Child in the supermarket?

[Whipituntilitpeaks]

Just curious, do you take your child/children with you when you go food shopping?
I’m currently a Sahm to my toddler Dd and always used go go early on a Monday morning, when barely anyone was there.
During the first lockdown, we stopped going and Dp would go on a Saturday morning.
Dp works Mon-Fri and often was there for hours queuing up etc, but back then he was the only one of us that went out (aside from walks in our field)
When it calmed down a little, I went back to doing it with my Dd, do you take yours?
For us, it helps dp as he obviously doesn’t mind at all, but after a long week at work, it’s not fun to do the big shop. It’s also some kind of normality in mine and DD’s life, but I’ve started to feel a bit worried about it. We’re not in the U.K. but cases are around the same number one more or less and some of my friends don’t take theirs into any shops
Aibu to still take her shopping or should dp or myself go alone on the weekend?

I only avoid going with a child because mine would be a fucking nightmare and okay up the whole time. I would take her otherwise.

Have you thought of getting a home delivery instead if you are worried? We put a monthly fee and you can book as many slots as needed with Tesco. So much easier

But they're not prioritised in any way...

I am a SAHM and my husband does our weekly shop of an evening after he finishes work.
He says the evening are much better than the weekends.

@VinylDetective

Go at the weekend. Kids shouldn’t be in shops at the moment.

In Waitrose a girl of about 11 was rushing about giggling.../then picking up ice cream containers, licking them, putting them back, picking up others, flapping her tongue all over them like a dog might...

Mother took zero notice.

Waitrose staff were reluctant to intervene.

Revolting.

I appreciate your post is offering alternatives. My dd’s are 3 and 5....I think in this situation it’s important they have routine and hence taking them to a supermarket at 7 would be after their bedtime. I know foodbanks are available, however I am in employment and I work from home and can afford to feed my children without this help fortunately. Please don’t think because a woman doesn’t have a husband at home, she can’t feed her children.

No, my DH goes on a Saturday early morning on his own. There's no reason for the child to go if one of the parents can stay with them

@Overdale

I think its the little darlings that are spreading covid :)

So do I...

Asymptomatic, not keeping distance, living with older people...

my local Morrison's let anyone in, whole familys on what looks like a "jolly", don't need a mask, don't need to wear it properly if you have one, I don't go to my local Morrison's anymore!!

Well let’s just shoot all the kids!

@janj2301

my local Morrison's let anyone in, whole familys on what looks like a "jolly", don't need a mask, don't need to wear it properly if you have one, I don't go to my local Morrison's anymore!!

Wonder if this is why it is spreading hard and fast in some areas?

People not giving a shit?

My husband wfh and I take the 3 yo in the pram to the outdoor market on a Friday and to a few other shops which we spend under 10 minutes and they are fairly big shops and aren’t busy when we go. I use the pram basket below to carry things because it’s too much for me to carry on my own and I don’t drive. I can’t have my husband watching our son while he’s working nor does he have the time to go himself. By time he’s finished, the market is over and that shop sorts us out for the week, saves us money on fruit and veg, supports a local business and is my exercise for the day.

I seem to have s different view to most people here. I think it's foolish to take the risk of going on a busy day like Saturday when it's crowded when you could go at a quiet time in the week. Depending on the age and behaviour of the child if they are in a disinfected trolley seat, or walking next to you, in a very quiet supermarket there is little risk. There is no point you or DP going at a busy time and catching it as a result, you'll all probably get it then.

I don't take mine. I usually shop early and my dh gets their breakfast and I'm back before he starts work. Or I go late in the evening when they're in bed. It works for us but obviously wouldn't work for everyone. Dont get me wrong, turning out at 8pm to do the shopping is rubbish, especially now its cold and dark.

@Buddytheelf85

I can’t believe this thread is 14 pages long.

The OP has a choice between going to the supermarket with her toddler at a quiet time or going by herself at a very busy time. Those are her two choices.

It sounds from the way the OP has described the rules in her area that anyone who can avoid doing their shopping at the weekend should, as a courtesy to working people who don’t have an option.

Clearly it is safer, both for her and for other shoppers, for her to go at a quieter time, and that means taking her toddler.

Absolutely this.

If you need to then you need to, obviously the shop alone rule doesn’t apply to small children.

We get deliveries but if I need a mini top up shop I take DD, with chocolate as bribe, Peppa on my phone and we’re in and out as quick as we can (sometimes it’s the highlight of the day being out where there’s other people and things to look at)

I did see a Tesco challenge people going in pairs last week so some stores are enforcing the rules.

I'm a single parent so I have no choice but to take my Dd with me, she is only 10 months old but loves being there with me and is constantly smiling while we are shopping, I've tried to get delivery slots but it's extremely difficult where I am to get one as they seem to get picked up so fast

Surely toddlers just sit in the trolly? My grandson lives with me and I take him shopping to get him out of the house and learn about food etc.

I'd take her, and go when its quieter in the week - that is less risky than a weekend when everyone is there jam packed in, chatting away in the aisles.

No. If I was in your position I would go on an evening while dp watches dc. Shops still quiet and you are reducing the number of people out.

I go first thing Saturday morning so I don’t have to take DD. I’d only take her if I had no other choice

I'll be honest, even before the pandemic children in supermarkets annoyed me. I had a kid run round the corner of an aisle and right into me knocking me and my hand basket on to the floor and the mother blamed me for making her child cry. SHE RAN INTO ME!!!

Rant over.

Have to take my ds as single mum I try each week to get it delivered but never‘s no slots

I've no particular objection to well behaved and quiet children, and recognise that sometimes needs must when a parent needs to take a child or children with.

I honestly DON'T think shopping with husband, wife, and 2 or 3 children is strictly necessary nor desirable. Nor is kicking off when the door staff at Tesco point this out.

I am a single mum so since its been just me (4 years) I've always got online delivery as I don't drive and youngest is asd and struggles in supermarkets so I'm lucky. However every now and then I need something extra so have to call at local coop. Most times I can leave children with grandma (I'm her support bubble) but its not always possible.

I know that at the beginning of all this there was a huge problem with people not being able to get slots for delivery or click and collect - I spent ages trying to get something sorted for my mum who was shielding but somehow not on the supermarket's list.

But now (here at least) there doesn't seem to be a problem. I get deliveries from Iceland and Sainsburys, and click and collect from Aldi and Tesco. Whenever I go on the sites there are plenty of options within a couple of days.

I'm not shielding or vulnerable but if I don't have to spend 40 minutes or so indoors with strangers at the moment I will avoid it. I do sometimes pop into a shop in person if I need something straight away but prefer to make sure I'm less than 15 minutes indoors anywhere but home at the moment.