So bloody cross with my Mum.

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DM lives alone and has bubbled with my household. She came over yesterday for a cup of tea, all completely normal. She text me today to say she’s been for a COVID test as she’s had a sore throat for 3 days. I am absolutely fuming with her for putting my family at risk and for being so sneaky and not even mentioning it yesterday. How do I get past her behaviour ☹️

Does she go out? Does she mix? I think my response would depend on that. My mum goes absolutely nowhere, so I wouldn’t suspect covid.
Saying that, she would tell me anyway as she wouldn’t want us to get sore throats.

If your mother thought she had a symptom that needed testing for, she shouldn't have seen anyone at all until she had the result. I'd have been annoyed too OP.

My DH is in my bubble but he does all the shopping. If your Mum is in your bubble then it's presumed your safe. Do you do her shopping or does she do her own? She probably had a scratchy throat but didn't think much of it as its not a cough or a high temperature. You're upset that she came when she was ill.

Suzi888 OP says her mother works so I imagine she would be in contact with people.

I would go to work with a sore throat, your mother hasn’t endangered you. If that’s her only symptom she shouldn’t have been given a COVID test.

It would not be so much that she had a sore throat but that she had felt the need to test and result was pending.

@niknac1 my husband's only symptom was sore throat. Mine was complete exhaustion. We both tested positive. There are many symptoms.

Your mum was irresponsible. If she felt concerned enough to get a test then she was unreasonable to attend your home. I would be fuming!

How many times does it need saying A SORE THROAT IS A FUCKING SYMPTOM and has been from day one. Yanbu op.

I had NO classic symptoms but tested positive. If you feel unwell at all you should isolate in my opinion. I would be very angry with her for not mentioning it and deciding together whether to take the risk.

The problem is that some people just put their fingers in their ears and won't accept that there aren't just three symptoms of Covid and insist that if you don't have those three then you can't possibly have Covid. It's no wonder that there are over 50,000 new Covid cases every day.

I don't understand if people are acting deliberately dense or really don't understand how a soreness in the respiratory tract is a quite likely consequence of a respiratory infection regardless of what the bloody government says. And the Venn diagram of these people and those who moan about people not using common sense is a circle.

Besides, the classic 3 symptoms are so last year. All the cool kids with the hip new variant are getting head cold symptoms and sore throats.

Unfortunitility families are full of people who care and others who can't be bothered.
I'd try and support your mother from a distance as you can't risk your families health.
Best wishes for your family's health.

For everyone saying that a sore throat is not a symptom - it is. Myself and boys had a sore throat to start with. I am on day 13 now and it is miserable. Even disappeared for a day or two - full on flu symptoms on day 9. It has floored me.

A sore throat was symptom enough for people to get tested 6 months ago, so why not now? The virus hasn’t mutated that much that the original symptoms should just be ignored.
Can’t believe some of the responses here. OP, I would be pissed off too.

There are some people who get it (or they have never had it) who aren't greatly effected by it. So therefore feel there is no big deal. They dont need to behave in a manner to protect others. It's down right infuriating!

While myself and husband had it, we are very lucky to not be floored by it. We could function. Only recently have I come across a family who may loose a parent because of it. Covid is horrible and those people who think there are only 3 symptoms are down right ignorant and irresponsible.

As to the various symptoms, I had none of the main three, I had what was similar to the most horrific case of norovirus in August, I have never been so ill, my GP told me to get a test......came back positive! None of the three main symptoms whatsoever, just what felt like the worst food poisoning/worst case of norovirus ever, and in boiling hot August! And I live with my DP who is in the extremely clinically vulnerable group due to being steroid dependent long term and having immunosuppressant infusion therapy every eight weeks. Fortunately, no one else caught it due to me being separated from the rest of the family until I was better.

Regarding bubbles, I had one with my sister who lives on her own but when I found out she was seeing and mixing with loads of other people, I popped that bubble, I just can’t risk it.

OP, you are right but does your mum really get it? I know my dear old mum, since departed, would not have dealt with the lockdowns well and all the restrictions, masks etc etc, yes I would have been cross with her for sure but I wouldn’t believe she had done it on purpose, mind you my mum was 67 when she died, I just thank my lucky stars she didn’t have to live through this pandemic, she would be a complete nightmare!

@Zakana Yes, I had the most terrible nausea I've ever had. (I do normally have a cast-iron stomach, though.) That was alongside the best known symptoms plus chest pain, breathlessness and dizzy spells. I also ended with really thick phlegm that made me choke.

I now have long Covid; I suffer from coughing fits. breathlessness, dizzy spells and brain fog.

A lot of people need to take this much more seriously than they are.

our stupid government should update and let more symtoms trigger a test lots of people have tested postive with just a sore throat

@Dinkydody

Surprised she got a test for Covid. You should be ashamed of yourself complaining about your mum on a public forum. What a selfish self centred attitude!!!

And you should be ashamed for writing stupid replies like this. I have reported (not something I do often).

I would be annoyed with her too. Could she not have stayed home until the result came back.This is why the virus is spreading rapidly. People are going out when they think they may have covid. How irresponsible. Lpckdown is on its way again in England. I live alone and bubble with my daughter. I wouldn't dream of visiting for a cup of tea if I was going to get tested for covid.

Hi all, luckily mum tested negative (got results about an hour ago). She knows I was upset with her thoughtlessness (not the fact she may have had COVID because we knew our risks when we bubbled) but because she knowingly came over unwell and didn’t mention it. She’s apologised and said she knew she shouldn’t have come over. Very happy she doesn’t have the virus and we’ll now keep our distances until she’s 100% better and she has promised to let me know if she’s ever feeling poorly again and we will obviously do the same for her. For those saying I am selfish or heartless, maybe I am, but I am a mother too and have my own family to think of also. As I said I lost my job due to COVID so DH is now the only earner. If he catches it and cannot work it could be devastating for our finances and obviously we don’t want to risk anyone’s health within our bubble either. I guess I was upset that my DM didn’t have the same level of regard for our health as we would have for hers.

Also:
A SORE THROAT IS A SYMPTOM

Thanks

Yay OP.

And yes SORE THROAT IS A SYMPTOM.