To have lost all motivation for anything

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Is the endlessness of lockdown getting to anyone else? I seem to have lost all motivation for tidying the house, cooking, homeschooling, my job - all of it.

Me & the kids walk every day but that’s about it - it’s the relentlessness of it all that’s really getting to me I think. I just want to sit about eating toast & sleeping- I’d take to my bed if I didn’t have kids to look after.

I have quite a big job at a uni too and even the thought of it makes me feel depressed. It’s awful- I am fed up of my colleagues and they are lovely people so I feel bad.

Aibu to have just lost all mojo? I don’t think I am depressed- just OVER it all- I don’t even know what I need at the moment!

Sympathy. I have days when I feel like that. Happened to be busy this week with work which woke me up a bit. But DC who should be at uni are really struggling with motivation. They just want to hibernate. It's that mix of deep winter, perpetual boredom and having nothing on the horizon to look forward to.

Feeing de motivated too, working from home trying to motivate two kids, one of whom has had GCSE's cancelled 😔

Made worse today when I heard my neighbours talking about how they were bored finding it difficult to decide to watch on Netflix 😫

same here, and my 14 yr old son too, which isnt great as his school are being really efficient with lessons and homework, but he is really struggling with it all

It is really hard to get motivated at the moment. I hear you and I feel the same.

There are things you can do of course... although you have to be motivated to do them in the first place... so it's a bit of a cycle!

One thing that might help is to think of things you will do when lockdown is over. For example, planning a holiday, or a week off work when you will have some days out with the kids. Plan where you will go and what you will do. It's really important to have something to look forward to, even if you don't know quite when it will be.

We are really struggling to find ways to have fun. Last week we kept saying we'd have a games night but never got around to it. DH and I are also doing Dry Jan, so even that small pleasure isn't around at the moment.

Yep - same here. For me I’ve also got a big dose of PMT going on as a cherry on the top. Got some good news yesterday that would of ordinarily have had me doing cartwheels but I feel absolutely nothing- just meh! I absolutely hate my home - it’s messy, disorganised and everything is looking tired having been inhabited endlessly for the past 9 months by two tweens and a baby. Getting rid of junk seems like an uphill struggle as the charity shops are all closed again and going to the post office to Ebay stuff doesn’t justify the virus risk Io earn a few pounds.

I’m feeling so introverted now I’m actually dreading being social again. I have nothing to talk about, I’m two stone overweight and I feel like I’ve aged five years in one.

Same. I'm hoping the little beginnings of spring might inspire me to get out a bit more and sow a few seeds, which is guaranteed to cheer me up. Lockdown plus rubbish weather is strange combination of repetitive tedium/impossible stress levels for an unknown length of time . No wonder we all feel a bit done in.

Id say keep going especially for your family, and hope at some point you will recharge your passion and motivation.

Op I hear you, I’m so over it tbh. Yes, I know there are people in way worse situations and we are v lucky to be healthy for now. I definitely found the last lockdown tough as we were in mid renovation so house was a building site, all kids at home and I’m freelance so was loosing thousands in income but think it was the idea that this is just temporary etc. It’s the same situation now re working but feel almost hopeless this time. I feel positive one second about summer etc and that things will be more free etc but then get go on here or hear other plp say it’ll never be normal, still infectious with vaccine blah blah blah.
I get how you are feeling though, I went through a phase of not wanting to get up and totally unmotivated at but think it’s totally normal. Yes, we aren’t being bombed etc but it’s a totally bizarre situation and it’s the constant news re covid and worry not only about “it” but all the stuff it’ll affect.
I do believe it’ll get better and all you can focus on op are the basics , sleep, good food and exercise when you can. I also find the little things help, I don’t know what ages your kids are but mine love cinema afternoons with popcorn and a movie , a giant bath like a swimming pool etc . For you a good book, a long bath, a nice takeaway , something you enjoy. Best of luck op

I'm still in my dressing gown some days till 5pm. The highlight of the day is having a bath. I live alone and haven't spken to anyone face to face since mid December.

I'm not depressed etc, just totally 'can't be bothered' and feeling bad about this when I see what frontline workers are facing.

Omg are you me?
My contacts circle is a kid who speaks to me like crap, a dog and a hubby who every other week is working from home in online zoom classes so we now have to be quiet! Totally fed up, can't get away from it and just want to tell everyone to f-off!

100% the same OP. Working from home whilst trying to parent a self-isolating 3yo who is usually at preschool when I work. Plus 26 wks pregnant. All I want to do is go to bed and sleep until covid is over! Failing that, enjoy a huge glass of wine, a box of lindt chocolates and a good thriller. Instead I'm writing a ridiculously long report for a dull as mud job and teaching my 3yo phonics. My motivation is at an all time low. My midwife apt last week was the highlight of my fortnight as I actually got to see someone outside of DH and DD!

I have depression, lockdown has magnified it a thousand times over. I have a job that should interest me.i am behind terribly and I can't seem to pull it round. I'm lying to colleagues and I wl get found out soon. I haven't washed in three days, I feel incredibly low and physically and mentally sluggish, take no joy in anything. I'm a walking zombie.

Just on this thread to see how quickly the 'pull yourself together and get a grip' tossers take to turn up.
I feel much the same. I have good intentions to use this time to get fit and lose much needed weight.but I have zero motivation.

@KathleenTurnerOverdrive - tell them. You poor thing. They will understand if you explain. Even if they don't. telling the truth lets you off the hook. It's a valid reason for falling so far behind. Been there.

Thanks for your kind words, I'm on a short term contract, so I'm nervous about saying anything. Realistically I know I'd be out the door.

This is the first time I have seen a unanimous YANBU.

I agree, it feels like life has been paused and I'm in a strange state of nothingness.

we were all doing really well until a few days ago...did all the usual diy around the house ...new bathroom etc....etc...now its all gone splat and snapping at each other.....when will it all end....

I just want them to fook off back to work and school (sorry!)

Every time I get a message from a work colleague on Slack I think “oh do fuck off and leave me alone”

I’m usually quite nice and my colleagues are very pleasant

@wildraisins

It is really hard to get motivated at the moment. I hear you and I feel the same.

There are things you can do of course... although you have to be motivated to do them in the first place... so it's a bit of a cycle!

One thing that might help is to think of things you will do when lockdown is over. For example, planning a holiday, or a week off work when you will have some days out with the kids. Plan where you will go and what you will do. It's really important to have something to look forward to, even if you don't know quite when it will be.

@wildraisins this response has made me irrationally angry. And I know it's not you, it's me. It really is me.

Im beyond fed up at this point. How can we plan anything when we have no idea when this will be over? Yes it would be nice to have something to look forward to but without any end in sight, that's not possible. That's the bloody point.

Absolutely. I was really upbeat last year. Decluttered the house, started exercising, quit booze, was little Miss Bloody Positivity.

It’s like the click struck midnight on NYE and I’ve fallen into a complete funk. No energy. No motivation. Work is like walking through treacle. House is a bit grimey now, but can’t muster up the energy to spring clean. Force myself out for walks I don’t enjoy. Not even junk food and Netflix is touching it! Boo!

Run a bath, plan a holiday??

Surprised no-one has turned up yet to urge us to make a hot choc with squirty cream and mini marshmellows (sic) and snuggle up under a cosy throw.

Aaaaagggghhhhhh.

Yep, only still here because of DS. Nothing else to live for. No hope of getting a vaccine and the last vaccines leftover go the vaccinators' friends and families.
Not allowed to walk in the country according to the police, even though according to the law and Guidance I am. They are too chicken to police the law on face coverings so are focusing on stopping people staying sane with walks in nature. Karma will come true hopefully.
I am getting bitter and resentful and hopeless. What hope is there when the elderly and vulnerable are vaccinated? The rest of us will be expected to 'leave home' get back to the pubs, shops, save Pret, while sending our DC to school where the unions will have made sure the teachers are vaccinated so that just leaves the stupid worthless parents like me to fill up critical care units and mortuaries. So can't even look forward to spring or summer or probably even autumn, if I'm still here.

Same, I am getting up at 8 every day, know I'm being lazy, was up at 9 and then 10 on Saturday and Sunday which is unheard of. Also going to bed quite early. I work for myself doing online stuff and also going out and about doing jobs. Some of my work has been paused but not all. I am very grateful to have work even if I do feel at risk going into stores, where to be honest it isn't obvious we are in lockdown. I am leaving my DS who is 13 to it with his home learning, even though I know he is taking every short cut he can, will catch up with him at some point. DS10 is another ball game, he is totally unmotivated and needs a lot of input with his home learning unfortunately and year 6 work isn't easy. I am sick of the house being like a pig sty and needing to shop loads despite lockdown. I feel fat,, I managed to lose just over half a stone before the last lockdown and kept it off, it is creeping back on again. I am trying to get my 10,000 steps a day but not always managing, also trying to find the time to study, today I have done 15 minutes, woo hoo. With the last lockdown I dressed normally, still skirts and bodies and dresses in the Summer, I am wearing leggings and jumpers more, although they are patterned leggings. Today I dyed my hair cause I had serious roots. Just think its so much harder, cause last time we expected to be back to normal by the end of the year, and despite the awfulness of the situation, it did feel as though there were some positives, nice Spring weather and more free time. This time it all seems so tired and things keep seem to be getting worse. My poor Dad has just gone into sheltered accommodation 200 miles away and I cant visit him which is crap, I talk to him on the phone at east once a day but he is hating not seeing anyone other than my Sister.