So upset did i overreact?

[Confused543]

Me and DP were watching Gypsy (series) and theres a scene where she playfully slaps her partners face and says "dont go to my fucking coffee shop". Its meant to be really dark and psychological but for some reason it set us off and we laughed about it. That was yesterday.

So just now I gave DP a light slap (and I did make sure it was light) and said to him "dont go to my fucking coffee shop". Then he slapped me back surprisingly hard. I pulled back and said "ow that hurt" and he did it again! I dont know what happened but it really shocked me and I started crying. Now we arent talking. I feel like a dick. But it also created a weird feeling in me.

I think the PP saying that he was shocked and annoyed by your (stupid, not nice and misjudged) slap. So he did it back, fine(ish). Also stupid and misjudged, but I can see it in context.

But doing it again as PP said was an, actually I'm annoyed you did that and I don't feel I've got my own back enough.

That's not great.

If it'd been me that you slapped I'd have gone, oi, joke or not, no slapping! I wouldn't have slapped you back as tit for tat and I definitely wouldn't have added a punishment one on. That shows a worrying mindset.

err, worrying that he slapped you a second time when he had clearly hurt you the first.

Did you slap him in the face? Because i'd probably slap back too.

Honestly, I think it has moved past the who slapped who moment and saying to the op ‘well, don’t slap then’ is redundant. It’s the resolution now that matters. OP has apologized, attempted to reconcile, and is being shrugged off. This would go into my relationship filing cabinet as ‘not to be forgotten’ and I would not feel trusting or safe with someone who didn’t acknowledge their role in it. I wish you well, @Confused543, and I would be concerned at his inability to accept his overstepping should result in an apology the way you have done.