ivfbeenbusy
Why must every minor fall out be documented on MN these days? Especially when this is an overwhelmingly female site it's obvious you are only going to get LTB advise?
Bully for you that clearly your boundaries and self awareness are so perfectly tuned that you never need ask advice on whether something is just an argument, or abuse. The aim of asking, in your words, “every minor fallout”, isn’t with the aim of getting ltb responses. It’s to check that the little feeling in the pit of your stomach, that says that this isn’t ok, but I doubt myself (often due to past abuse, or lack of awareness growing up I.e abusive parents, ad nauseam) so I want to check with other more wise and or experienced women, more often than not. And in such cases, these “minor” fallouts are often “documented” on mumsnet (a site for this very purpose as in the relationships board) because this niggle is part of a long standing history within the relationship, and abused women want to test the waters by asking smaller questions about the relationship that they don’t like first. Before diving right into an entire abuse history. They might also not even recognise all the things he has said or done in the past as abuse until they come here over one issue and more and more things are mentioned and it becomes clear the relationship is extremely abusive. This isn’t always the case. But I have seen it happen on here, a lot. A real lot from threads just like this one. So I’m happy for you that your self awareness and your instincts and your boundaries are extremely perfect that you’ve never needed to ask a seemingly small and silly question. Though the last paragraph suggests otherwise and I’ll get to that in a minute.
Obviously we don't know every word of the build up to the argument and yes when people argue they tend to say hurtful things. Doesn't always mean that they mean them
We don’t know every single part and nuance and context for any post on here. Does that make them all worthless? While it may be as you assume- he’s just blurted out angry words, it could alternatively be a pattern within the relationship, meaning she could be in an abusive relationship- or one that’s leading up to abuse. To add- Angry words are very telling. They aren’t just words said in anger- they demonstrate a particular viewpoint that is usually kept deep down and hidden, especially in cases like this of such derogatory wording toward females and single mothers. I get angry at my partner. I might say oh piss off (not proud believe me) but my words don’t include anything that gives any glimpse of things such as man hating or sexism or other horrible world views, because I don’t have them.
For what it's worth I don't think he was being deliberately derogatory about single mothers - perhaps that's your own insecurity coming through? Plenty of women refer to their children's fathers as "baby daddy's" and they are still in a relationship with them
In this context it’s rather different than a nickname of baby daddy is it not? It’s a word he has used in a disgusting context to make her feel worthless and shit. Stop minimising. Calling someone “my baby daddy” is very different from a man telling a woman to get another baby daddy in order to hurt and belittle her. It’s like my partner who plays with my jiggly belly- he loves it. I don’t I hate my jiggly belly, but I know he’s being genuine- he does love my curves. However if he used my jiggly belly in the context of an argument to belittle me, he would be out the door faster than he could apologise. So here I ask- in the context he used it and the reasoning for him using this term, and calling her a joke (in other words a pathetic worthless person, in his context), and telling her she’s chatting shit (dismissing her feelings, and her as a person, purposely, all purposely) this is ok to you? Cos he was angry? Do you not need to check your own standards?
He apologised and has tried to reach out to you more than once - let it go
Yes- the woman who has been told she is chatting shit. Is a joke. And to find another baby daddy. Should shut her whinging mouth and accept it and let it go 
What were you taught growing up? Because this is all far from ok. And for you to come on here and complain that the post is here (why don’t you read another post instead of trying to police the questions of other women by the way? If it’s that annoying to you? I mean who are you exactly?) and then tell her to accept this shit, and shut up and put up cos the poor man has apologised now hasn’t he (after the damage is already done to her self esteem) is not quite right really. I would if I were you, question your own acceptance of this kind of abusive wording- rather than moaning about the OPs post and telling her to “get over it”. I don’t think you’re in any position to be giving advice if I’m honest, on what women should accept in relationships 