So bloody cross with my Mum.

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DM lives alone and has bubbled with my household. She came over yesterday for a cup of tea, all completely normal. She text me today to say she’s been for a COVID test as she’s had a sore throat for 3 days. I am absolutely fuming with her for putting my family at risk and for being so sneaky and not even mentioning it yesterday. How do I get past her behaviour ☹️

For all of those saying

‘A sore throat isnt a symptom’

It is.... And was in the top before they decided to add loss of smell and taste!!!!

All the people saying a sore throat isn't one of the symptoms are right. However a work colleague of mine has a sore throat and headache. Got a test, it was positive. Felt ok for the first 5 days, then was admitted to hospital and on day 8 was admitted to icu. She's still there now after 3 weeks. You are right to be annoyed.

Having read other threads where families have tested positive just with cold symptoms, or even no symptoms at all, I wouldn't rule out a sore throat

But here's the thing. We're all on Mumsnet reading this stuff every day. The average person isn't. They're not getting this sort of detail. Especially if they're older and just going by what's on TV.

You can't judge people for not knowing about things that aren't being publicised widely.

My only symptom was a sore throat. I lied to get a test. Positive.

@tttigress

Maybe she doesn't have Covid?

Also Covid is not that dangerous for younger people like you, even if you are pregnant.

But why would you risk giving it to your daughter and grandchildren at all? All for the sake of a cup of tea? It hardly sounds like the grandmother is all alone and struggling.

And covid is dangerous for some younger people. Again, why the hell would you risk it?

I’d be mad too OP.
I think she was selfish to have come over.
Im normal times, yes. In the middle of a pandemic, no.
I hope it’s negative.

I'd be furious and next time she fancies a cup of tea, she'd find her bubble had popped. Surely it's just a basic courtesy to keep away from others at the moment if there's even a hint of a symptom.

Im so confused about these comments

If someone is in a bubble with you, they have to be careful and if they have felt ill.
ANY symptom the person shouldnt of come round

There is now a HUGE range of symptoms with covid.
Headache and sore throat being two of the top ones in people i know who have had it. As well as diarrhoea and feeling sick

I’d be furious.

I’m lucky enough to be part of a workplace where we can get “symptomless tests” (university). Basically, anyone who wants one can have one. A LOT of my students and a couple of my colleagues had sore throats as their only symptom. Some had headaches or nausea but none of the main listed symptoms. Many, MANY were asymptomatic. Initially, upon return to university, case numbers were very high but through testing and isolating we’d all but eradicated it before Christmas.

People can bleat away as much as they like about “cold like symptoms”, “sore throats” etc not being indications of Covid but it’s simply not the case. It’s best to get tested if you can. Twice I’ve been invited by the Zoe App to test without any of the three main symptoms but with other, cold or allergy like symptoms.

THIS is what your average person will get when they turn to their most trusted source of information.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/symptoms/

Until the govt/NHS starts giving people more information about other symptoms, you can't go blaming anyone for not recognising that a normal winter ailment could mean more.

@blueleonburger

You’ve chosen to bubble with her. Meaning it’s like your DP or DC getting symptoms and testing for them. Would you be angry at them too? At least she’s taking precautions. She’s your family too, btw.

When you self isolate, even while waiting for results, you're supposed to isolate from your household/bubble, if possible. For Op's DM that is very possible, as she doesn't live in the same house. It's not the same as for someone who has to provide care for someone like a child who they live with.

@Chicchicchicchiclana exactly, in the ‘olden days’ before covid, people felt bad for spreading a normal cold or stomach upset to family members. Why would anyone be ok with spreading an illness, any illness to a loved one ?

Intention matters.

Was she deliberately sneaking to get one up on you then smugly letting you know she did it? So was she being a manipulative nasty dickhead to you? If she was then I am sure she has form for it. I have family members who would do this (that's one of many reasons why they are not allowed to be in my bubble).

Or was it more hmm after a day with covid-worrier daughter I'm thinking maybe any hint of ENT illness and I should get a test. I'll mention it to her because I am the type of person who thinks with my mouth open.

The latter would be the most likely in most normal people. So, is she normally manipulative or normally easily swayed by the winds?

The ‘official’ list of symptoms is not definitive.

I’ve heard of people having diarrhoea or sore throats - it seems to vary quite a bit.
🤞your mum will test negative, OP.

Cannot believe some of the answers on here after this length of time.

A sore throat is very much a sympton of covid. Mine started with one then diarrhoea.

Op, you have every right to be cross.

Just for info, my daughter had Covid-19 and was ill for 10 days. A sore throat was the first, main and worst symptom she had.

@JamieLeesCurtains

Genuine question - how did she get a Covid test for a sore throat? I thought you needed a 'classic' symptom ie high temp, new continuous cough, loss of taste/smell.

You just tick a box online to say you have one of the main three symptoms, even if you don’t.

Some people on here are crackers! Even if it wasn’t for covid I would rather people didn’t come round to my house whilst ill anyway because I would rather not catch it!

She’s had it for 3 days, thought it was serious enough to have a test so should have been isolating herself anyway. It isn’t compulsory you share illnesses within your bubble just because they are in your bubble!

SORE THROAT IS A SYMPTOM!!!!!

Ffs!!!!!!

@saraclara

Having read other threads where families have tested positive just with cold symptoms, or even no symptoms at all, I wouldn't rule out a sore throat

But here's the thing. We're all on Mumsnet reading this stuff every day. The average person isn't. They're not getting this sort of detail. Especially if they're older and just going by what's on TV.

You can't judge people for not knowing about things that aren't being publicised widely.

Well the op's mum clearly thought it could be covid as she got a test!

sore throat is on a fairly long list of symptoms contact tracers will check for if you test positive.

I hate when people tell me halfway through a visit that they have been feeling rough for whatever reason. I have a condition which means that when I am ill my immune system goes crazy and attacks my own body so if I worry a LOT about getting little things like sickness bugs or a cold let alone covid 19!

It's easy to get a test if you have a sore throat - lie! She may have lied about her symptoms to enable her to get a test, obviously.

I agree with you, I would be annoyed that she didnt think my family was important enough for her to warn me and let me decide. She took all the decisions herself.

Very selfish

Visiting someone when you have a sore throat and not letting them know is poor form at the best of times, especially when the household contains a pregnant mother and a baby!

Your mum made a mistake, she wasn't thinking straight - bad.

Your mum made a mistake telling you she had had a sore throat and then was tested for covid - very, very bad.

I presume you kept your distance while having a cup of tea with your mother in your bubble, being as you know she goes out to work, etc.

You observed the recommended hygiene etc.

Being pregnant and having a one year old does not make you more vulnerable to Covid-19.

If you go out you are just as likely to catch it from someone or somewhere else, never mind your mum.

I hope none of you have it.