Child in the supermarket?

[Whipituntilitpeaks]

Just curious, do you take your child/children with you when you go food shopping?
I’m currently a Sahm to my toddler Dd and always used go go early on a Monday morning, when barely anyone was there.
During the first lockdown, we stopped going and Dp would go on a Saturday morning.
Dp works Mon-Fri and often was there for hours queuing up etc, but back then he was the only one of us that went out (aside from walks in our field)
When it calmed down a little, I went back to doing it with my Dd, do you take yours?
For us, it helps dp as he obviously doesn’t mind at all, but after a long week at work, it’s not fun to do the big shop. It’s also some kind of normality in mine and DD’s life, but I’ve started to feel a bit worried about it. We’re not in the U.K. but cases are around the same number one more or less and some of my friends don’t take theirs into any shops
Aibu to still take her shopping or should dp or myself go alone on the weekend?

Yes, I take the youngest everywhere with me. Single mum. Sometimes the middle DC will come with us, too. I honestly don't care what anyone else thinks.

I try and avoid it but sometimes I have to as husband is in work full time. Single mums don't have a choice. And to anyone saying get a delivery, what about when you need only a couple of things or medicine? With 6 kids, I do top up shops.

I'm lucky I get weekly click and collect.

I do worry that over time some sections of society will start to to think its unacceptable to see a child anywhere.

The UK is already quite intolerant to kids compared to mainland Europe.

If you have not other choice or a single parent do what you have to do. In no way should any parents have to think about leaving young kids home alone because society thinks that better than taking them into a shop.

My husband is working round the clock treating Covid patients so rather than leave my 6yo with my 12yo for some rough babysitting I take her. Hate the idea now I’d be judged for it when I’ve really got zero choice.

I think its the little darlings that are spreading covid :)

I’m a single parent so have no choice but to take my 2 & 1 year old (when I can’t get a click & collect/delivery) but they sit in the trolley quietly so long as they’re bribed with the promise of chocolate at the end of it, and I go out of my way to stay away from people, more for my children’s sake than theirs as most people don’t seem to give a shit and just brush past us!

I haven’t been able to get a delivery slot in the U.K. at the moment and did have to take my youngest to the shop with me. My eldest 11 I left at home but he isn’t responsible enough to watch his little sister so I had to take her. But I’m a single parent and had no other choice. I had avoided shops for weeks but had got to the point where there wasn’t really another option. If you have another option please take it.

My kids are much older and I can leave them at home, but I would avoid taking any child anywhere unnecessarily at the moment as it's just unnecessary risk to us all. There is now not a shortage of slots for click and collect and delivery from supermarkets - I regularly get both from several different shops. If it's really impossible to find a time to go shopping on your own then use these.

My DH is a SAHD and is currently stressed out with the homeschooling. I’m still working (manufacturing company). I do all the shopping - usually on my way back from work. It’s only one of us having to be out and we hope minimising the risk. My DH is suffering with anxiety presently so I’d prefer to take as many pressures as possible away from him. Plus I prefer my DS to stay at home.

They say shop alone as our medium sized local Tesco store that we can walk to told a friend of mine that only one of them (being a married couple) could go in. But read that the co-op are now doing a new service, click + collect if you pre-order, so put in your postcode to see if it's going on in your area, and also Sainsburys were doing this service and you collect outside in the car park at a designated area. It like others have said do a weekly on-line shop by going on-line the week prior and choose what you need which means thinking forward/ahead and making lists but keeping to your own budget. I did this last March for a few months as my husband had pacemaker and selected evening 9pm delivery as that was just either 50p or one pound, as daytime charges can be 3 Pounds or more.

I haven’t been shopping with my DD since the first lockdown save for twice I think. Maybe 3 times but only desperate as DH working 7 days ongoing at the moment. I try to drop off at nana but with new strain we haven’t been seeing them either.

What about single mums? Oh...that’s right, they should put up and shut up, stay with abusive husbands, better children to be in a family home....and now...stay at home whilst you shop to feed them

Um ^

No you just go shopping. If it’s unavoidable go for it.. but why risk the extra exposure of you don’t have too, right?

I go when I need essentials so not often but as a single mum if I need to go and she's with me we both go.

LittleGsmum hahaha! Exactly!

And all online shopping slots are taken. Even if they weren't, I think they should be priority for those shielding and those who have been diagnosed/are awaiting results!

I leave dd almost 4 with her dad say am and go shopping

If I had to take her if a single parent then obv would

But I don’t have to so I don’t

@Royalbloo

And all online shopping slots are taken. Even if they weren't, I think they should be priority for those shielding and those who have been diagnosed/are awaiting results!

I received an order from the Co-op this morning and have a delivery from Ocado expected early Monday evening so shopping slots are not all taken. I am not shielding, diagnosed or awaiting results.

If there is a problem with some supermarket deliveries in some areas, I think that, in addition to what you have suggested, people with young children who cannot be left should be prioritised.

I do, he’s sat in the trolley and can’t reach anything to touch anyway so no more exposure than me being there alone. Plus it’s nice for him to see faces that aren’t ours.

Covid or no covid, I cannot bear seeing families in supermarkets treating it like a day out . I know that isn't you OP, but so many people take family members with them like its a special event. Very strange.

Can't understand why you'd take children to a supermarket. Again, nothing to do with covid, just the fact they will be distracting and probably make the trip twice as long (or more). Leave them at home if you can.

Thanks for the support and getting the point of my post

Morrison's - you phone them up for your requirements, then pay and they deliver it or do the click + collect also. Sorry but I have lost the telephone number for this service..

Um....some don’t have the choice

Unfortunately, have tried this. 30% of the order wasn’t available/ substituted. There are certain items we need to fulfil dietary requirements etc. If you go in the shop typically there. Click and collect and home delivery isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

Sure it's not easy being a single mum. Go at 7pm when maybe it's much quieter and at that time items have been reduced. Or are you eligible for a foodbank voucher/delivery ?. Can only suggest this.