To not allow DH into our house for 10 days?

[MrsJE]

Opinions needed please.
DH is at work this evening and came across a man who was slumped on the floor and not responding when asked if he was OK.
DH phoned 999 and they asked him to do chest compressions on the person as his breathing was shallow, which DH did until the ambulance arrived.
DH recognises the man as one of the local homeless that sleep near his work and it appears he may have taken spice.
Now, my dilemma is I'm 50yrs old and have spent half my life in and out of hospital with asthma attacks. We still have two children living at home and we are also raising our grandson who has additional needs. DH himself is 52 and has a blood disorder that he is on long term medication for. We have tried to be careful during this pandemic, we're not shielding as DH works in an office (either alone or with one other person at a time) and grandson attends school of a morning as he is classed as vulnerable but, we keep to the rules and do as much as possible to minimise our risk.
I now feel DH should stay in our eldest sons spare room for 10 days but DH thinks I'm being ridiculous.
Am I being unreasonable?

I dont quite understand those saying that the OP is being reasonable. Even if her DH has agreed to isolate, doesn't make her attitude acceptable, just that he doesn't want to argue about it.
I can imagine if an OP had been told by her DH that she wasn't allowed back in the house for two for interacting with someone in need, that after she came into contact with such a traumatic instead of receiving support - her DH had a go at her- there would be uproar, accusations of manipulation, abuse and control.
I doubt those saying , its only up the road would find it acceptable.
I feel very sorry for your DH and do wonder if I would find having such a partner like the OP acceptable.

@MrsJE

Wow some of these replies DH finished his night shift and went to sleep in our eldest sons spare bedroom... he only lives 2 minutes away so DH hasn't had to go out of his way. DH is fine and has now said he is happy to isolate but feels bad for me as I will have our grandson (he has additional needs) to cope with on my own. Apparently a mask was put on the collapsed man by a lady who was there too, my husband had a mask and gloves on and did chest compressions for approximately five minutes when someone else took over for five minutes at which point medical help arrived. I'm still not sure what to do to be honest.

Have you contacted the hospital to see if the man was positive?

Surely that's the obvious thing to do?

I might contact the hospital to ask if the man is ok, rather than to check his Covid status.

@WouldBeGood

I might contact the hospital to ask if the man is ok, rather than to check his Covid status.

They won't tell OP how he is. That's confidential medical information. But they should be able to tell her his Covid status.

Hopefully the homeless person has track and trace

YANBU. Have people gone absolutely insane?

Yes, OPs husband has done something fantastic and I'm sure he feels traumatised by what has happened, but surely losing his asthmatic wife because he couldn't just stay in the spare room for 10 days would be far more traumatic?
I'm not quite sure how we are comparing going to the office or even school with being half a meter away from someone elses face for how long exactly?

OP. I'm a NHS nurse. We have been told to assume everyone is covid positive and not to do CPR or chest compressions until we are in full PPE. I'm a community nurse and have put together a 'kit' of full PPE incase I am in that situation. So people who are saying the OP is bat shit, well she's not really if that's what we've been told. We actually had a session on not doing CPR!!

@saraclara as long as we get the important information

I would do self isolation as well as you can at home, assuming you have a spare bed. You’re DH is a hero but he’s done something risky and you should minimise the chance of it being passed on. I hope DH is ok.

Also my friend was told to do chest compressions once by 999 on a patient she found collapsed as her breathing was very shallow. A few people have said on this thread this isn't the case, but I would think if their resp rate is very low then they'll most likely go into cardiac /respiratory arrest if somethings not done 🤷‍♀️

[quote WouldBeGood]@saraclara as long as we get the important information[/quote]
I'm not sure what you're implying there.

Every one of us is entitled to have our medical condition kept confidential. My mum was rushed into hospital last week, and they wouldn't even tell ME how she was, until the carers who the hospital dealt with on her admission, confirmed who I was and my phone number.

Covid status, however, might well be dealt with differently, as there's a risk to OP's DH.

@SatishTheCat

Read the thread *@mummytolittledragons*

Fuck there’s another one of me!

‘OP. I'm a NHS nurse. We have been told to assume everyone is covid positive and not to do CPR or chest compressions until we are in full PPE. I'm a community nurse and have put together a 'kit' of full PPE incase I am in that situation. So people who are saying the OP is bat shit, well she's not really if that's what we've been told. We actually had a session on not doing CPR!!’

Thanks Tiredmum! I’m open mouthed at the number of people slating OP for being rightfully concerned and for trying to find a way to minimise the risk to herself as she is vulnerable. I’m certain none of those slating her would be PMing her to drop food and essentials around and look after the kids if she ends up posting from her hospital bed next week.

100k dead and they still won’t take this seriously believing that Covid skips past kind and helpful people.

@Tiredmum100

OP. I'm a NHS nurse. We have been told to assume everyone is covid positive and not to do CPR or chest compressions until we are in full PPE. I'm a community nurse and have put together a 'kit' of full PPE incase I am in that situation. So people who are saying the OP is bat shit, well she's not really if that's what we've been told. We actually had a session on not doing CPR!!

It's a shame that the 999 call-handler didn't get that memo when they asked him to do CPR. Or is it one rule for NHS people, and another for the rest of us scum?

People are really waiting to do CPR until they’re in full PPE? Really?

My sister is a sister on a covid ward in Birmingham, and that is absolutely not the case there. Attempt to save the life first, always.

Yes @Ostryga

CPR as explained several times on this thread is an aerosol generating procedure. Defibrillator only until gowned up in full FFP3.

The NHS has a duty of care to its employees as well as its patients.

‘It's a shame that the 999 call-handler didn't get that memo when they asked him to do CPR. Or is it one rule for NHS people, and another for the rest of us scum?’

Yeah. She should have told him to find a plastic apron, a pair of gloves and a paper mask.
In a park.
Absolutely.

Wow op. Just wow. This is a sad thread. YABVVVU

@Doublefaced she’s a ward sister, so no not constantly in full PPE. Obviously

@Playnoh

Wow op. Just wow. This is a sad thread. YABVVVU

Except you haven’t read it all have you FFS

@SatishTheCat

Err yes I have I still think this is sad, and op is BU.

FFS

[quote Ostryga]@Doublefaced she’s a ward sister, so no not constantly in full PPE. Obviously[/quote]
Bullshit

Your sister is in a covid ward without a mask?
And can’t access an apron, a pair of gloves and FFP3s within seconds?
She really needs to escalate that

@Doublefaced

Your sister is in a covid ward without a mask? And can’t access an apron, a pair of gloves and FFP3s within seconds? She really needs to escalate that

My daughter is a ward sister on a Covid ward. She is protected by the same blue mask that people wear to go to Tescos, plus a disposable apron and gloves. They were fitted for FFP2s/3s months ago, but nothing has arrived yet.

And yes, I find that almost unbelieveable too. But it's true. I'm really worried for everyone on her ward. Infection control visited last week, but still didn't seem ready to send anything else.