingham. Some friends decided to drive to Birmingham to see someone they knew and get some food from his pub.

I was quite young (19 ish) and poor at the time so went along for the ride as something to do.

On the way home they tried to make me cover petrol costs. I'd have been more than happy if it had been my idea or they'd were doing me a favour but it was their decision to go that far. I didn't even know the person they'd gone to see!

I stuck to my guns but the drive home became quite uncomfortable.

Or was I being a tight fucker?

Good on you @stablefeet.
I think a lot of us don't have the guts to stand up for ourselves. The ridiculous constant fear of upsetting someone yet that same person isn't caring that they're upsetting you.

I have neighbours a couple of doors up who constantly asked for lifts everywhere, or to pick things up from the shop for them (they do pay). Constant texts or calls of "Are you going to the shop?" Or if my car is not parked up, "Are you at the shop? Could you get me xx and two xx?" (No pleases!!!). I started saying no a while back but it was still cowardly, making up fake excuses.
I'd had a call where the wife asked for a quick lift to the local shop as it was pissing down and she didn't want to get wet. All I could think was, well neither do I and I don't need the shop. I'll get soaked going to my car and back again. Why should I put my coffee down, get my shoes and coat on and leave my own home?

Another time I was called first thing for an 'emergency' lift for an appointment 15 miles away. I said no as I wouldn't be back until XX time. She said, it's okay, we don't need to leave until then. Shit. I made my only excuse and it was thwarted. I reluctantly agreed.
It turned out one the way that the appointment was nails. Fucking nails. I said 100% I couldn't come back and pick them up afterwards. Christ it was just shy of an hour there and back driving just to drop off! Fine. An hour later her DH was knocking my door (seeing clearly through the window I was just sat on my arse watching telly) begging me to get his stranded wife as she couldn't get a bus and was now stuck 15 miles from home. Another almost hour's driving and I swore it was the last time. All future excuses would be foolproof.

It took a global pandemic and millions of poor souls dying for me to get out of it!!! They still asked for most of 2020 but don't now because I still "can't" have anyone in my car. [shrug].

@FeelinFagin

About an hour ago I heard running water and went to my kitchen to investigate. Opened the back door and a builder from a house on the adjacent street had climbed over my garden fence and was happily filling his buckets up using my outdoor tap. Cheeky sod! Had they asked I would have said not a problem (and opened the gate) but his excuse was a, "um um um um, I was told we had permission to get water here" No mate, permission from your boss or even the householder you're working for is not the permission you actually require! I told him that it was okay but I was not happy that no one bothered to ask me at all!!

He then came back three times with more buckets!

Because you're letting him. That's why CFers exist. I'd have told him to get knotted and put a lock on the tap. Problem solved.

I think the fact that I have quite a short fuse helps a bit. I've learned to manage it by walking away before saying something I regret.
I stranded a friend at a remote country pub once. I was happily the driver for the evening. However at the end of the evening they had a "lock in" at which point I realised she was only there to see the barman she fancied. He came out to chat and I soon found myself excluded to the point where she was turning her back on me. I told her I was going to go home. She said that she didn't want to go yet and just turned her back on me. I did my thing - just turned and left. Got in my car. Went home. I did get abuse from her on the phone the next day for stranding her and she'd had to wait ages for a taxi and only just had enough to pay for it. I asked her how long it took before she turned round and realised I wasn't still standing looking at her back.

@rawalpindithelabrador I had considered that and would/could have happily shut it off from the inside, however, I know the lovely lady needing the work done and allowed them to carry on for her benefit alone.
Plus confronting the bloke about not asking felt like a huge victory. Calling a cheeky fucker out is fine, even if you do let them carry on. He was certainly told off and looked very embarrassed.

@stablefeet I've done that too! But with my stepdad. He'd call for a lift home from the pub. Fine. We lived rurally and going picking up our OHs is normal for us farmers. However, unlike my mum, I won't pander to DSF. Mum lets her men treat her like shit.

I found out that when he'd call for a lift he would order another two more beers for the wait. The drive there was almost enough time for him to drink one. The other however he would leave mum sitting in the car while he took his time drinking the last one, as of course he'd paid for it so couldn't just leave it. She would be there for a good 15 min.
When I was asked to pick him up, I used to go inside the pub once, wait for five and then drive back home without him. Mum stopped asking me to go.

Years later I did it with my own DH. He called for a lift, I went, he came outside, waved to me and then started chatting to the people outside. I waited, and I waited, I got his attention multiple times and he gave me that wave of "I know, I'm just coming!" to get me to wait. After a while I just drove home.

I just wish I could do that with people I'm not related to.

My daughter owns a house in France and she and DP we’re going there on holiday. DP’s friend asked if he could come as well and bring GF. DD agreed and every day provided food and wine. They never offered to pay or helped wash up even. When they got home CF asked her to contribute half the cost of his car park fee.

I don’t think I have any

This happened to a friend of mine. She was visiting a European city for the first time and her Supervisor had been there six months earlier. Supervisor said to friend that he had some loose change that she could have, telling her it wasn't much but it might buy a coffee or she could use for the toilets. Friend says thanks very much.
Next day in comes Supervisor with the money and in front of everyone says "Right, I've consulted the exchange rate this morning so it's £3.20 that you owe me".

@Camphillgirl

My daughter owns a house in France and she and DP we’re going there on holiday. DP’s friend asked if he could come as well and bring GF. DD agreed and every day provided food and wine. They never offered to pay or helped wash up even. When they got home CF asked her to contribute half the cost of his car park fee.

Hope she told them to sling their hooks and never allowed them to come over again.

My nan’s gardener. He used to be her ex neighbour, she treated him like a friend, he would try to charge her for things. He agreed to buy her a tv, he charged her for the tv, an hour of his time, plus signed her up for virgin media when she wanted just a terrestrial television service. He would let her take him out for a meal then charge her for his time... then when she had a heart attack and we tried to let him know, he told us he didn’t care.

dentydown what an absolute nasty, selfish grabbing bastard!!!! That's made me really mad on yours and your Nan's behalf! What a twat.

@Isitoveryetoristhisforever

I'm not sure if mine is CF or just really annoying... you decide.

When pregnant a close friend decided she wanted to throw me a baby shower. Each to their own but I don't really agree with them, think they are a bit grabby (we are in the UK if that makes any difference, I know they are more of the norm in america). I also hate being the centre of attention. Anyway... she keeps mentioning it and I keep saying no but eventually I agree to a small lunch with friends before baby arrives. I specifically ask her to tell people I don't want gifts and it is just a lunch our as who knows when my next one will be! Next thing I know she tells me she has booked everything for 2 weeks prior to my due date at a venue 40 minutes from my home. I don't drive so have to get the bus... a bit thoughtless but I try to remember she is doing something nice for me. Also worth mentioning my pregnancy was high risk so I was meant to be on bed rest from 36 weeks. I mention the travel to her and say I will ask dsis to get time off from work to bring me at least one way. She says not to be silly, if I can get myself there she will bring me back. Very kind of her.

I arrive on the day to find she has arranged a huge party (with a lot of people I don't really know and are more her friends than mine) and charged everyone a small fortune for food and a combined gift. I am not trying to be ungrateful but the food was not something I would have chosen at all, say for example Mexican when I cannot eat anything remotely spicy which she is aware of. So I don't really eat. She then orders multiple rounds of champagne for everyone, obviously I am not drinking. I start to worry she is drinking a lot when she said she would take me home. I mention this to her and she says we will share a taxi... she lives 10 minutes from the venue while I am 40 minutes. Anyway long story short, at the end of the party (which I did enjoy but spent a lot of the time feeling self conscious while she posed for photos with me... I was huge and despite my protests she insisted we took a lot) I book a taxi for myself. She is too tipsy to carry anything at this point so our friends help load us into the taxi with cake and gifts etc. She jumps out at her end and I continue on home...costs me a fortune and thank god my neighbour saw me pull up and helped me into the house with all the presents etc. She then rings me two days later to say she had a great time and would I mind bank transferring my share of the bill to her. I said i was confused and she tells me she over did it and is now a bit skint so I need to chip in.

I don't mean to be ungrateful and I hope I don't sound it but I can't help but feel the whole party was more for her than me. And ended up costing me a lot of money I just didn't have at the time. Maybe I'm just a cow....

She'd have had 2 words off me had she phoned to ask for money to help pay for it. Fuck off!!

My grandad died and everyone went to pay respects to my gran. On the way out my uncle pocketed grandad’s car keys. As he pulled away in the car my gran came flying out of the house and yelled at the top of her voice that her husband’s property was HERS! He honestly thought he could just help himself to the car “because I’m his only son”.

A couple of weeks later my uncle turned up at the house to do an inventory so he could be sure that my gran (his own mother!) didn’t dispose of any of his father’s property that would one day be his. She threw him out and never spoke to him again.

Annoyingly she subsequently died without a will, so my uncle (her son with grandad) got everything and my mum (her stepdaughter from grandad’s previous marriage) got nothing.

My old boss organised a team meal as a “treat” for exceeding our financial target which earned him a lot of money. Then asked us to pay for it. Thankfully before we got there. Nobody went.

My sister asked my DH to leave our wedding venue on our wedding day to pick up her partner as they didn’t want to leave car there overnight and return next day or book room.

I drove me, sister, mum and niece to hairdressers and then the venue on same wedding day.

When we arrived my sister complained she felt sick because she sat in the back.

My niece left rubbish from her drinks and snacks in my car.

They got all their stuff out and left me to manage mine on my own. Luckily my friends were arriving for the wedding and helped me.

They then got changed in my bridal suite and again left their crap everywhere.

I was a lone parent of 3, money was obviously tight. My daughter was invited to a friends ( I think 8th) birthday party to the cinema and for McDonalds. It was a short notice invite but understood maybe she had someone drop out last minute.
We rushed around to get a gift I hadnt budgeted for.
Dropped her off beautiful house. The dad was very high up in the police. Went yo pick her up at the end if the party to be presented with a bill for the cinema plus her drink and snack she'd had.
I was so taken a back I went back to the car to scrabble around for the cash
I have no objection to paying for my children but surely you make it clear on the invite and certainly didn't expect to pay for a birthday party
I still see them around 15 years later and feel robbed 😆

I once worked in a small team and we all became really good friends. A new man started in the team and I started 'seeing' him (this was my first mistake!)

Another woman in the team went back to his after a night out and slept with him. I couldn't make the night out as I had no child care. She messaged me the next morning to ask that if her husband got in touch with me, please could I say that she had stayed over at mine. As if it wasn't CF enough to sleep with the man I was seeing, she picked me of all colleagues to use as her alibi!

Needless to say, my short lived work-based dating escapade came to a screeching halt and it was as awkward and mortifying as you would expect to have to continue to work on joint projects with the sleaze.

@FeelinFagin

About an hour ago I heard running water and went to my kitchen to investigate. Opened the back door and a builder from a house on the adjacent street had climbed over my garden fence and was happily filling his buckets up using my outdoor tap. Cheeky sod! Had they asked I would have said not a problem (and opened the gate) but his excuse was a, "um um um um, I was told we had permission to get water here" No mate, permission from your boss or even the householder you're working for is not the permission you actually require! I told him that it was okay but I was not happy that no one bothered to ask me at all!!

He then came back three times with more buckets!

Hope you're not on a water meter!

@Puzzledandpissedoff

CF employers took info from woman 1's application and gave it to someone else to implement - CF woman contacted woman 1 for help!!!!

The new employee contacting "woman 1" might be unusual, but employers using her ideas certainly isn't

I've known too many who do a round of interviews involving tasks/scenarios, not because they actually need anyone but because it's cheaper than paying consultancy fees

Can someone explain this to me like I'm stupid, please? I don't understand.

No @RuledbyASD it's just over £300 a year in my council tax. No meter.

Think I may have told this one before.....

A friend (not close) phoned me and said as I was a special friend she would like me to go wedding dress shopping with her.
Gave me the date well in advance.

Few weeks later she said she had decided to ask a few other friends to come along also,5 of them,friend and me .

A couple of days later she tells me the wedding dress shopping had moved to a city an hour away.
To cut costs down I could drive them all in my people carrier,go wedding dress shopping ,then I could leave as they had decided to make a night of it so they would stay over and get the train back next day.......she wasnt asking me on the night out as she knew it wasnt my thing (not true)

So realising I was only being asked for the convience of the free lift I pretended to agree with these arrangments.
I was going to text her night before and pretend to be ill .....maybe a shitty thing to do but I hate being used.
Never got the chance as the trip got cancelled for some reason I cant remember.

@LittleSilverBird

2 women went for the same job, and woman 1 in her interview/CV gave lots of good ideas that the company liked. But she didnt get the job.

Woman 2 got the job, and the company asked her to use the ideas they liked from woman 1. Ruddy cheek. So woman 2 contacted woman 1 to ask for more info about her ideas !!

Then @Puzzledandpissedoff has said that fake job interviews are a front for asking interviewees for their ideas for the company - then the interviewers keep the ideas they hear and use them, without offering any jobs

Thank you, bloggers!
So cheeky, the first part and the second part is shocking. What an awful way to waste people's time!

My husband has a ladder...

During gale force winds a neighbours phones and said his aerial has come off the chimney and is swinging about down the gable end.
Could my husband come round immediately with the ladder and cut the aerial down because he was worried it would blow off and injure someone.
My husband had to explain why he wasnt getting up a ladder during gale force winds.

I was travelling in New Zealand with my boyfriend and when we moved to Queenstown, we rented a room in one guy's house. We signed a rental agreement (really just an informal bit of paper saying we need to give 2 weeks notice, keep the place tidy, etc) and paid a month's rent in advance as a deposit. We lived there happily for 3 months or so, then the guy told us that he had friends arriving in 3 weeks to stay for a while, so unfortunately he'd have to ask us to leave.

We found another room to rent within a few days and told him we were going by the end of the week. He said he was keeping our deposit then because we hadn't given him 2 weeks notice! Um, you gave US notice, mate!

We took him to the small claims court and they found in our favour and made him give us our deposit back The new room we moved to was actually much nicer than the previous one anyway so he actually did us a favour in the end!