To think my my MIL get a taxi to her hospital appointments this week?

[Dinnerisburnt]

So, my MIL is 92 and has a hospital appointment on Friday about her eye sight. She doesn’t drive any longer and is reliant on myself and my husband for lifts. She also has a COVID vaccine booked for Saturday. My husband broke his arm just after Xmas so I am doing all the driving for the next 5/6 weeks. Yesterday my MIL got a taxi to a chiropodist appointment as she didn’t want to ask me for a lift. I don’t want to take her to the hospital now as she got in a taxi yesterday and am also reluctant to taker her for her COVID jab. Am I being really unreasonable? I haven’t seen my family since July or had my haircut since then, all I do is walk the dog and look after the kids and drop off MIL’s shopping as she won’t go to the supermarket. It just doesn’t seem fair that I am now expected to drive her to her appointments later this week when she was able to get a taxi yesterday.

Tbh I think your awful, she’s 92! I’d rather take my mother in law than her get a taxi......at least with you the car is clean your not unwell and she’ll be a lot safer.

YABU. My mother is the same. Eyesight major issues going back and forth from hospital. I go in hospital with her too. She has memory issues and walking is tricky. Taxi is risky. I always take her.

Personally I’d rather drive her and wear masks and open windows than have her get in a taxi with a driver that’s in close contact with probably hundreds of different people a day 🤷🏻‍♀️🙈 and she’s 92?? You are being massively unreasonable here.

Some day, if you’re lucky, you’re going to be 92.

I hope your DiL is kinder than you are.

I’m guessing she’s in your ‘bubble’, in which case, yes, you should absolutely take her. I can’t imagine how worrying it is for her to have to get a taxi at her age & being vulnerable too!

tbh I would say take her if you can and reduce the risk to her especially given her age.

@Yogalola what allowance are you referring too? Some family members think outside the price of a taxi fare!

And you suppose if she isn't getting an allowance and is struggling financially then you would do it?

What about safety for a 92 year during a global
Pandemic?

Like "mum, what were you thinking off, never go by taco again, I'll do it until DH is got to do it", we don't want you risking your life"

I think both you and the OP sound as absolutely awful as each other! It's not all about £££££s!

Shame on you both!

By taxi not taco! 🙄

@EuroTrashed

I very much hope your MIL spends your husband's entire inheritance on taxis, tequila and hot houseboys who will help her get to appointments.

Out of interest, why is your husband "furious" with his mother for making and keeping her medical appointments?

^ This x 1000

I know it is difficult when you are looking after others, but bloody hell OP! She is 92!

I suspect she didn’t feel comfortable in the taxi. But if you are abiding by the rules then you are a safer bet than the taxi driver.
She’s 92. Please help her.

What a weird post. You'll happily drive her, but because she got a taxi once, presumably to lighter your llad as she knew you had other appts to take her to, you now domt want to drive her? Strange and unreasonable.

Flipping hell. 92 years old and resent her a lift to her appointments? #vile

Wow! You're happy to let a vulnerable 92 year old get taxis to important appointments? I hope my future daughter in laws think more of me than you obviously do about her!

You and your husband don't sound at all understanding. Most 92 year olds are less independant than your MIL. They do not cancel their own appointments, go to supermarkets on their own, etc. I know there are exceptions, I have met one man who is still on a helpline overnight and driving around, going for walks etc but he really is an exception. It is time to be kinder and more supportive of her, it really sounds as if she is doing her best. Your husband must be at least 50 ( if she was 42 when he was born). Do you have young children who can't be left? I am late 60s and supposed to be shielding but I would definitely take her to these appointments and would also not make her feel uncomfortable. I know many men who do offer support to their parents too. My brother was great with my Mum. As your husband can't drive just now you need to cover this and be cheerful aboout it. You both need to step up, what will you do if she becomes more ill or confused?

Have some compassion fgs. Of course you should take her.

You might need help one day. Come on she's 92.

Err she is 92, come on OP have a heart

I’m astonished that16% of votes support OP’s position!

Shame on all of you.

I agree with OP. She isn't her MILs keeper, though has been landed rather, she has been sensibly avoiding close contact with others, then her MIL unnecessarily puts herself in a possibly germy taxi, which could infect OP. MIL is daft.

I didn’t get this at first, but yes yabvu not to take her on the grounds that she once or twice got in a taxi.

Your DH could always come with you and take her into the appointments if you are fearful of going inside.

Wow one of the meanest, most unreasonable AIBUS I have ever seen

If you shop at supermarkets there is no logical reason her being in a taxi should bother you.

She’s 92, you don’t mention any vulnerability or extreme care responsibilities so drive her to hospital OP - I know it’s lockdown, but no one is an island etc.

I bet neither of you will be furious with her when you get your inheritance. 92 abs you’d begrudge her a lift. Shameful.

It'd be nice if @Dinnerisburnt came back with a mea culpa as gracious as that of the OP of the tutor cancelling thread. But it's not looking likely.

My hospital appointments have been moved so it's 53 miles, that's £80 to £100 taxi cost each way. I've cancelled.