To wonder if anyone has used a male prositute

[SparklyLeopard]

Ive NC for this as I'm a regular and this is a bit random I know! I've had a few relationships over the years and not been really satisfied with sex. Find myself fantasising about being with a man who is a real expert. Not sure I could ever have the nerve to do so and would have no idea where to start! And certainly not now for obvious reasons but I'm curious and would love to hear about other's experiences.

For anyone who wants no strings sex with a stranger look at fabswingers. You'll find plenty of men there with reviews from previous partners so you can try to find someone who a) you like the look of b) who fancies you c) has good reviews of their sexual skills and d) is likely to be safer than a random from tinder or a club.
Don't pay someone. That's disgusting on about 50 levels.

No way. Paying someone to use their body is inhumane, regardless of their sex.

This is interesting. A lot of threads on here about men who have used female prostitutes get very heated.

I would never pay a man to have sex with me. In theory, I wholeheartedly support people’s right to do as they wish and have no problem with anyone male or female selling sex provided that there is no coercion or other factors like that. However, how can you ever know that this is the case? How do you know that the person is doing it of their own free will and not out of fear or someone else or desperation? I couldn’t be part of that.

Also, I don’t think you are going to get the mind blowing experience you are after OP. You need to find someone you have true chemistry with.

A friend of mine used to do a bit of escorting work. He said male clients mainly hired him for sex, female clients wanted someone to attend functions with then first but then sex after.

I can't imagine ever wanting to, although I can kind of see the attraction if you're going to stray to use a professional that won't "kiss and tell" or make it super awkward if you ran into each other if you're looking for purely no strings attached shagging.

I find this interesting. I never would and dont not know any women who have. I do however know of a few men that have and will do so again.

Fabswingers is not a bad call actually, you might have fun

Its as sick and exploitative as the female business. Im sure that makes me a spoilsport but I dont give a fuck.

Go for it. Life's too short.

What about hiring a male professional cuddler instead? I feel many women would be more interested in hug and attention therapy than a 'scratching an itch' sex session.

Id be put off by the fact that id know they didnt actually fancy me and were only pretending.

So basically, they wouldn't consent in real life to sex with you so therefore it isn't fully consensual. It is abusive and I agree with user1471565182

I actually think there is something more honest and less exploitative about paying someone than going on Tindr for a quick shag.

No one talks about whether people on are Tindr for the right reasons...

Also a suspect you’d end up with a much better service.

While I have no desire to be a prostitute (or many other jobs for that matter), it is a legitimate job for those who want to.

@Awalkintime

My plumber wouldn’t mend my boiler for free in real life either. Is it coercive that I pay him?

Nope, just another legitimate job.

What about hiring a male professional cuddler instead?

Most are called 'Fluffy', 'Oscar' or 'Tiddles' and are far better value than any man.

@Awalkintime

Id be put off by the fact that id know they didnt actually fancy me and were only pretending.

So basically, they wouldn't consent in real life to sex with you so therefore it isn't fully consensual. It is abusive and I agree with user1471565182

Come on, that's ridiculous!

Depends if you think fixing a boiler is as distressing as rape

[quote CutToChase]@MsJaneAusten
Tinder is just a load of horny randomers. OP is talking about paying a professional. Would love to read an AMA from a male prostitute![/quote]
Men who go to prostitutes are extremely frowned upon on here (and rightly so). Why should it be any different the other way?

fed up of this whole when women do it its a laugh' portrayal. IME the male sex workers are even more messed up than the women

@user1471565182

It quite clearly isn’t rape if it’s consensual. The women I’ve known all offered their services just as consensually as my plumber.

@LizFlowers

I expect some have; homosexual men without a suitable partner will have and some women. I doubt any woman will admit it on here though. I've never knowingly known a woman who has hired a man for sex and can't imagine it; it's less common than the other way around because it's generally easier for a woman to find an uncomplicated, casual sex partner, but does happen sometimes.

It's very very easy for women to get sex, as easy as ordering pizza. Good sex/safe sex is less difficult and that's where using a sex worker might tempt some.

With men, it's very easy for good looking/rich/confident men to get sex, but may be a struggle for the average man or physically unattractive and that's where using a sex worker might tempt some.

It's not something that should be encoruaged.

Sounds hideous.

There's no shortage of men out there who will happily shag anything that moves just for the fun of it.

Obviously people trafficking is a problem. But men and women who think having sex for money is a good financial option for them? No problem. I see stripping as the same.

They would appear to be a great less exploited than some women who provide childcare and sexual relations in exchange for financial security.

I would absolutely but as yet its still a fantasy..I too would love to be in the hands of a complete professional-no strings&get what you pay for type of transaction.
RLrelationships with guys are not on my radar,all the emotional shit /sharing space is too much but the sexual exploration is a real draw.
Im pretty satisfied with my toys but will invest to satisfy my curiosity somewhere, not too far down the line.

*less easy

I'm pretty sure men aren't trafficked across the world to service the needs of women....I could be wrong I'm not