To have lost all motivation for anything

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Is the endlessness of lockdown getting to anyone else? I seem to have lost all motivation for tidying the house, cooking, homeschooling, my job - all of it.

Me & the kids walk every day but that’s about it - it’s the relentlessness of it all that’s really getting to me I think. I just want to sit about eating toast & sleeping- I’d take to my bed if I didn’t have kids to look after.

I have quite a big job at a uni too and even the thought of it makes me feel depressed. It’s awful- I am fed up of my colleagues and they are lovely people so I feel bad.

Aibu to have just lost all mojo? I don’t think I am depressed- just OVER it all- I don’t even know what I need at the moment!

I opened this thread hoping for some motivational tips! I'm the same as the rest of you - started off fairly well but my days now consist of sleep, eat, Mumsnet and TV with the odd bit of housework thrown in (I'm retired so no work to worry about).

My lovely housemate has just sent me this, which made me laugh (first time posting a link, so apologies if it doesn't work):

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Every endless silent day the same...It's much worse than last year, and I can't see an end.

My team at work are lovely, we are all working hard on a big project, we have jolly Teams meetings, but I'm just going through the motions. The fun bits of the job have gone, my manager reckons they won't come back as we can do so much remotely, so it's just stare at the screen all day, put some words together, rinse and repeat.

I realise I am lucky, my job is secure and I have a home. But this doesn't make how I am feeling go away, I just feel horrible for not appreciating what I have.

YANBU. If I didn't have DS I just wouldn't get out of bed. I can't be bothered dragging us out for walks in the freezing cold round the park with all the other bored families. When I get a work call or email I just think 'fuck off.'

I need to join in I’m afraid. No motivation for anything. Can’t even be bothered to speak to DH or DD. I’m sure they think I’m sulking with them, but the effort to hold a conversation just seems too much. That and the fact that DH is massively pissing me off. Feeling ok with the fact that still going for a good long walk everyday and no booze for ten days....if I’d had a drink I know I’d be feeling worse in my mood.

Same

I seem to be emerging from a 10 day slump like this.
I'm trying to notice glimmers of spring; tips of bulbs poking through, light those few minutes later into the evening, birdsong. It's hard when it's been 10 months of life being reduced to small stuff and nothing big and exciting to look forwards to.

In October, I planted some pots with winter bedding and spring bulbs as a symbol of hope to keep me going. I'm glad I did.

YADNBU, I'm probably worse as I've not even bothered to get dressed for the last week. I'm living in my PJs atm.

Started reorganising the kitchen when I had a brief flash of motivation so now everything is out on the sides and floor because I quickly lost it again and cba to finish it. Think I sorted out half a drawer over the last 2 days!! Industrious, I know! At this rate it will take me about a month to put it all back 🙄

Wasting all my day on mumnet or surfing the net 😟

Yep - same here. There's 101 little DIY jobs needing doing around the place and I just can't be bothered with any of it. Every day is the same. The only thing I do without fail is my running, but then I'm drinking too much 'cos I'm bored, so am undoing all my good work!

Teen kids at home doing on-line learning and they are bored, demotivated and miss their friends. Some are saying schools are going to be closed until Easter. I hope not.

I feel quite pessimistic. The Government don't seem to have a decent strategy on how we get out of this, despite the vaccine roll-out. They and the press have scared the shit out everybody, so it'll be a hell of a job to suddenly say it's safe to get back to normal.

Glad it's not just me. Feel like a giant sloth and haven't left the house in a week. Showering and doing a dishwasher load feels like an achievement. I wrote a positive list of spring achievements to work towards prior to Xmas and have just about managed 2 work meetings today and spent the rest of it sleeping on the sofa. Bluerghhh.

Same. I'm sick of everything.

I cannot be fucked either. DH is wfh and hates his job. DD is doing remote learning and resents the intrusion into her own study plan. Nobody has more than about four possible topics of conversation. Even the dog has had his bloody fill of it now: no visiting, no visits, no chatting to admirers in the street who'll scratch his ears and tell him he's a lovely boy.

I feel immense relief reading this thread...thanks everyone. Like many have pointed out, nobody I know is saying this, so it's a huge relief its OK to be feeling this way. The house is a mess since everyone is always in - since March, and I'm lucky if DH takes our DS out for even half an hour to the park since school finished. I think this is worsened by the fact we don't drive or have a garden. There is absolutely nowhere to go except for a walk around the corner to a small park. We are in the north, so have been under tighter restrictions for months now. I would love it if DH could go back to work. I WFH even before lockdown, but it has never led me to be lazy. If anything it forced me to get out and see friends. It's going to be hard getting back to normal after this - we've turned into such slobs. If I didn't have to do web meetings constantly with work, I'd lilely stay in my pyjamas some days. The dark weather also doesn't help. I've got no motivation to do anything anymore. I do my best to keep to a routine, and having DS is at least helping me to stick to that. Good luck everyone. We'll get there soon.

My biggest achievement today is getting out of my PJs and having a bath 🙄

I’m so glad I’m not the only one. I feel like I’m terribly behind at work, although I think all my colleagues are behind too. The most cheerful and motivated of my colleagues was looking sad and pissed off when I spoke to her the other day. My house is a bomb site, nine months of working at the kitchen table are taking their toll, and I’ve regained much of the weight I lost before lockdown because I don’t have time to exercise and I’m drinking too much wine. I am fantasising about holidays but obviously don’t know when that will be possible.

Me too.

Of course.

And I've eaten too many chocs again.

I feel like this. I was irrationally angry at the kids for not wanting to do virtual school. I was angry at the dog for barking and angry at my oven for not working and my husband for delaying getting a new one.

I am so bored. I don’t want to go on a stupid walk or cook one more stupid meal. I want to do an hour of work without having to listen to everyone else’s noise and trying to motivate two very bored kids to carry on with school.

I want to see my friends and my family and go the cinema and out to eat. I want to go on holiday and have a day out shopping . I want to swim in a public pool and leave my neighbourhood. We still have a lot of winter left and this feels endless.

Also, I ordered a couple of things for myself to cheer myself up. But they've not turned up and are well overdue. Apparently, our local Royal Mail office has lots of staff isolating.

Same her (plus insomnia!). Lost both parents before COVID and was just thinking I was beginning to get through awful period of total lack of giving a toss about day to day stuff and then COVID.
If I have a couple of hours of productivity (domestic or work related) it’s been a good day. Also wfh means so much food prep and cooking and dishes - bloody hell !
Usually (my old life) used to be full of beans and busy and hugely motivated.
Know so many are going through hell right now and that this isn’t, but this feels tough.

I feel the exact same OP you are not alone. Every day is a battle of work, deadlines, zoom meetings throw in home schooling a 7 year old, entertaining a 3 year old and walking the dog.

I've put on just over two stone, can't get motivated to lose it. Struggle most days to make an effort with how I look, mostly leggings and hoodies, no makeup and no bra!

Last night I was in bed for 8pm!

Amplified by the fact I lost my father in July it's just so pointless, ground hog day indeed.

No motivational things to say but if anyone can throw some my way that would be awesome!

This was me last year and it only stopped when I got covid 🤦🏻‍♀️. Then I put my practical head on and went on a cleaning blitz to zap every bit of virus. We're now on a mission to do all the little diy jobs that needed doing, home schooling has been plain sailing this time round and I recently lost someone very close to me to covid. So now I'm on a mission to get organised and make the most of life in lockdown.

Thanks for that @shallwethree. Brilliant

It’s so reassuring reading this thread- I was starting to feel like there was something wrong with me but I think it’s just covid!

The nail in the coffin for my mood was reading bloody Hancock saying stay in England for your summer holidays. We are normally planning our summer trip now and we managed to get away (by car) last summer to mainland Europe it was awesome. Even if it’s Brittany I need to get out of the UK this year!