Neighbours pissed off - AIBU?

[Pigtailsandall]

Our local authority encourages asymptomatic testing, so before Christmas we ordered home testing kits, expecting to see DH's elderly parents. We got moved to tier 4 so there was no point in doing the test. We did nothing over Christmas, DH did a quick dash to the shops twice, I took our toddler to the playground on the 23rd and we got a few takeaway coffees from the local cafe. Other than that, we went for a daily walk either in the woods or small local park.
On the 27th DH complained headache but he had been up with DC at night who had been teething. Otherwise we were all healthy (and the headache passed during the day).
On New Year's Eve we decided to send off our Covid tests anyway as we had them lying around, and DC was due back in nursery on the 4th and I was due at work on the 3rd. After dropping them off, we went for a walk in the park and met a couple few doors down who have a DC same age. We kept a distance, chatted for about 10 minutes with the kids running around. Our tests came back in the 2nd and to our horror, DH tested positive. I and DC were both negative. We told the neighbours we met (also called the cafe we had visited) and the neighbours got furious with us. Absolutely fuming, they said we were irresponsible for being out after doing a Covid test and DH had been symptomatic (he hadn't). I get that they are stressed about getting Covid but if they are that concerned maybe they shouldn't go out at all as our contact was short and distanced, and I told them that because I was getting a bit fed up - their messages were coming through more and more irritated and frantic (DH was much more diplomatic)
AIBU for being annoyed at the neighbours? I tried to stay diplomatic but I felt they totally overreacted.

It was ASYMPTOMATIC testing! We have mass testing here - you just rock up and get a test (at a special asymptomatic test centre). There is no need to self-isolate unless you come back positive.

However, you do need to make it clear to people that you did not have symptoms. A lot of people think you can only get a test with symptoms so will get very annoyed if you say you've had a test and have then been out!

To be clear, you can only access asymptomatic testing in certain parts of the country (or if you are NHS).

Unless you know it’s because you ate cheese or walked into a wall then it should give you pause for thought

...or because you haven't slept?🤔

@Coffeeandcocopops

You took the test. The rules then say you isolate until you get the results. I too would be fuming with you for being a spreader.

No, they don't. Why do people persist in making this sort of absolute assertion without checking?

[quote YouBoughtMeAWall]@UrAWizHarry if you haven’t left your house then you know you won’t have covid. OPs husband clearly has exposed himself- so yeah- it was a possibility he had covid- which he did.[/quote]
He was exposed because his children were in school/nursery and because his dw went out to work. Should all parents who have a headache take a test when it's not one of the main covid symptoms which qualifies you for a test? As others have said this was an ASYMPTOMATIC test which means that you don't need to isolate. Assuming you were in tier 4, the neighbours broke the rules by talking to you. If they were so concerned about covid they would not have done that.

YANBU OP. I think it's a positive thing that you took the tests. Imagine if you'd gone back to work and your dc to nursey not knowing (because he was asymptomatic) that your DH was positive?

@YouBoughtMeAWall

Still waiting for you to show me how you can get a test without lying if you only have a headache?

It’s ok. Just do exactly as you’re told, when you’re told and don’t use your brain at all.

What part of “you can ONLY get a free NHS test if...” do you think I was misunderstanding when you barked at me “can you read?”.

I was asking can you read because you seemed to be struggling to read my post. Instead you decided to make things up like saying I had lied to get a test. Which wasn’t anywhere at all in my post.

You’re tying yourself up in knots now. I have no idea what point you are trying to make.

You did say that you think anyone with a headache only and no other symptom should be tested, right?

So if you have been tested with only a headache then you must have lied.

Or are you saying you’ve never had a headache since testing began?

@ScrumptiousBears

I don't know why you posted Op because you won't accept you are in the wrong so why ask.

Have you read the thread at all, @ScrumptiousBears? Numerous people have confirmed that OP certainly was not in the wrong.

Your neighbours must be in the same local authority as you surely? In which case why are they not aware of the asymptomatic testing being encouraged, and the fact that you don’t have to isolate pending the result?

Because the neighbours aren't set up to receive information messages from the LA and haven't checked their website? I didn't know my local authority was encouraging asymptomatic tests till a friend mentioned it.

@YouBoughtMeAWall

Please just fucking stop with this shit. People SHOULD NOT have a covid test if their only symptom is a headache unless expressly advised to do so. Doing so otherwise takes capacity away from people with more relevant symptoms who have a far likelyhood of being positive.

Jeez. I did not expect this thread to blow up like this. I guess the question has moved to a "is headache a Covid symptom?". It can be, but so can be many other things - diarrhoea, sore throat etc

It's a little like if you find a bruise on your baby - if you didn't know where it came from, be concerned. If your baby has a bruise because they fell on a pile of sharp lego, then that's probably it and nothingto be concerned about. It's an unpopular opinion but coincidences do happen.

Unexplained headache would have warranted different measures to a headache due to being up for ages in the middle of the night with an unhappy LO.

My dh is tested weekly. Of course he doesn't bloody isolate every week (NHS).

Also yeah, the whole country can't grind to a halt every time someone has a headache. Everyone's stressed, isolating, not getting fresh air, staring at screens - headaches galore

Totally agree op. My daughter's zoom call gave me a headache yesterday as she's so loud.

So how did you get a test on the basis of a headache only, @YouBoughtMeAWall? And can you show us where the rules state that anyone can get a test purely on the basis of a headache?

OP, you did nothing wrong!!

You can do tests even if you have no symptoms!! You are only supposed to isolate if you have one of the 3 symptoms - cough, fever, loss of taste or smell.

A headache is NOT one of the symptoms you are required to isolate for. Even if you do the test. FFS. If you have to travel got work and get a negative test as evidence you do not have to isolate.

Your neighbours are hysterical and anxious, and there's nothing you can do but ignore them. Send them a link to the official guidance on isolation. But you have done nothing wrong. But some people just cannot see sense around this issue and frankly, if they want to ruin the relationship you have, that's on them.

We have official walk in centres here you can test with no symptoms. The point being you can't isolate if you're going to a walk in centre, where you actually walk in...

they tell you to book it online only if you have any of the official symptoms.

I don't think the kids should have been running around together. To me that is the issue here.

@supersonicginandtonic

I'm absolutely flabbergasted how many stupid people there are around! The asymptomTic tests have been around and in the news for months. are people really this stupid in real life?

Unfortunately yes they are.

Some of the people commenting on this thread are a bit dense. The OP's DH was 'asymptomatic' so had no symptoms of Covid-19. He or their household did not need to self isolate before the positive result and your neighbours are over reacting. Everyone who has been in contact with a positive case will be inconvenienced with work/childcare issues.

I'm in tier 4 and our council is offering Covid-19 tests to residents without symptoms as they are simply trying to get our numbers down.

I've got a headache from reading this thread. I won't be having a test though (even though my local council have recently introduced asymptomatic testing for anyone that wants it).

There are some very obtuse people on here.

[quote supersonicginandtonic]@CharlotteRose90 read the whole bloody thread for goodness sake! I'm worried about humanity with people as stupid as this walking around.
Also why did you take a test for a headache? [/quote]
I read up to my comment which is why I commented. I got a test through work wasn’t an NHS test before you ask.

Plus I had a test 2 weeks ago and was told by the nurse doing it that you are meant to isolate after having a test. Who knows what’s right anymore.

Headaches can be a symptom of covid

Here is the current guidelines. Not hard to find with a quick google search

@CharlotteRose90 oh ffs! You are supposed to isolate if you have had a test due to experiencing symptoms NOT if you have been tested due to work or the asymptomatic tests. It's really not difficult to understand is it?

@hardboiledeggs the CAN is a big clue, they can also be a symptom of other things. I've got muscle aches, Fatigue and headaches. I however, do not have COVID, I'm a 28 week pregnant, mother of 5.