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To be annoyed that this woman ruins my dog walks?

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IAmARectangle · 07/01/2021 14:55

I've name changed for this as I've moaned to a couple of friends in RL about it.

I live in a village that has a massive park in it, and I take our dog over to the park each day at least once as she loves it there. There is an area specifically for dogs so she can go off the lead, and she enjoys walking through the rest of it on the lead so she can have a sniff. The only other place in our village where she could go off the lead would be some woods, which are a fair walk from our house to get there and are also very muddy and flooded at this time of year. I am currently working from home and the kids are doing online learning, so I like to just nip out for a quick half hour walk.

For the last year or so there has been a woman with a dog who is at the park literally every single time I go there. Lets just say she is a chatterbox! She is always talking to someone at the park and if she gets there with her dog she makes a beeline to find someone to talk to and then talks and talks and talks and talks, about the same things over and over again.

In the last couple of months she makes a beeline for me every time she sees me. She is there literally every time I go to the park; I've tried walking the dog at every single time of daylight hours you could think of to avoid her but she is always, always there! If I think she's not there it isn't long before I see her out of the corner of my eye walking towards me and if I pretend not to see her she follows me and catches up with me, then just walks along talking at me and I just can't get away from her.

The other day I was on a work call whilst in the dog exercising area and this woman came and stood with me and as I walked around the area talking on my phone she just talked at me the whole time! I wasn't interacting with her in any way as I was on the phone but she just kept telling me the same stories that she's told me before, such as the story of where she got her dog from!

I've just literally been to the park now and as I walked into the park she was standing talking to someone so I sort of did a detour around her at the entrance so she wouldn't see me and went around the kids play area to enter the dog area a different way and yet still as we walked across the park to the dog area I could see her out of the corner of my eye following us. So I kept the dog on the lead and walked through the park as quickly as I could then made an escape and had to walk home on the main road as she was trying to catch us up.

It sounds ridiculous but she is ruining my dog walks! I like a half hour quiet walk to relax and for the dog to enjoy her walk. I'm not antisocial and always have chats with other walkers but this woman is something else! I'm normally pretty assertive but I've tried all the assertive things that would normally work and she doesn't get the hint. Even walking off from her saying 'right, better go now' she just follows me, talking at me! I can't get away from her until I actually walk out of the park gates. I've also been at the park with a friend and her dog before and this woman just started walking with us, talking 'at' us the whole time. Again, same old stories!

I don't think she's lonely as she talks about a husband and kids at home, and seems to know a lot of people. Not sure if age is relevant but she's late forties, early fifties at a guess.

AIBU to be pissed off with her?

OP posts:
Pigtailsandall · 12/01/2021 14:52

Tell her you are feeling very unwell and feverish, then cough loudly Grin. She will think you're a dick being out and about but she will keep her distance!

coffeelover3 · 12/01/2021 15:05

What about a big mask, balaclava type thing, and large headphones, and just ignore - walk swiftly by? I dunno OP I think if the ignoring doesn't work then youre going to have to just say 'sorry I cant talk now' and walk on by.

Ludo19 · 12/01/2021 15:22

Nah fuck being kind. OP should be kind to this extremely annoying person and put her own feelings to the side???

Regardless if she's lonely or not playing with a full deck you should be entitled to go about your business in peace!!!

RealisticSketch · 12/01/2021 15:27

Don't see why putting your own feelings first means you can't be kind. There is a difference. You can use non threatening body language and face expression and still say. 'I don't want to talk to you' that is putting your feelings first without a big Fuck off you daft cow type response. The woman isn't being malicious so why be nasty if you don't need to? That doesn't mean her feelings come before your own, you can do both. Confused

sparticuscaticus · 13/01/2021 01:26

OP hasn't been on thread since last Thursday, which is a shame as there have been good suggestions made by some PPs that isnt rude to state fact- that for them walking dog is personal quiet time.

It's a very British politeness about endlessly tolerating and listening to a stranger you have no interest in, who is repeatedly monopolising your time to the point you dread going to a favourite place. Rather than stating simply that you don't want to chat and want to enjoy your dog walks in quiet - just you and DDog

There have been good suggestions about how to do that effectively with little interaction and no need of resorting to excuses nor apologies.

CostaDelCovid · 13/01/2021 01:59

How's things now OP? @IAmARectangle

Ddot · 14/01/2021 15:25

Look I'm really sorry but if you dont mind I would really like some solitude. It's nothing personal but I come here to be alone. Lovely to meet you but HELLO is all i can manage at the moment.
If that doesn't do the trick try. Sorry but can I stop you there, I've been polite and explained the situation now please leave me alone with my dog.

Ddot · 14/01/2021 15:27

If she spends all day in the park, is her dog ok, is it underweight. I'm rather more concerned about the dog.

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