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DSS and disgusting habit

238 replies

TheSpottedDog · 24/01/2021 13:38

DSS (22) has a habit of performance farting. I hate farting at the best of times but he literally walks around cocking his leg and farting, squatting and farting, bending over and sticking his bum out to fart, star jumping and farting, legs akimbo on the sofa farting ... it fucking irritates me. When DH and I first got together he used to laugh at him (he was 15 then) and I spoke with him and told him it really bothered me and I find it disrespectful. We had an argument over it but eventually he saw my point and would ask him to stop when he did it. He toned it down for a while but then started it up again. Whenever he comes over I just end up going upstairs to get away from him because it winds me up so much.
The only good thing about lockdown is that he hasn’t been coming over on Saturday nights and I’m absolutely dreading the return of this shit.

AIBU to tell DH that his son is almost 23 years old now and if he can’t stop himself acting like a young child I’d rather him not come over?

OP posts:
Cheeserton · 24/01/2021 16:20

The fake being unable to get boots off thing though, presumably a trap for DH - bravo. He puts effort in at least.

SnowyPetals · 24/01/2021 16:20

I am having this exact problem with my son at the moment too. But, oh yeah, he's 8.....

Cairnterrorist · 24/01/2021 16:23

My ex used to do this.

He still does.

He’s 55.

He thinks it’s hilarious.

No idea what anyone can do when it’s a grown up.

Wheresmykimchi · 24/01/2021 16:26

@peak2021

I don't think it should be 'rather not come over'. It should be 'does not come over again' if there is a repeat. At 22 he has no legal right to be in the house.
Oh get a grip.
billy1966 · 24/01/2021 16:26

OP,

Your Step son clearly has zero respect for himself or you but also that you have to have the conversation repeatedly would be a deal breaker for most women.

Why are you allowing the men in your life treat you so poorly.

Tell your husband his disgusting son is no longer welcome due to his behavior and that he is to see his son at another venue.

You have been too accommodating.

Be firm.
Show him that you will not be accepting a resumption of this behaviour.

Personally I would find a man with such a moron of a son, unattractive.

Flowers
2bazookas · 24/01/2021 16:28

Why on earth do you put up with his father allowing such behaviour?

pictish · 24/01/2021 16:29

This thread is making ME want to star jump and fart.

Cairnterrorist · 24/01/2021 16:30

You can’t order him out of the house if his dad wants him there.

Thehop · 24/01/2021 16:31

I’d be going upstairs before he arrives.

Wheresmykimchi · 24/01/2021 16:32

@2bazookas

Why on earth do you put up with his father allowing such behaviour?
Because she's not his boss!

Aw man. I would rather spend time with farting boot pulling DSS than some of these posters. Make him leave the house indeed.

KarensChoppyBob · 24/01/2021 16:32

Pics or it didn't happen Pictish Grin

Emeraldshamrock · 24/01/2021 16:35

Disgusting and immature.

BaggoMcoys · 24/01/2021 16:36

@RedToothBrush

He wouldn't do it if he didn't get a reaction...

... just saying

I'm not so sure. I used to hear my ex (as I said in a previous post, he is 43 years old) fart and then laugh about it when he was in a room by himself unaware he could be overheard.
GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 24/01/2021 16:38

Have a lighter ready and ignite them - with a bit of luck a singed arse or at least singed jeans, might change his behaviour.

tara66 · 24/01/2021 16:41

Ask for a refund from his charm school.

CheesePleaz · 24/01/2021 16:41

Am I the only one that finds the OP's description of a man star jumping, scissor kicking and pirouetting his way around the house with a steady stream of musical parps slightly funny?

Was I the only South Park fan in the late 1990s?

DinosaurDiana · 24/01/2021 16:42

Maybe he does it to get you to go upstairs ?

Smallonesaremorejuicy · 24/01/2021 16:45

😷🤮💩

Yohoheaveho · 24/01/2021 16:52

Male dominance behaviour:(
Trying to dominate the household by using farts to mark the place as his territory, treating you like a subordinate for whom he doesnt have to be polite & civil
urgh:(

Cheeserton · 24/01/2021 16:54

@CheesePleaz

No, you're not. Perhaps it's something to do with our names. While it'shnot aalways funny when someone vcuts the cheese' the descriptions here were indeed pretty funny.

Livpool · 24/01/2021 17:03

DS is 5 and isn't that bad. That is revolting

MissyB1 · 24/01/2021 17:04

It’s definitely arrogant/ dominant behaviour. He’s trying to show OP that no one can tell him what to do.
The immature brat needs putting in his place.

Dddccc · 24/01/2021 17:06

Sounds like he does it as he knows you will leave the room so he gets dad time without you

grapewine · 24/01/2021 17:08

@TheSpottedDog

Yes he’s single.

I’m glad it’s not me over reacting

You're really not. How disgusting. He's getting some payoff from this, probably enjoys seeing you upset and annoyed. It's not pleasant.
Yohoheaveho · 24/01/2021 17:09

he's deffo enjoying making you feel uncomfortable OP, and the fact his dad colludes with this only heightens his pleasure