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So bloody cross with my Mum.

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mioz · 03/01/2021 12:58

DM lives alone and has bubbled with my household. She came over yesterday for a cup of tea, all completely normal. She text me today to say she’s been for a COVID test as she’s had a sore throat for 3 days. I am absolutely fuming with her for putting my family at risk and for being so sneaky and not even mentioning it yesterday. How do I get past her behaviour ☹️

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Plonque · 04/01/2021 20:44

So much misinformation on this thread, which is exactly why the country is down the shitter.

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mioz · 04/01/2021 20:46

@niknac1

If you call 111 they would not advise a COVID test for a sore throat.
Why would you call 111 with a sore throat? I’d be more likely to get a COVID test because of a sore throat than call 111
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mioz · 04/01/2021 20:48

Literally the first thing on google when you ask for the symptoms:

What are some of the most common symptoms of the coronavirus disease?

The most common symptoms of COVID-19 are fever, dry cough, and tiredness. Other symptoms that are less common and may affect some patients include loss of taste or smell, aches and pains, headache, sore throat, nasal congestion, red eyes, diarrhoea, or a skin rash.

Are some of you stopping at ‘tiredness’ and assuming you don’t need a test?

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Janus · 04/01/2021 21:30

I rang up the specific Covid test line when my daughter had a sore throat (about a month ago) and they categorically refused to test her. She said they’d only test if she had one of the 3 main symptoms - cough, temperature or loss of taste. She was absolutely adamant on that. Cannot think how your mum had a test but glad it was negative.

MacTheFork · 04/01/2021 22:11

Glad to hear your mum’s test was negative and that you’ve been able to talk it through with her.

ERFFER · 04/01/2021 22:18

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WanderingHopefully · 04/01/2021 22:18

@niknac1

If you call 111 they would not advise a COVID test for a sore throat.
No-one with a sore throat should be calling 111. And that isn't how you would book a covid test anyway.
niknac1 · 04/01/2021 22:33

I have booked a COVID test and the system only allows for symptomatic test for continuous coughs, high temperature and loss of taste or smell. Tests can also be booked for other reasons but the symptoms are these. If you wanted to check you might call 111 or the COVID booking telephone line and they would ask about the aforementioned symptoms. They don’t consider headaches or sore throat reasons for a test or self isolation. The NHS would collapse if they booked tests for the headaches or sore throats.

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mioz · 04/01/2021 22:39

@niknac1

I have booked a COVID test and the system only allows for symptomatic test for continuous coughs, high temperature and loss of taste or smell. Tests can also be booked for other reasons but the symptoms are these. If you wanted to check you might call 111 or the COVID booking telephone line and they would ask about the aforementioned symptoms. They don’t consider headaches or sore throat reasons for a test or self isolation. The NHS would collapse if they booked tests for the headaches or sore throats.
Well luckily the NHS is thriving currently! My local test centre always has hundreds and hundreds of appointments left available at the end of every day. There is also different criteria in different places for who is deemed suitable for a test.
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Wheresmykimchi · 04/01/2021 22:49

The nhS is thriving? Are you ok OP?!

BronH · 04/01/2021 22:50

To be fair, a sore throat has never been mentioned as a symptom of COVID. I know from personal experience that when you test positive you’re given a much broader range of symptoms that could indicate COVID ( including a sore throat) but you don’t know what you don’t know. I’d blame the government for not publicising all off the symptoms rather than your Mum

MustardMitt · 04/01/2021 23:51

YANBU and I too am perplexed by some attitudes on here. It’s selfish to know you’re unwell and hide that from your loved ones, especially when pregnant, high risk or not Hmm

JamieLeesCurtains · 05/01/2021 01:05

@Janus

I rang up the specific Covid test line when my daughter had a sore throat (about a month ago) and they categorically refused to test her. She said they’d only test if she had one of the 3 main symptoms - cough, temperature or loss of taste. She was absolutely adamant on that. Cannot think how your mum had a test but glad it was negative.
This is exactly what happened to me and DP.

Refused tests despite symptoms including sore throat, tiredness, headaches.

Jillypots · 05/01/2021 04:29

This. Poor Mum.

SmeleanorSmellstrop · 05/01/2021 05:07

I don't live in thr UK but am shocked to hear that a sore throat isn't considered a symtom when it seems to be a very common symptom of mild covid cases?

Mally2020 · 05/01/2021 05:38

what stupid comments on here, exhaustion and sore throats were my first two symptoms.As a tester and vaccinator sore throats are clear indicators.

linsey2581 · 05/01/2021 06:01

Maybe you should go and talk to her instead of talking about her behind her back and generally bitching about her on the internet. Also a sore throat is not a symptom of COVID

Sinful8 · 05/01/2021 06:03

@mioz

DM lives alone and has bubbled with my household. She came over yesterday for a cup of tea, all completely normal. She text me today to say she’s been for a COVID test as she’s had a sore throat for 3 days. I am absolutely fuming with her for putting my family at risk and for being so sneaky and not even mentioning it yesterday. How do I get past her behaviour ☹️
You probbaly gave it to her is shes been bubling and she met you....
SallyB392 · 05/01/2021 07:14

I'd be furious, but what's done is done. MUm is probably scared and maybe buried her head in the sand. I think it's the now you need to deal with. Make sure she's got every thing she needs, and deal with the fall out when and if.

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mioz · 05/01/2021 08:46

@Wheresmykimchi

The nhS is thriving? Are you ok OP?!
It was sarcasm..
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mioz · 05/01/2021 08:47

You probbaly gave it to her is shes been bubling and she met you

May I invite you to RTFT

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oldandtiredandold · 05/01/2021 08:51

We test for covid in Oz if you have a sore throat. It is a symptom. I can't believe you guys are in lockdown again yet you have people saying 'it's not a symptom' and 'get a grip'.

cissyandbessy · 05/01/2021 09:14

The responses on this thread are so weird! I I agree with you OP that you are perfectly reasonable to be annoyed with someone close to you who didn't tell you they were feeling ill IN A PANDEMIC. We surely all have to take extra steps now to inform people we mix with about our health status given the effect it could have on them if we are positive? Posters mocking and eye rolling that you are just being uptight and not cool as it's just a sore throat in my opinion are wrong and I don't think such casual dismissal of illness is going to help us get out of this mess. I had a sore throat a few days ago and the Zoe app requested I book a test. Hope your mum tests negative.

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mioz · 05/01/2021 09:17

@oldandtiredandold

We test for covid in Oz if you have a sore throat. It is a symptom. I can't believe you guys are in lockdown again yet you have people saying 'it's not a symptom' and 'get a grip'.
👏 👏
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Beline4u · 05/01/2021 11:00

Do people really believe that covid just has 3 symptoms? Do people not have common sense? Do people rely on others i.e. the government (they've really showed to be helpful) to tell them what to do rather than actually do more research?

Everybody is different therefore will experience symptoms differently. There are more common symptoms therefore they will be highlighted. When you do a bit more reading (research) you will clearly see there are other symptoms. SO, you may not have the most common.

To the people who are saying she is "bitching". She is venting, in a place where she can be honest about how she feels, which she has every right to do because there are too many people like you who cant support her in her frustrating- which is clearly acceptable in the current climate!