Wibu to ask for reasons dd didn't get the job

[BedofRoses88]

My dd did a trial at a cafe last week along with some others. I picked her up at the end of it and it all seemed so positive. She was sat down, paid, asked when she could start and what days she could do etc and I was almost certain she would be offered the job. They were taking on more than 1 person. She's 16 and it was me who originally saw the advert so I had previously messaged the owner and chatted to him quite a bit. She's not been told either way but would have been asked to start tomorrow so I'm sure she's not got it. Part of me thinks leave it but the other thinks it would be useful to get constructive criticism. But I don't want it to come across like I'm demanding why she didn't get it! Wwyd?

Plenty of cafes are open around here, take away only.

I’ve no time for employers that don’t even tell candidates who have been for interview whether they have been successful or not. However your DD should certainly ask.

Chances are one of the other candidates was better. That’s the reality of the interview process.

Call them by all means.

They won't hear you over the sound of your helicopter wings, but call them by all means.

I think you’d be better of messaging asking (or getting her to) if there’s any news on the job, rather than asking about why she’s been rejected.

how is your daughter working in a cafe during lockdown?

I dont know any cafes that are open, but even if they did takeaway given the massive hit the industry has took and the many out of work employees I cant imagine a rush to hire an inexperianced 16 year old.

She should drop them a line asking if any news. No harm in that.

She needs to manage this herself. Employers do not like employing people who have a minder in the background.

Does she help around the house doing chores without being asked? Is she cheerful & approachable? If so, she should be able to ask for an update herself.

You shouldn't be involved in this.

My friend has been infantilised her whole life. When she was 20ish she got a job but her mum told them she wouldn't be working on the Lord's day! She got the job & stayed in it for years! 😂

My first thought was you were the reason. The only contact my parents had with my teenage job, was when they had to ring in sick on my behalf as I had glandular fever and couldn't talk!

Wondering if the DD actually wanted the job or just went on the trial to keep her mum happy. Hence why she's not got it ...

You're likely the problem. Not a chance would I hire a 16 year old whose mother contacted me. She should answer the advert herself. She should ask for feed back herself.

If she wants feedback your DD needs to do it herself. Back off, she needs to apply for jobs. It’s quite embarrassing really.

I think if she wants to contact them for feedback and constructive criticism, she can. I don’t think you should be doing it on her behalf.

Yeah I definitely don't employ individuals who have there parents involved in any way at all. There in the working world now and need to leave there parents at home

If I was recruiting for a cafe I'd pick an employee with their own initiative and not one who had her mum looking for a job for her.

AAAARGH COVID Police! Stop It!

I have just walked about a couple of miles round the area for my walk - passed loads of cafes doing takeaway food and drink.

Who do you think provides all the food for the Deliveroo and Just Eat crew to deliver?

In other news I would employ a 16 year old who contacted me herself over one whose mother did all the running / helicoptering. I want an employee, I'm not babysitting!

Let her handle it herself.

They may have been put off hiring her because you got involved. Nobody wants to hire someone whose Mum sticks her oar in, it's totally inappropriate at 16.

Your dd should ask for feedback, and for them to consider her for any future openings (if SHE wants to).

You should definitely have no more communications with employers on your dd's behalf.

Big red flag for me and I would have a niggle that the dd didn't really want the job but mother was cajolling her so higher than average chance that she'd slack off and/or just not show up for work one day.

Just to echo what the others have said - at 16+, young people need to be seen to fighting their own 'battles'.

I remember going to my first university interview (1975, I was 17) and a girl turning up with her Mum in tow. I still occasionally think of her and scoff mentally, even though I know it's now the done thing.

Who do you think provides all the food for the Deliveroo and Just Eat crew to deliver? confused

Takeaway fairies 😁 😂

You've just reminded me of being 16 and working in home bargains when someone's mum did the interview for them the poor boy was left in the staff room with us! His mum refused to let him in the room. She was then shouting at the manager for not taking her son on and stormed out- her son followed shortly after!

I agree with everybody saying not to get involved, your daughter should be handling it. You might be overthinking it though. Since the new lockdown, they might be getting less passing trade for takeaways than they were a week and a half ago and have put recruitment on hold.

They might have young relatives not going back to uni or school as they were expecting and put them in place.

Maybe get your daughter to text.

They were probably having a manager's discussion about all the candidates and someone mentioned that it was actually her mother who applied for the job for her - major no.

Definitely a no if you was the one to apply for her. It just makes her look very immature and not ready to take on the responsibility of a job.