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To think this woman was just being a dick/trying to make things hard for people who are distancing?

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thepeopleversuswork · 18/01/2021 16:19

In a small, dirty and pretty crowded corner shop with my DD. We're in SE London in one of the areas with highest case rates. I am trying as far as possible to avoid going out at all beyond walks in the park and this is the first time I've been in a shop for 10 days so I'm a bit jumpy about it and trying to get in and out as fast and safely as possible.

Shop is crowded, people queueing near the till, not distanced at all, a couple of kids not wearing masks. There was a gaggle of three late middle-aged women chatting next to the till, making it difficult to distance by the till (and thus pretty unsafe for the person serving as there was a very insufficient screen) and blocking the exit out of the shop.

I pointedly - maybe being a bit OTT -- waited as far back from the front of the queue as I could before paying which I would have thought signalled that I was taking distancing pretty seriously and wanted to be given a wide berth.

After I paid and walked towards the shop exit, trying to swerve the women gossiping by the door, a 2p piece escaped from my purse because it hadn't been zipped up properly. One of the women huddling by the till picked it up: I was just on my way towards the door and she started walking towards me to give me the 2p back. I said: "don't worry about it, just put it in the charity box" and indicated I was on my way out and that I was more interested in preserving the distance. She moved right in close towards me and I said: "no I'm distancing, can you just keep it or put in the charity box please?". She comes right up to me and sticks the bloody 2p piece in my coat pocket with her grimy hand and pats my pocket. I looked visibly irritated and walked off and I heard her say "calm down, love, I was doing you a favour," as I was walking out of the door.

I turned around and said loudly (so the rest of the people massing by the till could hear" "Sorry but I'm not prepared to risk catching COVID for the sake of a 2 pence piece. I did make this pretty clear but if you can't understand that then perhaps you shouldn't be going out at all and certainly not hanging about by the till."

I heard her shouting: "stuck up cow" out of the doorway as I walked off.

Maybe I was a bit of an arse but this is exactly how COVID spreads. Totally unnecessary contact: people's attitude to saving small change in this country is so bonkers anyway: I know money is tight for a lot of people but who thinks that saving 2p is going to be worthwhile if you lose your job due to sickness?

I get that its easier for some people to distance than others and maybe she thought I was being precious but it really fucks me off when people impose their laissez faire attitude on others. It's one thing to just forget every now and then but I seriously think some people actually enjoy making those who taking it seriously feel uncomfortable...

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SuperCaliFragalistic · 22/01/2021 05:28

Sounds like on of my neighbours who goes round putting other people's bins back about ten minutes after the binmen have been. So bloody unnecessary to be touching other people's stuff now. She's just a busybody.

You aren't going to get covid off your bin unless you run straight out and lick it after she's put it away. It may be unnecessary but its neighbourly and you know, nice, to do small favours for people.

17bluebirds · 22/01/2021 05:47

I know I'm late to this thread, but OP, you are being so unreasonable.
You can't drop litter (which is your attitude to the 2p coin) and just leave it due to the pandemic!!!

She was probably making a point about taking your litter home and taking responsibility for your area.

You mustn't do this in normal times, and it's even worse now, leaving your covid ridden rubbish for others to have to clear up.

Or are you suggesting we all just drop our rubbish and leave it on the floor until the pandemic is over?

Galena92 · 22/01/2021 07:16

Well how about people have respect, and not touch someone who clearly does not want to be touched. When did that ever become ok? And especially now! How can some of you ppl not process that some (all!) Ppl must social distance in public. It is literally a matter of life and death for many. It does not matter if you think that person has a "right" to be in the store or not. Listen to educated health professionals, and stay the heck away from ppl! Sheesh!

She should have respected your wishes OP, since she chose to interject herself into the situation.

Lookslikerainted · 22/01/2021 08:10

@thepeopleversuswork

You do sound stuck up when you describe your local shop as “dirty”.

2021booklover · 23/01/2021 08:58

@Scrunchy95 I voted the OP as unreasonable. Not because the other woman was in the wrong - but because of the way she went about things.

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