Child in the supermarket?

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Whipituntilitpeaks · 22/01/2021 08:51

Just curious, do you take your child/children with you when you go food shopping?
I’m currently a Sahm to my toddler Dd and always used go go early on a Monday morning, when barely anyone was there.
During the first lockdown, we stopped going and Dp would go on a Saturday morning.
Dp works Mon-Fri and often was there for hours queuing up etc, but back then he was the only one of us that went out (aside from walks in our field)
When it calmed down a little, I went back to doing it with my Dd, do you take yours?
For us, it helps dp as he obviously doesn’t mind at all, but after a long week at work, it’s not fun to do the big shop. It’s also some kind of normality in mine and DD’s life, but I’ve started to feel a bit worried about it. We’re not in the U.K. but cases are around the same number one more or less and some of my friends don’t take theirs into any shops
Aibu to still take her shopping or should dp or myself go alone on the weekend?

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MammaSchwifty · 23/01/2021 22:29

one member of the family going shopping when it's busiest at the weekend makes no sense from a risk point of view, it's safer for two of you to go at a quiet time. However, it's safest of all if only one of you goes at a quiet time... how about in the evening after bedtime?

Celestine70 · 23/01/2021 22:53

I think it's fine that you take her. Maybe you can shop in the evening and leave dd with your partner.

Norwayreally · 23/01/2021 23:00

Unless you’re a single parent with no other option, your DC shouldn’t be going to the shop with you. You or your DH should go alone at the weekend.

Glitterblue · 23/01/2021 23:08

I don't personally take mine, she stays with DH while I shop. I don't tend to take her even in normal times, it's not an enjoyable activity. Obviously if I had no other choice I'd take her.

CatNoBag · 24/01/2021 10:06

It sounds far more sensible for you to go when it's quiet than for one of you to go when the supermarket is at its busiest. Your DD is sitting safely in the trolley (which you can wipe down or spray before putting her in there presumably?) and not running around wildly. If one member of your household catches it, presumably you'll all catch it. The risk of both spreading it and catching it are going to be increased by going when the place is packed as opposed to more or less empty so that's by far the best option and anyone who says differently is seriously lacking in the brain department!

Rhumatoidwarrior88 · 24/01/2021 12:14

If you and your daughter are shopping safely and responsibly and the reason is it helps you both mentally then go . If you can handle and manage not going then don't go. Also not saying this is your situation but my DV victims are forced to take their children due to home conditions I give lots of freedom to women shopping alone with their kids because I genuinely don't know their situation. And even if a handful of women take this for granted should be ashamed of themselves but I'm not gonna shame them because it's got to be a small sacrifice in comparison to thoose who's homelife it makes easier. Just shop safely and responsibly . Don't pick items up unless your gonna buy them . Hand sanitize . Wear a mask and keep a distance .

Blondeshavemorefun · 24/01/2021 17:28

@Norwayreally

Unless you’re a single parent with no other option, your DC shouldn’t be going to the shop with you. You or your DH should go alone at the weekend.

This

Beverley71 · 24/01/2021 18:27

Personally I would continue to go on a Monday morning with your child firmly by your side or in the trolly. It the quietist so the safest. My hubby caught Covid two weeks ago nipping into Sainsbury’s on a Saturday morning to buy a chicken

Beverley71 · 24/01/2021 18:28

@CatNoBag

Not necessarily....hubby has had it but not me or the kids, and he hasn’t isolated from us at all

Brockaslass · 25/01/2021 19:36

I need to take mine, he's 8 and he is a young carer I rely on his help when shopping and his dad's disability means I'm unable to take him into a shop as he is literally unable to budget, unable to understand sociali distancing or personal space and is partially deaf and if anything just gets in my way and hinders me when shopping. My son can shop in some shops alone but during lockdown I've limited that to our local shop because I know the owner will make sure nobody gets too close because of the risk to my health and limits people going in to two at a time. But in other shops such as Iceland or Asda I need him to push a trolley, reach shelves, deep freezers etc due to my wheelchair and partial paralysis. He also makes most card transactions if they are over £45 because a lot of folk are reluctant to pass the card machine over now to avoid touching it unecessarily. He always sanatises, wears a mask etc. I also sometimes struggle to communicate at times due to my condition causing a slurred speech. My son is the one who always explains that he is a young carer and needs to be with me and explains if asked about my own mask excemption. Without him during this pandemic I'd be screwed. Yes I have managed to buy limited items online but despite been priority I have struggled to get. A delivery slot when needed and I'm unable to buy some of my food online due to allergies as well as the fact that I live in a area with limited home delivery options.

DenisetheMenace · 25/01/2021 21:01

Brockaslass

Your son is incredible.

Bumblebee1980a · 10/02/2021 21:43

Go with your Dd. She needs a change of scenery too. I don't make it a regular thing but if I need to go and DS needs to get out then yes I would take him x

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