DSS and disgusting habit

[TheSpottedDog]

DSS (22) has a habit of performance farting. I hate farting at the best of times but he literally walks around cocking his leg and farting, squatting and farting, bending over and sticking his bum out to fart, star jumping and farting, legs akimbo on the sofa farting ... it fucking irritates me. When DH and I first got together he used to laugh at him (he was 15 then) and I spoke with him and told him it really bothered me and I find it disrespectful. We had an argument over it but eventually he saw my point and would ask him to stop when he did it. He toned it down for a while but then started it up again. Whenever he comes over I just end up going upstairs to get away from him because it winds me up so much.
The only good thing about lockdown is that he hasn’t been coming over on Saturday nights and I’m absolutely dreading the return of this shit.

AIBU to tell DH that his son is almost 23 years old now and if he can’t stop himself acting like a young child I’d rather him not come over?

This isn't normal i couldn't be doing with this shit I'd honestly say he ain't coming over do you have other kids?

Film him every time and and tell him you are saving the footage for when he has a girlfriend.

I’ve actually read your post twice, so your SS did this at 15, and you had an argument with his father over it then, and he asked him to stop, but now still carries on almost 23!! I think you have a problem with SS and Dh

I love a good fart and find them funny but this behaviour is rank. I too thought he was under the age of 10. My ds has just turned 6 and accidentally farted in front of a visitor (emergency services visitor due to emergency before anyone starts) and he was giggling but embarrassed and
apologised as he knew that it's not something you do in front of anyone outside of our little circle unless you really can't help it. I'm someone who couldn't fart in front of a boyfriend and considering I have ibs then I'm glad I'm single

It's your reaction that keeps him doing it. Especially if he successfully makes you go away.
I think you're being over the top tbh. I would just ignore it.

@TheSpottedDog

Yes nearly 23. He’s incredibly immature, wasn’t that long ago that he made out he couldn’t get his new boots off so DH had to help him. A grown man sat there giggling whilst another man tugs at his boots. It’s fucking surreal.

On this one, lighten up OP

It is a fetish and it would creep me out. I would not be under the same roof as a man who did this.

I didn't think it was that big a deal, unless it always really stinks.I also don't really see the issue with helping someone whose boots have got stuck on?? I certainly wouldn't think it was ok to kick him out the house unless it's only your house, your DH is allowed to have his son round surely even if you're not that keen on him. You don't have to appreciate his behaviour but it's your DH's son whatever his age so you do at least have to tolerate him IMO. If you didn't like the son you shouldn't have got with his dad.

That really made me laugh!

He wouldn't do it if he didn't get a reaction...

... just saying

Stick a laxative in his tea.

@RedToothBrush

He wouldn't do it if he didn't get a reaction...

... just saying

You need to meet my BIL.

56 years old and still does similar stuff.

His wife left him

His DSis has now given up on him

DH gave up years ago

and still... he does thos e little things that were supposedly funny when he was 14 or 15. Those horrid little behaviours are all he has. He honestly thinks it is endearing, amusing, an integral part of who he is!

You have to save them young! 23 may be too late.

i'm with the others - film him doing it and put it on social media or by a water pistol or an air horn.

Why does he come to your home every Saturday night? Thats very unusual for adult children. Where are his mates and girlfriend?

What a lot of fuss about nothing. He’s winding you up and it works. Stop giving him an audience and ignore it.

I havent voted as whilst I think YANBU in being repulsed by this, the image of him star-jumping and farting at the same time has really made me laugh. Sorry - I expect after years of this, it really isnt funny for you but your description has made me

@InglouriousBasterd

My cousin used to do this until he released a little too much and shat his pants. He stopped after that....!

Pleas tell me he wasn't 22!!!

I laughed at that too.

And you can’t ban your husband’s son from coming over because of his performance farting. Don’t be silly.

Oh yes, ex BIL loved to inform us when he'd followed through 🤢.

I was dealing with my own baby's nappies then. Don't know who he thought he was impressing.

That was @inglouriousBasterd.

I would point out in a pitying tone that nobody will ever want to have sex with him if he keeps doing this.

You need to perfect your performance farting and retaliate every time he does one or tell him every time he does it in a communal area, you will fart on his pillow

The star jump fart is genius though!

I've got a friend whose brother used to do this and loud belches as an adult. We once went to an ASK restaurant with her family and the people at the neighbouring table complained to the staff about him doing loud belches in the restaurant. Their parents were trying to make out the neighbouring table were being unreasonable and complaining about nothing! The women in the family would never have done it but they were the type of family which were much more tolerant of men doing whatever they wanted than women.

Ha

I’d open my legs akimbo and Fanny fart. Equally embarrassing. Equally womanly!

I can’t do it on command though.....