Hand hold please - on train trying to rush to London to get to my dad before he dies

[africanantelope]

Dad had a heart attack on Friday night, heart was not beating on and off for 2 and a half hours :( he had surgery but brain damage is bad and meds are no longer keeping him alive. Because of covid and having 3 kids I wasn't sure I'd be able to get to see him. I'm now on my way hoping I make it in time, we're weren't allowed in the hospital until we had the call. I just wish I'd come earlier but I don't drive and knew I'd be frozen just waiting outside. Also was told it could be hours days or weeks. I'm so angry at myself and just hope I make it in time. He was only 66 and healthy. Hand hold please lovely mumneters this train really isn't moving fast enough

I’m so sorry OP, I remember doing this horrible journey in a rush too. My Dad was 57. Sending you love 💐

Another one sending my best wishes.

I missed my mum by 5 mins, although I'd spent a lot of time with her the day before. I still sat and said the words I wanted to say.

God I hope you made it OP.

I hope you made it. Sending lots of best wishes.

I remember flying up to Scotland to say goodbye to my lovely Mum. I may as well have been flying to the other side of the world it seemed so long. I made it and I'm praying you did too.

thinking of you

Much love x

How awful OP. I’m so so sorry

Thinking of you OP and your dad.

Been there too. I remember sitting in the car at a red light screaming at dad to hold on till I got there. My story had a happy ending then in that he recovered from that heart attack . Thinking of you and your family x

Thinking of you & your Dad, OP xxx

Sending so much love xx

I hope you are there now x I'm sorry

Thinking of you x

I hope you made it OP.

Two years ago I had the privilege of being with my Dad when he died. I'm very glad I was but, having done it, I know he wasn't at all aware that me and Mum were with him. Had we not been there, it would have made no difference to him, only to us.

So, if you didn't make it, be kind to yourself. Sending very unMumsnetty hugs

My daughter works in acute medicine and says it's heartbreaking when families are terribly distressed about not seeing their loved one before they die, as so often the patient is totally unaware. If you don't make it in time, don't beat yourself up. Focus on the happy memories, and the fact you loved him and he knew it. xx

Talk close to his ear - hearing is the last thing to go. We are all sending positive vibes and agree with Chablisandcrisps - the years and happiness you had together are what lasts in your mind.

Two years ago today we were fighting our way through rush hour traffic to get to say goodbye to my dad. We were in the same city but the hospital was on the other side, we arrived at 9.00am, he had passed away 15 minutes before we arrived. Be kind to yourself, don't beat yourself up if you don't get there in time, you have done your best.

Hold hand. Be strong

Thinking of you, my dad passed 19 years ago and I can still remember that feeling of being dropped off in the middle of the night and running down an empty corridor to ITU

I hope you got there and you’re ok.x

Sending you love and strength xx

Thinking of you, I got to be with my Dad in November (he'd been in Hammersmith Hospital too). I got there and I think he'd been waiting for me, as he died within five minutes with me holding his hand 😥. I hope you made it in time 💐

I’m so sorry Scarlet. OP I hope you got there in time. I’m so sorry x

I’m so sorry, made a similar journey myself a few years ago. It was hard