Family fall out over a coffee table!

[PoppyBean]

I purchased a solid oak coffee table from my SIL about 4 years ago. She said she was getting rid, I said I loved it and asked how much she wanted for it, she wanted £30 so I paid and took my table.

I've just moved house and now have a toddler, my new lounge is an L shape and the coffee table doesn't really work anywhere in the room so I decided to sell it. I didn't really want to sell it as I still love it but it just doesn't fit. I done some research to see what's it's worth and what similar items are selling for and I sold it for £150.

SIL is fuming, says I've taken advantage and asked if i intend to share the profit. I said I paid the price you wanted you could of sold it yourself. I hadn't bought it to sell for profit and I'd be keeping it if it fit in my room but it doesn't.

Now my brother has text saying I've really upset her and she's shocked and disappointed at my greed.

SIL gifted me some baby items when my child was born. As they were gifted I asked what she wanted to do with them when I'd finished with them, she asked for some things back and said she wasn't bothered about the rest. I gave them away.

I think there's a huge difference between something you've been given as a gift, even if second hand and something you paid for so I don't feel like I have done anything wrong here.

Who is being unreasonable? Should I share the profit?

@poppybean I get your point completely and your sil is just being grabby and your brother is also being a dick. Keep your profit and no longer engage with them or stick up for them. You have done plenty for them in the past. I think she was cheeky to have sold the table to you rather than just giving it to you when you have taken the time to do her hair and nails for free, which I hope you will no longer offer to do, she can pay full price from now on.

Maybe 1 last hair colour.
Green.
Then Ltb.
*lose the bitch.
They are both Cfers...

After this message, I think you will be a mug to keep doing it for them. Some people never stop being cheeky fuckers.

Wow. Sounds like they deserve each other

Fuck that. Personally I'd reply ok well i can give you the share of the profit when you pay me for 10 years' worth of hair and nails

The fact they're family is a red herring.
Anyone else and this would be in the CF thread.

Sorry for your shit family.

Maybe a reply along the lines of...

'Yes, I havent done SiL hair/nails for a while but I had for the previous (insert number of years). I am disappointed you have disregarded all those times I have. Sometimes favours become expectation and I think that has happened here. Am sure you understand that I will no longer be doing those things for SiL going forward'

If I were your SIL I'd think Well Done You. £30 isn't much money and neither is £150 in the grand scheme of things. Half the time it's more trouble than it's worth to sell something anyway. Don't give it another thought OP.

Sorry I’m with your SIL. If I bought it from a stranger than of course, profit is mine. But from a family member absolutely I’d split it, especially if they’ve gifted me baby items too.

They just sound like horrible people. Their obviously a good match though, grabby and grabbier.

You've done her hair more recently than you bought the coffee table off her!

Never do it for free again OP, they've burnt this bridge, do not cave when they start saying how unfair you're being.

@Thisisworsethananticpated

What’s more important? Family or £60

According to the OP's SIL and DB £60 is more important than family.

Well it is a valid point regardless of COVID because you have previously done it on average 2 x per month for x years. If you tot it up it's probably a fair amount. Your brother is being very cheeky.

Funny how you didn't research how much you should pay for it in the first place, but just happen to do this when selling it.
YABU.

Oh god his reply would make me see red.

So you haven't done her nails for a year, and that now means its no longer valid and not something you can be compensated for. But a coffee table that you received over 3 years ago, is still something they can have a claim on and receive a payout for?

Right...

I'd be pointing out that bullshit logic.

His reply was that I haven't done her hair for almost a year so it's not really a valid point.

Christ. A year of not doing her hair cancels out 9 years of doing her hair for free? He's deluded.

Your only mistake was telling them you made a profit on the table.

I'm guessing maths isn't the strongest subject for either your brother or his wife.

@bloodyhairy

Funny how you didn't research how much you should pay for it in the first place, but just happen to do this when selling it. YABU.

Oh come off it. It's not as if the OP did that at the time of buying to con her SIL. It's perfectly normal to have a look at the price of similar items when selling online before listing said item. That SIL didn't do that and sold it to the OP whilst having her nails done for free by the OP.

You must be the SIL.

'True, but that doesn't take into account the years before that. Historically, I have given my services for free, and would normally continue to do so once it is safe to do so. That said, this whole incident has given me a reason to reconsider this. I prefer not to give up my time for people who think so badly of me.

By selling something, legally, you lose the right to determine what happens to it after that point. By exchanging cash for the table, I became it rightful owner and in charge of it from there on. The fact that I have had it for four years and sold it for legitimate reasons have no bearing on the situation. I could have sold it the next day, if I had wished to.

However, £60 just isn't worth this aggravation. If the money was for the children, then I would rather put this money into an account for the children myself.'

Determine if they already have accounts, if not, you will open for them.

Your latest update is awful OP..... Your brother really is a grabby git along with his wife isn't he!!

So because you've not done a load of free services for her for a year (when it would have been mostly illegal during that time due to lockdown) it means the 9 years free before that doesn't count..... But the thing you were SOLD 4 years ago they still want to lay claim to?! Ridiculous!

I'm glad you're standing up for yourself and do not do anything for her again without full pay up front!!!

The fact they've picked out the one year you haven't done it over the ten you have speaks volumes about who they are. The last year has been beyond everyone's control.
If she asks to have her hair done then state a price when arranging it. She's a cheeky cow

You're within your rights. But it's a bit mean. Sorry!

I don’t think you are grabby OP.

There’s USUALLY issues when someone gives, lends or in your case sold for cheap an item. Then if you give it away or sell it it’s a HUGE problem!!

It’s best to keep things separate to save all of this.

I definitely wouldn’t expect money from SIL but I can see how she thinks it’s a bit cheeky... her expecting money is cheeky too because she was getting rid of the coffee table to be fair.

If he's using the excuse of a year then why are they bitching about a coffee table that sold 3 years ago!

Tbh it sounds like you won't win, you can't argue with stupid. I'd give them 50% of the profit and next time she wants her hair or nails done make sure you charge her.

I'm a total capitalist, but that doesn't extend to your family!

Who did she find out you sold it?

I would just split the profit with hear.

@Theunamedcat

Send her the money but don't do her hair and nails cheap in the future

You reap what you sow

I agree with this.

If you had sold it in right away she would have a right to be miffed but four years later she needs to get over it. That said, give her the £60 but don't be giving your serves for free anymore.

As a side note op I hope your dps have water tight wills.
I fear they will argue if you get a set of pillow cases more than them.