Child in the supermarket?

[Whipituntilitpeaks]

Just curious, do you take your child/children with you when you go food shopping?
I’m currently a Sahm to my toddler Dd and always used go go early on a Monday morning, when barely anyone was there.
During the first lockdown, we stopped going and Dp would go on a Saturday morning.
Dp works Mon-Fri and often was there for hours queuing up etc, but back then he was the only one of us that went out (aside from walks in our field)
When it calmed down a little, I went back to doing it with my Dd, do you take yours?
For us, it helps dp as he obviously doesn’t mind at all, but after a long week at work, it’s not fun to do the big shop. It’s also some kind of normality in mine and DD’s life, but I’ve started to feel a bit worried about it. We’re not in the U.K. but cases are around the same number one more or less and some of my friends don’t take theirs into any shops
Aibu to still take her shopping or should dp or myself go alone on the weekend?

[Bumblebee1980a]

Go with your Dd. She needs a change of scenery too. I don't make it a regular thing but if I need to go and DS needs to get out then yes I would take him x

[DenisetheMenace]

Brockaslass

Your son is incredible.

[Brockaslass]

I need to take mine, he's 8 and he is a young carer I rely on his help when shopping and his dad's disability means I'm unable to take him into a shop as he is literally unable to budget, unable to understand sociali distancing or personal space and is partially deaf and if anything just gets in my way and hinders me when shopping. My son can shop in some shops alone but during lockdown I've limited that to our local shop because I know the owner will make sure nobody gets too close because of the risk to my health and limits people going in to two at a time. But in other shops such as Iceland or Asda I need him to push a trolley, reach shelves, deep freezers etc due to my wheelchair and partial paralysis. He also makes most card transactions if they are over £45 because a lot of folk are reluctant to pass the card machine over now to avoid touching it unecessarily. He always sanatises, wears a mask etc. I also sometimes struggle to communicate at times due to my condition causing a slurred speech. My son is the one who always explains that he is a young carer and needs to be with me and explains if asked about my own mask excemption. Without him during this pandemic I'd be screwed. Yes I have managed to buy limited items online but despite been priority I have struggled to get. A delivery slot when needed and I'm unable to buy some of my food online due to allergies as well as the fact that I live in a area with limited home delivery options.

[Beverley71]

@CatNoBag

It sounds far more sensible for you to go when it's quiet than for one of you to go when the supermarket is at its busiest. Your DD is sitting safely in the trolley (which you can wipe down or spray before putting her in there presumably?) and not running around wildly. If one member of your household catches it, presumably you'll all catch it. The risk of both spreading it and catching it are going to be increased by going when the place is packed as opposed to more or less empty so that's by far the best option and anyone who says differently is seriously lacking in the brain department!

Not necessarily....hubby has had it but not me or the kids, and he hasn’t isolated from us at all

[Beverley71]

Personally I would continue to go on a Monday morning with your child firmly by your side or in the trolly. It the quietist so the safest. My hubby caught Covid two weeks ago nipping into Sainsbury’s on a Saturday morning to buy a chicken

[Blondeshavemorefun]

@Norwayreally

Unless you’re a single parent with no other option, your DC shouldn’t be going to the shop with you. You or your DH should go alone at the weekend.

This

[Rhumatoidwarrior88]

If you and your daughter are shopping safely and responsibly and the reason is it helps you both mentally then go . If you can handle and manage not going then don't go. Also not saying this is your situation but my DV victims are forced to take their children due to home conditions I give lots of freedom to women shopping alone with their kids because I genuinely don't know their situation. And even if a handful of women take this for granted should be ashamed of themselves but I'm not gonna shame them because it's got to be a small sacrifice in comparison to thoose who's homelife it makes easier. Just shop safely and responsibly . Don't pick items up unless your gonna buy them . Hand sanitize . Wear a mask and keep a distance .

[CatNoBag]

It sounds far more sensible for you to go when it's quiet than for one of you to go when the supermarket is at its busiest. Your DD is sitting safely in the trolley (which you can wipe down or spray before putting her in there presumably?) and not running around wildly. If one member of your household catches it, presumably you'll all catch it. The risk of both spreading it and catching it are going to be increased by going when the place is packed as opposed to more or less empty so that's by far the best option and anyone who says differently is seriously lacking in the brain department!

[Glitterblue]

I don't personally take mine, she stays with DH while I shop. I don't tend to take her even in normal times, it's not an enjoyable activity. Obviously if I had no other choice I'd take her.

[Norwayreally]

Unless you’re a single parent with no other option, your DC shouldn’t be going to the shop with you. You or your DH should go alone at the weekend.

[Celestine70]

I think it's fine that you take her. Maybe you can shop in the evening and leave dd with your partner.

[MammaSchwifty]

one member of the family going shopping when it's busiest at the weekend makes no sense from a risk point of view, it's safer for two of you to go at a quiet time. However, it's safest of all if only one of you goes at a quiet time... how about in the evening after bedtime?

[bonbonours]

I know that at the beginning of all this there was a huge problem with people not being able to get slots for delivery or click and collect - I spent ages trying to get something sorted for my mum who was shielding but somehow not on the supermarket's list.

But now (here at least) there doesn't seem to be a problem. I get deliveries from Iceland and Sainsburys, and click and collect from Aldi and Tesco. Whenever I go on the sites there are plenty of options within a couple of days.

I'm not shielding or vulnerable but if I don't have to spend 40 minutes or so indoors with strangers at the moment I will avoid it. I do sometimes pop into a shop in person if I need something straight away but prefer to make sure I'm less than 15 minutes indoors anywhere but home at the moment.

[Notenoughchocolateomg]

I am a single mum so since its been just me (4 years) I've always got online delivery as I don't drive and youngest is asd and struggles in supermarkets so I'm lucky. However every now and then I need something extra so have to call at local coop. Most times I can leave children with grandma (I'm her support bubble) but its not always possible.

[riceuten]

I've no particular objection to well behaved and quiet children, and recognise that sometimes needs must when a parent needs to take a child or children with.

I honestly DON'T think shopping with husband, wife, and 2 or 3 children is strictly necessary nor desirable. Nor is kicking off when the door staff at Tesco point this out.

[nannyof4]

Have to take my ds as single mum I try each week to get it delivered but never‘s no slots

[KylieGreatorex]

I'll be honest, even before the pandemic children in supermarkets annoyed me. I had a kid run round the corner of an aisle and right into me knocking me and my hand basket on to the floor and the mother blamed me for making her child cry. SHE RAN INTO ME!!!

Rant over.

[WorriedMillie]

I go first thing Saturday morning so I don’t have to take DD. I’d only take her if I had no other choice

[christmasathomeagain]

No. If I was in your position I would go on an evening while dp watches dc. Shops still quiet and you are reducing the number of people out.

[lockeddownandcrazy]

I'd take her, and go when its quieter in the week - that is less risky than a weekend when everyone is there jam packed in, chatting away in the aisles.

[threatmatrix]

Surely toddlers just sit in the trolly? My grandson lives with me and I take him shopping to get him out of the house and learn about food etc.

[Cutypiejas]

I'm a single parent so I have no choice but to take my Dd with me, she is only 10 months old but loves being there with me and is constantly smiling while we are shopping, I've tried to get delivery slots but it's extremely difficult where I am to get one as they seem to get picked up so fast

[Brieminewine]

If you need to then you need to, obviously the shop alone rule doesn’t apply to small children.

We get deliveries but if I need a mini top up shop I take DD, with chocolate as bribe, Peppa on my phone and we’re in and out as quick as we can (sometimes it’s the highlight of the day being out where there’s other people and things to look at)

I did see a Tesco challenge people going in pairs last week so some stores are enforcing the rules.

[sortmylifeoutplease]

@Buddytheelf85

I can’t believe this thread is 14 pages long.

The OP has a choice between going to the supermarket with her toddler at a quiet time or going by herself at a very busy time. Those are her two choices.

It sounds from the way the OP has described the rules in her area that anyone who can avoid doing their shopping at the weekend should, as a courtesy to working people who don’t have an option.

Clearly it is safer, both for her and for other shoppers, for her to go at a quieter time, and that means taking her toddler.

Absolutely this.

[user1472151176]

I don't take mine. I usually shop early and my dh gets their breakfast and I'm back before he starts work. Or I go late in the evening when they're in bed. It works for us but obviously wouldn't work for everyone. Dont get me wrong, turning out at 8pm to do the shopping is rubbish, especially now its cold and dark.