To have lost all motivation for anything

[Pleidiolwyfimgwlad]

Is the endlessness of lockdown getting to anyone else? I seem to have lost all motivation for tidying the house, cooking, homeschooling, my job - all of it.

Me & the kids walk every day but that’s about it - it’s the relentlessness of it all that’s really getting to me I think. I just want to sit about eating toast & sleeping- I’d take to my bed if I didn’t have kids to look after.

I have quite a big job at a uni too and even the thought of it makes me feel depressed. It’s awful- I am fed up of my colleagues and they are lovely people so I feel bad.

Aibu to have just lost all mojo? I don’t think I am depressed- just OVER it all- I don’t even know what I need at the moment!

Same same same. I can't work out whether it's lockdown, my thyroid, turning 50, a post Christmas thing, feeling a bit under the weather or a combination of all of them. I walked every day in the first two lockdowns but I can't even be arsed to do that now. Just knackered all the time and with no motivation to do anything. I spend my days basically waiting until I can go to bed.

@ShaunaTheSheep

Run a bath, plan a holiday??

Surprised no-one has turned up yet to urge us to make a hot choc with squirty cream and mini marshmellows (sic) and snuggle up under a cosy throw.

Aaaaagggghhhhhh.

Or maybe we could find time to learn a language? Or take up crochet?

Or maybe, it’s not that we are too stupid to think of things to do. I’m fucking busy, doing my regular job, plus I’m 6 months pregnant AND trying to look after a nearly 2 year old because cunting nurseries are shut in Scotland. And we’re not allowed cleaners in Scotland 🤬

I’m not bored because I don’t have enough to do. I’m bored because there’s nothing to look forward to in amongst the fucking relentless drudgery. No holidays, no coffee with friends, no dinner out. So fucking over it.

Feel the same. Last year felt fine with it all.

And feel bad for feeling this way. I know staying in is for our own good. I'm so lucky to be wfh and not ill. But the days are all the same. Same old walks that are now muddy/flooded and cold. Have more work than ever and my motivation just hasn't come back from Xmas.

House should be spotless with all the time I have at the weekend but just can't be bothered. If the dishwasher and washing has been on it's been a productive day.

There is plenty I could do, read, watch a movie, sewing etc. but just feel so unmotivated.

Freelancer here, who always gets like this in January, trapped in a house that feels like a prison. I know COVID is making this so much worse, but January is always, always, always shit. It's cold and grey and miserable, everyone's knackered and broke and grumpy, it feels relentless and hopeless.

Over the years I've learned a few tricks that help me get through it, but basically the key is remembering that this feeling is finite. The seasons change and I do feel so much better. (It's just crap in the meantime.)

Sometimes it is just hunkering down and slogging through. to everyone who needs them.

It is my first winter in the UK. Oddly I have been ok with the weather, but really struggling with the monotony of life at the moment. It"s just endless cooking, cleaning, mandatory walk in the park trying desperately to avoid the crowds, and then binging crime shows on Netflix to make myself feel " lucky" because at least I am not being pursued around the house by a serial killer.

Today is apparently 'Blue Monday' - the most depressing day in the year. After (any) Christmas excitement, before Spring starts. And with 2021 looking very much like a repeat of 2020.. So YANBU. If you weren't feeling this way atm, you'd probably be unusual.

Yeah I feel like I'm in suspended animation

@Pleidiolwyfimgwlad

I feel the same so I am determined not to let it get me down. So I am forcing myself with lists to get something positive done everyday

@Pleidiolwyfimgwlad

It’s hard but needed.

It's the lack of hope. Just read that where I live, they are expecting a calamitous surge in March. I am beginning to feel that this is the end of our civilistion. My dcs birthdays are in March - 17 and 19; their second birthdays in captivity. Nothing to look forward to - quite the reverse. I have aged 20 years in a year. Have not seen my elderly dad since 2019.
Just shite really.

now its all gone splat

I’m sorry, but this has actually cheered me up. It’s exactly how I feel- but your turn of phrase is just perfect! Splat splat splat!

for you!

I know what I want to do and need to do but just can’t find the energy or motivation.
I’m usually someone who has get up and go and loves doing stuff, now I’m dragging myself through the day.
All I want is to spend some time with family and friends. This would reenergise me.

Ah, thanks everyone, It makes me feel less shit knowing I’m not alone. I just feel like all the joy has been sucked away and I know there are people in worse situations, losing loved ones too.

But it’s the greyness of life at the moment

Me too can't even be bothered to walk - so as a consequence I'm getting fatter and more depressed by the day.

YANBU, I'm the same.
Have plenty of extra time around the house to get chores done and even find some sort of Improving Hobby, but I'm actually doing less housework, and less enjoyable stuff like reading, as my energy levels and motivation are shite. I just flop about, eating crap in front of screens.

@wizzbangfizz I can’t fit in about 3/4 of my clothes so that seems to be the only thing I have any interest in at the moment!

I need to change the bed this eve but can’t even be arsed to do that- it’s like I don’t recognise myself!

I was doing well but today it’s all just drained away! I can’t be bothered and feel very flat.

Quite honestly I'd rather be childless during a lockdown than be a parent. I'd like to just lie in bed and say sod the cooking and the laundry...but it's fucking relentless...."what's for tea mum?"

I got a ukulele for Christmas and I'm supposed to be learning songs for a singalong on the next family zoom.

I need to do some that my parents in their 80s will like, but I can't get through Keep the Home Fires Burning without getting a bit teary, it's ridiculous.

I hope this is my thyroid, at least I can get drugs for that.

I was like this last week. I feel like I’m just...breathing.

I'm counting down until school goes back in February, knowing full well that it probably won't anyway. DS 14 is attending school, just remote learning in a computer lab, but there are other children so it's better than being completely alone during working hours for 7 weeks or more. We are both struggling. Trying to focus on Spring and the slowly increasing daylight hours, walking at the weekend and so on.

it's fucking relentless...."what's for tea mum?"

I thank the lord that my teenage DS doesn't need home schooling or much supervision at all, he's a good kid but he's like a great white shark - if he's awake he's feeding or thinking about food. Every fucking morning while he's eating his breakfast he asks what's for tea and some days I feel like screaming "it's fucking 7.45am, I don't fucking know yet".

One of the things I have done is buy loads of food that’s easy as i have no mental space to be creative in the kitchen at the moment. So lots of tray bakes with frozen veg, jacket spuds, pre chopped stir fry’s etc. I can barely be arsed to chop an onion so going for quick wins.

It’s so weird isn’t it- it’s like a collective bleakness

@formerbabe

Quite honestly I'd rather be childless during a lockdown than be a parent. I'd like to just lie in bed and say sod the cooking and the laundry...but it's fucking relentless...."what's for tea mum?"

I know what you mean but if I didn't have children I don't think I would be getting out of bed

My DC are teenagers though, so relatively easy to look after.

to anyone looking after toddlers (shudder) or on their own.

My 8 year old DD asks me every day ‘what are we doing today’ and it’s so hard to say ‘same as every single other day’ - grim