Can't come to terms with my husband's affair

[jusstme]

My husband had an affair with an ex Co worker, she too was married. It started in 2010 and he was still involved with her when I accidentally came across the very explicit email exchanges between them, he says it wasn't an affair because they only had sex 6-7 times, as distance and work made it difficult to meet up, the workplace where they began the affair closed in 2011, but they were in constant touch by email, and he drove up to see her a few times, went too her house a couple of times as her husband does constant night shifts, I know, sickening. Our children are grown now. It's just him and I in the house now, been married 37 years, I can honestly say I never in a million years thought he would do this to me, I'm hurt, angry, humiliated and I know I can never forgive him for destroying our marriage. He seems to think I should just stop talking about it, and get on with our lives.

[EveryDayIsADuvetDay]

think about what you want most
get copies/details of all assets, including pensions
speak to a solicitor about best way forward - even if you decide you don't want to leave, best to pay to be assured of your legal rights and financial position if you did.

[jusstme]

Emotionally, yes, wouldn't expect them to support me financially though, wouldn't ask them to.

[30mph]

Are there any assets? House? Pension? Savings?

[LadyEloise]

It's great the children are onside and will support you emotionally.