Child in the supermarket?

[Whipituntilitpeaks]

Just curious, do you take your child/children with you when you go food shopping?
I’m currently a Sahm to my toddler Dd and always used go go early on a Monday morning, when barely anyone was there.
During the first lockdown, we stopped going and Dp would go on a Saturday morning.
Dp works Mon-Fri and often was there for hours queuing up etc, but back then he was the only one of us that went out (aside from walks in our field)
When it calmed down a little, I went back to doing it with my Dd, do you take yours?
For us, it helps dp as he obviously doesn’t mind at all, but after a long week at work, it’s not fun to do the big shop. It’s also some kind of normality in mine and DD’s life, but I’ve started to feel a bit worried about it. We’re not in the U.K. but cases are around the same number one more or less and some of my friends don’t take theirs into any shops
Aibu to still take her shopping or should dp or myself go alone on the weekend?

Where do people live that there are absolutely no people in the streets or paths?

We can all have a judo practice with our kids, for example. Put them in the kit, and have them training. Even have a video call with mates from the class

Ok so even if I could get my 3 daughter to do that (baby ballet on zoom was a shit show), and even if I could ignore the requests for going to so and sos house after a zoom call with them, that still leaves 10 further hours in the day (excluding meal time’s) I have to fill entertaining.

To conclude people vehemently against kids in supermarkets: either child free or have grown up children and can’t comprehend how fucking awful being home all day is and how much we are all sick of sodding parks!

[quote hollyangel]@lweji Go and read all the data available here, it might make it all a bit clearer to you:

www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/deaths/bulletins/deathsregisteredweeklyinenglandandwalesprovisional/weekending1january2021#deaths-registered-by-age-group

Nearly 75 percent of deaths are over 75.

Risks to children are absolutely minimal.

I have considered the risk and realised that my family is at far greater risk by staying at home.

If I were vulnerable, or my family was vulnerable. I would stay at home.

[/quote]
Try looking up "long covid". It affects people of all ages who have had covid, even very mild cases. Death isn't the only issue to worry about from this virus.

Your last sentences about only staying at home if either you or your family were vulnerable is appalling. Everyone needs to follow the guidance in order to reduce the risk of death/long covid for everyone, and help to get things back to normal asap.

@Lweji

Where do people live that there are absolutely no people in the streets or paths?

My DD will no longer tolerate walks unless we are walking somewhere with a purpose. Endless walks for the sake of walks are getting very tedious.

I go in the evening at about 7pm, once a week (I do ours and an elderly neighbour’s shop) - my dh sorts out bedtime and I have a peaceful mooch around Tesco. It’s the highlight of my week as otherwise it’s one of 3 walks with my dd around our village!

@Whipituntilitpeaks

Just curious, do you take your child/children with you when you go food shopping? I’m currently a Sahm to my toddler Dd and always used go go early on a Monday morning, when barely anyone was there. During the first lockdown, we stopped going and Dp would go on a Saturday morning. Dp works Mon-Fri and often was there for hours queuing up etc, but back then he was the only one of us that went out (aside from walks in our field) When it calmed down a little, I went back to doing it with my Dd, do you take yours? For us, it helps dp as he obviously doesn’t mind at all, but after a long week at work, it’s not fun to do the big shop. It’s also some kind of normality in mine and DD’s life, but I’ve started to feel a bit worried about it. We’re not in the U.K. but cases are around the same number one more or less and some of my friends don’t take theirs into any shops Aibu to still take her shopping or should dp or myself go alone on the weekend?

"Its not fun to do the big shop"

Its not nice having Covid either

Its not nice having Covid either

No one said it was ffa. Statistically going with her toddler she is actually less likely to catch it because there will be fewer people in the shop at that time. However don't let a small thing like facts get in the way of a sly dig.

My DD will no longer tolerate walks unless we are walking somewhere with a purpose. Endless walks for the sake of walks are getting very tedious.

God yes. I'm lucky in that DS was always a really good walker, could walk a couple of miles to a museum or into town at 2ish which is great obviously. But now he won't walk at all. If I suggest walking a decent way now he just won't. He says everywhere is too far and I'm not surprised really because we're not going anywhere. Just walking for the sake of it. He barely runs any more too. I try to run with him to make it fun but he just mopes around. I don't play the right games or say the right things. We saw a little girl in our park a few weeks ago and they played together so happily for 10 minutes or so and he was running all over, but we haven't seen her since. It's crap. So yeah, no wonder I take him to the supermarket to chat about things and say hello to people (from 2 metres)

I know what Long Covid is. Look up Post Viral Syndrome. Also a thing. Always has been.

Why is it awful to say if I was vulnerable I would stay at home? I have never understood why it's acceptable to make EVERYONE stay at home, but suggest only the vulnerable stay at home and people act like you're evil. What's the difference?

I have never understood why it's acceptable to make EVERYONE stay at home, but suggest only the vulnerable stay at home and people act like you're evil. What's the difference?

Really? You can't tell the difference?

Do you not get why everyone has to stay at home now?

It would be my last resort. You have options.

@Learningtobehappier Yes, I know, I’m
still suffering 10 months later with it. If you read my posts you’d see we’ve had it. It really isn’t nice, but me taking my Dd early on a Monday morning with only a handful of people in a large supermarket is unlikely to put anyone at risk any more than either myself or my partner going on a Saturday morning crammed in with a LOT of people. I was posting to see people’s views about weighing up which option overall is better.

@formerbabe @TheOtherMaryBerry All the same here, I’m becoming really worried for children in this situation 😢

I went to
Asda today collect my order and the amount of families , couples shopping was unbelievable.
Morrisons by us are a lot stricter on the one person shopping and I do wonder with todays news if more may get stricter , when clearly many are just doing what they like.

@lweji At what point would you refuse to stay at home any longer? Another 3 months? Another 6 months? A year? Or would you just stay home indefinitely?

They're already preparing us for the fact that not much will change after the vaccine has been administered as they don't think it will stop transmission.

There are murmurings now that new strains won't work with the vaccine either.

At what point do we have to realise deaths, mental illness, domestic abuse, child neglect/ abuse and many other negative things happen when you force people to stay at home for months on end.

@hollyangel How can not much change though? Nothing will survive financially etc if we just continue like this, until when?

I don’t really see the relevance of all the posts about child development and the rights and wrongs of lockdowns. It’s a very simple question. OP’s local Covid rules mean that people who work Monday-Friday have limited windows for shopping so the supermarkets are very busy in those periods. So should the OP go to the supermarket by herself at a very busy time or should she go with her toddler at a quiet time?

Obviously the answer is that she should go with her toddler at a quiet time.

@Whipituntilitpeaks

I hope I'm totally wrong and once people are vaccinated it will all go back to normal. But I'm very cynical after being told in March this would just be for two weeks.

[quote SpaceBlanket]@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants I'm guessing you've never tried to push an overloaded 3-wheeled double buggy up a hill - it tips backwards! It's not a shopping trolley![/quote]
You'd be guessing wrong. Out & about. Single & double. They don't tip
If you put the weight in the seats not hanging off the handles.

@hollyangel I know...but what aim will it achieve? If everyone then is much safer 🤷🏻‍♀️

[quote Whipituntilitpeaks]@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants We can do that, but during the first lockdown decided to make it only one of us having contact with ‘The outside world’ as it were[/quote]
Why? Each risk is a completely different risk, so what difference does it make? Which one of you takes it?

Can you order online and get a click and collect slot? Perhaps after work one evening mid week?

@Hugoslavia They don’t do that in the country I live in, only IKEA initially did..I wish they did 🙏

@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants Because be still went out to work each day and would go to the shop once per week. I had covid

*long covid