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Neighbours pissed off - AIBU?

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Pigtailsandall · 09/01/2021 08:20

Our local authority encourages asymptomatic testing, so before Christmas we ordered home testing kits, expecting to see DH's elderly parents. We got moved to tier 4 so there was no point in doing the test. We did nothing over Christmas, DH did a quick dash to the shops twice, I took our toddler to the playground on the 23rd and we got a few takeaway coffees from the local cafe. Other than that, we went for a daily walk either in the woods or small local park.
On the 27th DH complained headache but he had been up with DC at night who had been teething. Otherwise we were all healthy (and the headache passed during the day).
On New Year's Eve we decided to send off our Covid tests anyway as we had them lying around, and DC was due back in nursery on the 4th and I was due at work on the 3rd. After dropping them off, we went for a walk in the park and met a couple few doors down who have a DC same age. We kept a distance, chatted for about 10 minutes with the kids running around. Our tests came back in the 2nd and to our horror, DH tested positive. I and DC were both negative. We told the neighbours we met (also called the cafe we had visited) and the neighbours got furious with us. Absolutely fuming, they said we were irresponsible for being out after doing a Covid test and DH had been symptomatic (he hadn't). I get that they are stressed about getting Covid but if they are that concerned maybe they shouldn't go out at all as our contact was short and distanced, and I told them that because I was getting a bit fed up - their messages were coming through more and more irritated and frantic (DH was much more diplomatic)
AIBU for being annoyed at the neighbours? I tried to stay diplomatic but I felt they totally overreacted.

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supersonicginandtonic · 09/01/2021 12:35

@hardboiledeggs FFS WHAT ARENT YOU GETTING!
She ordered the test as part of a programme of mass testing in her area, not because she thought she had COVID. Jesus I can't get over the stupidity of people on this thread.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 09/01/2021 12:36

@hardboiledeggs

The fact you ordered a test insinuates that you both had an idea he may have COVID. To continue going out when waiting for results is downright stupid! Yabu and I’d be pissed off too.
It's the first sentence. First!

Our local authority encourages asymptomatic testing, so before Christmas we ordered home testing kits

SchrodingersImmigrant · 09/01/2021 12:36

@QueenoftheAir

But with mass testing, the results are returned within a few hours. So everyone could just go home & have a nap Grin And then go back to normal life if they're negative.
Lol good point.😂
Guineapig99 · 09/01/2021 12:37

I can see how it happened but yes, YABU for trotting around while waiting for the results of a COVID test. You'd be peed off if they had done that to you.

YouBoughtMeAWall · 09/01/2021 12:39

And this is why we can’t stay out of lockdown. Selfish idiots who don’t think the rules apply to them. Well done OP.

supersonicginandtonic · 09/01/2021 12:41

Honestly what are you people not getting?
You don't have to isolate with these tests 🙈 I despair at the human race I really do!

SchrodingersImmigrant · 09/01/2021 12:42

Do you people not have English at school? "asymptomatic", "encouraged by LA" and "no self isolation" aren't that difficult terms...

blue25 · 09/01/2021 12:49

Selfish of you. I’m with your neighbours.

YouBoughtMeAWall · 09/01/2021 12:50

@SchrodingersImmigrant

Do you people not have English at school? "asymptomatic", "encouraged by LA" and "no self isolation" aren't that difficult terms...
Do you have English at school? He wasn’t asymptomatic!
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Pigtailsandall · 09/01/2021 12:51

@YouBoughtMeAWall

And this is why we can’t stay out of lockdown. Selfish idiots who don’t think the rules apply to them. Well done OP.
We can't stay out of lockdown because we have an ineffective government and a broken track and trace, though that might be opening a whole other can of worms...

I did follow the rules, my regret is being a bit sharp with our neighbours because I do get that people are stressed and this is getting to us all

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SchrodingersImmigrant · 09/01/2021 12:51

He was asymptomatic! Don't make up bullshit just to try to make your argument right.

AvoidingNextdoorNeighbour · 09/01/2021 12:53

@BigTroubleLittleEngland

Aren't the guidelines to isolate if you've done a test and are waiting for the results? I can see why they'd be annoyed.
Not for asymptomatic testing, otherwise all care workers who get tested weekly would spend their days off quarantining at home.
oneglassandpuzzled · 09/01/2021 12:54

@blue25

Selfish of you. I’m with your neighbours.
You need to read the thread again and understand the different kinds of tests, reasons for tests, and rules about isolation.
C0NNIE · 09/01/2021 12:54

www.gov.uk/government/publications/community-testing-explainer/community-testing-explainer

Community testing uses lateral flow tests, which give the result within an hour.

The OP describes testing on NYE because her husband was symptomatic, not self isolating and then and getting the results on 2 January.

It’s not the same thing.

UrAWizHarry · 09/01/2021 12:54

It may have been an asymptomatic test but it's an understandable reaction given how on edge people are at the moment.

supersonicginandtonic · 09/01/2021 12:54

@YouBoughtMeAWall yes he was? A headache is not a main symptom of the virus and if you rang and said I need a test due to a headache they'd say no! 🙄 what are you not getting!

YouBoughtMeAWall · 09/01/2021 12:54

@SchrodingersImmigrant

He was asymptomatic! Don't make up bullshit just to try to make your argument right.
Nope- he had a headache. That’s a symptom.
CheetasOnFajitas · 09/01/2021 12:55

@YouBoughtMeAWall the reason that OP even mentioned the headache was to illustrate that they paid attention to him having a headache and concluded that it was not a Covid symptom. It is not on the list of symptoms that would trigger a symptomatic test, it was not accompanied by any other symptom and there was a clear possible reason why he might have a headache. Are you suggesting that every person who gets a headache after a long day working at a screen, or an evening drinking wine, should consider this a COVID symptom?

YouBoughtMeAWall · 09/01/2021 12:57

the reason that OP even mentioned the headache was to illustrate that they paid attention to him having a headache and concluded that it was not a Covid symptom.

Which was their mistake. What they should have done, instead of deciding they could tell it wasn’t covid by just deciding it wasn’t, was taken a test.

Southwest12 · 09/01/2021 12:57

You can also order PCR home tests as part of the community testing. That's what I did when it was introduced here, we were the first area to get it.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 09/01/2021 13:00

Fuck me if all of us with single case of headache were supposed to isolate because It'S a sYmPtOm then this country would come to stand still. I know quite a few people who get headache from going between cold and heated spaces now.

CheetasOnFajitas · 09/01/2021 13:00

@YouBoughtMeAWall

the reason that OP even mentioned the headache was to illustrate that they paid attention to him having a headache and concluded that it was not a Covid symptom.

Which was their mistake. What they should have done, instead of deciding they could tell it wasn’t covid by just deciding it wasn’t, was taken a test.

So you believe that anyone who ever gets a headache must take a test and isolate until they get the result? Have you actually read the questions that you are asked to answer when booking a symptomatic test?
supersonicginandtonic · 09/01/2021 13:00

@YouBoughtMeAWall not one of the main 3 symptoms it isn't ffs!
If I isolated every time I had a headache I wouldn't have left my house for a year! 🙄

AvoidingNextdoorNeighbour · 09/01/2021 13:01

@Arobase

Yes are an asshole for taking up covid tests, which despite what you say about your LA you had to lie about having symptoms to get, and swanning around as normal putting other people at risk.

Much more asshole-ish, @luxxlisbon, to make this sort of criticism without checking the facts. A number of LAs have indeed been encouraging asymptomatic testing: we were invited to have them, and it was specifically a condition of doing so that we didn't have symptoms.

Same here. All residents of two adjoining LAs were requested to test asymptomatically when cases began to rise in the area taking it to level 4. You didn't lie to get the test, you drove to the asymptomatic testing centres or requested a home kit. But this is MN. If you haven't seen it, it doesn't happen where you are or you've not heard of it then it cannot be true, right?

No doubt someone will try to correct me because I say Level and not Tier.

saraclara · 09/01/2021 13:02

@C0NNIE

www.gov.uk/government/publications/community-testing-explainer/community-testing-explainer

Community testing uses lateral flow tests, which give the result within an hour.

The OP describes testing on NYE because her husband was symptomatic, not self isolating and then and getting the results on 2 January.

It’s not the same thing.

No, she didn't say that at all. They got the test because they were shortly going back to school/work. The headache was five days before.