Hand hold please - on train trying to rush to London to get to my dad before he dies

[africanantelope]

Dad had a heart attack on Friday night, heart was not beating on and off for 2 and a half hours :( he had surgery but brain damage is bad and meds are no longer keeping him alive. Because of covid and having 3 kids I wasn't sure I'd be able to get to see him. I'm now on my way hoping I make it in time, we're weren't allowed in the hospital until we had the call. I just wish I'd come earlier but I don't drive and knew I'd be frozen just waiting outside. Also was told it could be hours days or weeks. I'm so angry at myself and just hope I make it in time. He was only 66 and healthy. Hand hold please lovely mumneters this train really isn't moving fast enough

So glad you made it OP. I am sorry for the loss of your Dad, may he rest in peace and your memories of him always be a comfort. 💐

I'm so glad you made it African antelope and I'm so very sorry for your loss.

And to everyone else as well who has lost loved ones recently

I am so glad that you managed to see your Dad before he passed.💐

Im so sorry for you loss. I'm glad you made it on time and got some quality time with him. Thinking of you.

Sorry to read of your loss and try to think of all the love he brought into your life.

Sending you hugs and my sympathy. I'm so pleased you got there in time. Thinking of you.

I’m so glad you got to be with him before he passed, and sorry for your loss

So sorry for your loss OP, but so glad you and he had a peaceful ending. Hope you're okay and have real life support too, we're here if you need us.

Glad you made it, but so sorry for your loss. 💐

I'm sorry for your loss OP but I'm glad you got there in time, I was hoping so much that you would make it. He'll have known you were there for him x

I hope you had a restful night OP, and so glad that you got some time together a time the end. Sending you lots of love at this time and strength for the days ahead

I am so very sorry for your loss. I know that hour meant everything to both of you.

To your father, "Fair winds and following seas, Dear Man, fair winds and following seas."

I'm pleased that you had that hour together and said what you wanted to say. The coming days will be hard but it will get easier

So pleased you made it op. Sorry for your loss. 6 years ago my mother passed before I could make it to say goodbye it stays with you. Horrid journey to make.

I’m so sorry for your loss OP. I cried reading your update.
I lost my dad a few years ago and had a similar journey but on a plane, to get to him before he passed away. I got there in time to see him one last time; say goodbye, I’ll see you tomorrow but tomorrow never came. He passed away at 6am the following morning.
You’ll always hold those last moments dear in your heart.

I’m so sorry for your loss but so glad you made it and had that precious time with your Dad.

I am so glad that you got that hour. In time, it will become a golden hour - like a piece of treasure that you can take out and hold onto when you need to. Lots of nurses and especially hospice staff talk about 'good deaths' and I think that if someone isn't in massive pain and has a loved one talking to them as they pass, that counts as a good death.

You gave him that.

And he gave you a lifetime of memories and joy that are yours to keep. You definitely have rocky days/weeks/months ahead but the best thing anyone said to me when I lost my lovely dad, was that "you have lost his body, but you haven't lost him. Refer to him in times of need and he will respond'. And I do, and he does.

I'm so sorry for your loss, africanantelope I'm so glad that you managed to spend time with your Dad. Now you must take lots of care of you. x

I'm so sorry for your loss OP but so glad you made it. I didn't add when I posted my first message last night that I had a similar experience with my beloved grandmother - made it from London to Yorkshire on the train, got a cab from the station to the hospital and just managed an hour with her. I talked solidly for 60 minutes (no change there then ) about all our lovely memories, I'll never know how much she heard or took in but it definitely helped me. It was one of the most intense, meaningful and important hours of my life.

I hope you have good support around you going forward. Take care x

So sorry for your loss. I really empathised with you as I lost my Dad last week and I knew how much it meant to me to be there with him at the end.
I know not everyone has been as lucky.

@WednesdayWoohan @Checkthemeaning @lynsey91 I'm so sorry and thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to send me messages of support.

I forgot to say last night to everybody who posted travel advice thank you all, I didn't realise how empty London was at the moment and it probably would of been quicker grabbing an Uber but I made it on the trusty tube thankfully before I'd seen your messages.

@SlightlyJaded what a lovely thing to say thank you I will write that down and remember it when I need it x

@Mamanyt what lovely words for him thank you

And to all who have posted, thank you, Ive definitely shed a year or 2 reading all of your messages xx

I'm so glad you got there.
Had to do the late night rush to my mum before she died, had to come from Germany, it was awful so know what it was like for you.
Big love for the coming days, look after yourself xx

Much love and strength to you @africanantelope.
I only just saw this thread. I'm so glad you made it.

My deepest condolences op so pleased you had that magical time with him. Wishing you a peaceful heart.

OP, glad you made it.

My mum died over 30 years ago. It is sad, but I honestly believe that their legacy is everywhere. It is like my mum is just on holiday or something. She is everywhere. She is in the colour and texture of my children's hair. She is in the way I laugh. She is there when I make decisions in how she guided me and taught me. She is in my favourite recipes that we ate as a child.

Love is stronger that anything in the living world.