Hand hold please - on train trying to rush to London to get to my dad before he dies

[africanantelope]

Dad had a heart attack on Friday night, heart was not beating on and off for 2 and a half hours :( he had surgery but brain damage is bad and meds are no longer keeping him alive. Because of covid and having 3 kids I wasn't sure I'd be able to get to see him. I'm now on my way hoping I make it in time, we're weren't allowed in the hospital until we had the call. I just wish I'd come earlier but I don't drive and knew I'd be frozen just waiting outside. Also was told it could be hours days or weeks. I'm so angry at myself and just hope I make it in time. He was only 66 and healthy. Hand hold please lovely mumneters this train really isn't moving fast enough

Oh @africanantelope I’m so sorry that you’ve lost your Dad but so pleased you had this wonderful special time with him at the end. Time to say everything you wanted to and to show him how much you loved him.
I didn’t get that with my Dad
I often talk to him now and wonder if he hears.

Sending you and all your family much love .
⭐️💓

@Tiramisuzie

OP, glad you made it.

My mum died over 30 years ago. It is sad, but I honestly believe that their legacy is everywhere. It is like my mum is just on holiday or something. She is everywhere. She is in the colour and texture of my children's hair. She is in the way I laugh. She is there when I make decisions in how she guided me and taught me. She is in my favourite recipes that we ate as a child.

Love is stronger that anything in the living world.

This is one of the most beautiful things I have ever read.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m glad you made it in time though. I did the dash with my mum a few years ago when my gran took very suddenly ill but we were too late.

I’m so sorry for your loss but so glad you had that treasured hour together before he passed.

@Tiramisuzie

OP, glad you made it.

My mum died over 30 years ago. It is sad, but I honestly believe that their legacy is everywhere. It is like my mum is just on holiday or something. She is everywhere. She is in the colour and texture of my children's hair. She is in the way I laugh. She is there when I make decisions in how she guided me and taught me. She is in my favourite recipes that we ate as a child.

Love is stronger that anything in the living world.

This has to be one of the most beautiful comments I have ever read. I’m not crying.....honestly

So glad you made it to be with him, I was lucky enough to be with my mum when she began her eternal sleep. In time to come that will give you some comfort. Look after yourself, don’t leave all the hard work to the wonderful guardian angel you gained last night xx

Crying reading this

Best wishes to you

Be gentle with yourself
Will keep your father in my prayers xx

@africanantelope

Wow, thank you all so much. I am overwhelmed by all the messages. I've read them all and they have given me such strength. I made it! I had a whole hour with him, I held his hand and talked to him about everything and anything. He has passed now and I will be eternally grateful that I got to be there as posters have said more for myself then for anything else. And for the fact that he was covid free, I know there are so many people in similar positions who are not allowed to be with their loved ones at all To all the posters who have been in the same position I'm sending and to the poster who lost her dad yesterday I'm so sorry and sending love to you and yours. All of you took the time to post and that means such a lot to me, the internet can be such a powerful and loving place. It's been such an emotional weekend of shock and hope but I feel I'm not in limbo anymore and hopefully can get some rest tonight. ♥️

So pleased you made it. A whole precious hour. Condolences to you and your family.

I'm so sorry for your loss but I'm glad you got there in time, that's so special and precious.

to those who also suffered losses.

for you and I’m sorry for your loss . I’m glad you made it and had that time with him

Tiramisuzie
Thank you so much for this. It is absolutely beautiful. My mother died over eight years ago, and I still haven't "got over" it. Your post helps me realise that we never do, and it can be a good thing as our loved one lives on, as you describe so beautifully,.