To think my my MIL get a taxi to her hospital appointments this week?

[Dinnerisburnt]

So, my MIL is 92 and has a hospital appointment on Friday about her eye sight. She doesn’t drive any longer and is reliant on myself and my husband for lifts. She also has a COVID vaccine booked for Saturday. My husband broke his arm just after Xmas so I am doing all the driving for the next 5/6 weeks. Yesterday my MIL got a taxi to a chiropodist appointment as she didn’t want to ask me for a lift. I don’t want to take her to the hospital now as she got in a taxi yesterday and am also reluctant to taker her for her COVID jab. Am I being really unreasonable? I haven’t seen my family since July or had my haircut since then, all I do is walk the dog and look after the kids and drop off MIL’s shopping as she won’t go to the supermarket. It just doesn’t seem fair that I am now expected to drive her to her appointments later this week when she was able to get a taxi yesterday.

I hope this isn't real

Hang on OP.

You say you'd happily take her but it is clear the poor woman knew you wouldn't. so she got a taxi. Now you won't take her...to get a covid vaccine!!!!!

Not sure what your hair has to do with anything.
You sound awful, selfish and massively ,massively BU.

Bless her heart.
I bet she was happy when her son married you.
Show some compassion.

@ZOhZee

but it’s what you do for aged family members

It's what women do for their relatives and in-laws.

I've yet to have a male member of staff declare any sort of caring responsibility for an in-law, yet had several female staff working around family care commitments (including in-laws) over the years, where we are able to be flexible. Similar in my friend network. No male carers that I can think of.

I'm not commenting on what the op should do, but let's not pretend men have equal pressure (from others, and on themselves) to be a family carer. Willing or not. Capacity or not.

It's women's work.

Big shoehorn there. Perhaps OP could use it to shovel her broken armed DH into a car.

@saraclara

I very much hope your MIL spends your husband's entire inheritance on taxis, tequila and hot houseboys who will help her get to appointments.

Ha! So do I.

Me three

I very much hope your MIL spends your husband's entire inheritance on taxis, tequila and hot houseboys who will help her get to appointments.

Agreed!

Absolutely spot on. It’s family.

Take her.
If you really resent it, for whatever reason, is there not a volunteer Red Cross hospital transport service or suchlike? Ask the hospital department. There will be some patients with no relatives to rely on.

I would drive her. It’s a bit harsh to not want to help her out, You are family after all.

I would also drive her. I think you’re being horrible actually

She would rather get in a potentially infected covid taxi then ask you....something to think about. Oh and yabvu. She's 92 fgs

Just take her to her appointment 🙄

@Hobbesmanc

Bloody hell. She maybe picked up that you resent driving her around and that's why she got a taxi. I can't imagine not wanting to help a 92 year old. Bless her. Just wear masks and sit her in the back

This is my opinion of this situation too. OP is being very selfish. There are plenty of precautions you can take when travelling together in a car like masks, passenger sitting in back & opening windows to allow a free flow of air. I have extra blankets in my car right now as I give a mum friend lifts to do her shopping. She has been furloughed since April, UC have screwed her over since she had to sign onto that shower of shite so she is on the bones of her ass financially & she is suffering badly with long covid. We have both had the virus, me 1st at start of October & her at the beginning of November so we have spent more time helping each other out recently. When the kids went back to school we started to go for socially distanced walks together & as our kids are in the same class at school we have decided that during lockdown we will occasionally let them come along for a PE lesson 😂👍Sadly their social distancing leaves a lot to be desired so we have masked them both for safety 😂 It is so dangerous for a partially sighted person of any age to be going out anywhere right now. They have to touch a lot of surfaces to keep themselves orientated so having OP drive her to & help her to appointments would be safer for all. OP has said husband is home with a broken arm so he can supervise the zoom & class work. He is an adult & is no more or less qualified to home school than most of us other parents & carers doing this again 😂

@Bookworming

I very much hope your MIL spends your husband's entire inheritance on taxis, tequila and hot houseboys who will help her get to appointments.

Agreed!

Bookworming you win the internet today 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I hope granny does that too 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

id take her if she was my mil i would not want her going on public transport with or without covid but then id also be taking her shopping or doung it for her to protect her too

Due to her age is she getting an allowance ( not sure what it’s called) to cover things like getting a taxi for medical appointment in addition to her oap pension? If she is then she can probably afford a taxi. But if is struggling financially then I suppose you need to show kindness and take her.

@Grrrrdarling much as I'd like to claim that. I was quoting @saraclara!

She definitely claims Internet today!

Well done @saraclara 🏆

[quote Bookworming]**@Grrrrdarling* much as I'd like to claim that. I was quoting @saraclara*!

She definitely claims Internet today!

Well done @saraclara 🏆 [/quote]
...and I was quoting @EuroTrashed ! I'll pass the trophy on for you!

I would drive anyone elderly who needed it. She's had the sense to stop driving. It's not her fault the appointments are within 24 hours of each other. Be Kind. It will be you one day.

I think you need to look at the bigger picture. Once she has the vaccine she will have some protection and can be more independent. At 92 i would say she needs some assistance to get around and I would be scared a taxi wouldn’t be enough and she might need help. I think you need to stop looking at this as a chore as do the right thing and continue offer her a lift and some support.

@saraclara @Bookworming @Grrrrdarling
I'm cheap, I'll take the plaudits (I'd like to thank my hairdresser, my therapist and my off licence...)

Unless the hospital, can provide transportation, YABU, your MIL is 92.

I hope your DIL isnt such a b to you when you're 92!

Wow this is scary.

Of course you should take her if you can.

I wouldn’t expect a 92yo to sit in a car with all the windows down in January though. It’s bloody freezing at the moment, and COVID isn’t the only thing than can harm people!