DSS and disgusting habit

[TheSpottedDog]

DSS (22) has a habit of performance farting. I hate farting at the best of times but he literally walks around cocking his leg and farting, squatting and farting, bending over and sticking his bum out to fart, star jumping and farting, legs akimbo on the sofa farting ... it fucking irritates me. When DH and I first got together he used to laugh at him (he was 15 then) and I spoke with him and told him it really bothered me and I find it disrespectful. We had an argument over it but eventually he saw my point and would ask him to stop when he did it. He toned it down for a while but then started it up again. Whenever he comes over I just end up going upstairs to get away from him because it winds me up so much.
The only good thing about lockdown is that he hasn’t been coming over on Saturday nights and I’m absolutely dreading the return of this shit.

AIBU to tell DH that his son is almost 23 years old now and if he can’t stop himself acting like a young child I’d rather him not come over?

Oh my god, set up a Tinder account for him, and in the bio put "I shit myself for fun"

Maybe a lavender air freshener sprayed as the op leaves the room would be suitable

Honestly this wouldn't happen in my social circles

You've clearly never spent any time with public school boys 😆

hahhaahahaha... stinky lil devil. His amusement comes from your displeasure. Try to ignore him, and he'll stop it. Eventually. Hopefully.

YABU to tell your husband he can’t have his son around his house regardless of his age.

I would not be leaving the room in my own house, he would, permanently. This is akin to peeing on your carpets and shows his contempt for you. I can't believe what some people are prepared to put up with.

Yes, this behaviour is like 'marking' his territory.
He knows it annoys you and it successfully drives you from the room.
It is clearly a ploy to disrupt your relationship with your dh.
Totally unacceptable from a 22yr old.
It needs to be discussed with you all.

What a little scumbag. People who performance fart and think it's oh-so-hilarious are fucking thick in general so you most likely won't get through to him.

My dad used to do this (he's a thick scumbag too) Mostly to wind my mum up. It's hugely disrespectful. Thankfully she divorced him, I'd be doing the equivalent here if your delightful SS doesn't stop his displays. Tell him straight, in front of your husband. You find it incredibly rude and disrespectful and if he doesn't stop you don't want him in your house.

I would "threaten" him with a medical appointment to investigate a possibly "very serious" digestive tract complaint (complete with endoscopy etc.).
There must be something very amiss if he has all this wind ;-)

That is disgusting.

It’s pathetic. He’s 22. I doubt he’s going to stop because anyone with a brain knows you don’t do this. Ergo, he’s stupid and you will have to lay it out that he’s not welcome and why.

Maybe he does it rather than to show contempt but because OP shows so much contempt for him.

The boots example is pathetic. How dare man and son have a laugh in their own home?

That's absolutely vile.