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Original poster

So bloody cross with my Mum.

443 replies

mioz · 03/01/2021 12:58

DM lives alone and has bubbled with my household. She came over yesterday for a cup of tea, all completely normal. She text me today to say she’s been for a COVID test as she’s had a sore throat for 3 days. I am absolutely fuming with her for putting my family at risk and for being so sneaky and not even mentioning it yesterday. How do I get past her behaviour ☹️

OP posts:
Blulights · 04/01/2021 18:47

To be honest we should all assume we have covid and then maybe we wouldn't mix and ruin the NHS in the process.
You're as much to blame for mixing regardless of ridiculous bubbles which is just fueling the virus.
The issue is everyone seems to think they're not to blame and it's others

Zakana · 04/01/2021 18:48

@Mittens030869 I have never felt so ill, and I also have a cast iron stomach, feel for you though, I haven’t been left with anything other than the awful memories from those very humid hot 10 August days. It was my daughter’s 18th right in the middle of it, couldn’t celebrate with her, couldn’t face anything but water for 10 days, lost loads of weight though, although it’s all back on now. And I did celebrate my daughter’s 18th once I was better, the dreaded virus hadn’t put me off vodka for too long after! Take care of yourself.

Original poster
mioz · 04/01/2021 18:50

@Blulights

To be honest we should all assume we have covid and then maybe we wouldn't mix and ruin the NHS in the process. You're as much to blame for mixing regardless of ridiculous bubbles which is just fueling the virus. The issue is everyone seems to think they're not to blame and it's others
And then would I have been to blame if my DM had committed suicide, because I’d refused to bubble with her and she hadn’t seen her only family in months and months? You know nothing about people’s individual circumstances, there is a reason bubbles are allowed.
OP posts:
jessstan1 · 04/01/2021 18:50

Excellent news.

Your mother will be more considerate from now on.

I'm really pleased for you all. Keep well and warm!

Original poster
mioz · 04/01/2021 18:52

@jessstan1

Excellent news.

Your mother will be more considerate from now on.

I'm really pleased for you all. Keep well and warm!

Thank you and the same to you!
OP posts:
Llioed · 04/01/2021 18:54

OP, I am glad your mum got a negative result.

Yes, a sore throat is a symptom. I tested positive for Covid a few months ago and had to fill out a questionnaire and they asked which symptoms I had - I ticked off 7 out of 15 (one of which was a sore throat)
I lost my sense of smell and taste AFTER my positive test and questionnaire.
OP, I voted YANBU. I am concerned with some of these responses from other mumsnetters!

Chicchicchicchiclana · 04/01/2021 18:57

@Misstiffany

Imagine reporting people’s responses how sad can one be 😂😂😂😂😂
Like I said, I don't do it often. Only when the responses are deliberately unhelpful and really quite nasty.
Chicchicchicchiclana · 04/01/2021 18:58

OP, also glad she got a negative result. Hope she feels better soon.

Sunnysas · 04/01/2021 19:00

Could it be that she only considered it possibly Covid related after she saw you? Maybe it was a niggle and she only thought afterwards - ‘How long have I had this?’ Etc. Give her the benefit of the doubt.

WhatACovidNightmare · 04/01/2021 19:21

Don’t know why you’re getting such a hard time on this thread OP.

I deeply sympathise. Even without Covid I would be unimpressed with people coming over if they’re sick when you have a small child and are pregnant, it’s really selfish!!

di2004 · 04/01/2021 19:21

Yes you need to Cut her a bit of slack.
A sore throat alone is not a symptom so maybe your mum probably didn’t know this.

Seriously1996 · 04/01/2021 19:33

I would be annoyed. Obviously she felt the need to get a test . So the thought must have occurred to her
YANBU

THEDEACON · 04/01/2021 19:33

I would be livid

mylifestory · 04/01/2021 19:39

she was obviously worried enough to get a test! mums can be devious like this. Id stay away for her 2 weeks anyway as she probably wdnt tell you she had it if she wanted another cup of tea .... and im not joking! Imagine how many other ppl she cdve given it to with that attitude

saraclara · 04/01/2021 19:52

mums can be devious like this

Oh for goodness' sake.

bexer56 · 04/01/2021 19:54

Well sore throat and headache are symptoms unless you are completely unaware of people having Covid and symptoms they have had. My sons high school was struck down with cases of which all were headaches alone. The symptoms list on the gov website is absolutely useless ... I would be angry if anyone entered my house in my bubble that had been for a test without telling me! YANBU at all... for those that think this is a joke then you are part of the problem. People that don’t take this seriously make my blood boil. If you feel unwell get a test and stay away from people as chances are you have Covid!

Callingallskeletons · 04/01/2021 19:59

We have a ECV child, I’d be absolutely furious if anyone in my family did this

Bookworming · 04/01/2021 20:01

The government website does not list a requirement for a test due to a sore throat, all those writing the rules themselves need to speak to whoever updates that page.

If your DM read that website she would have no reason to request a test,

You're mum may have relied on that to be correct; give your wrath to the people who are suppling incorrect information.

Wheresmykimchi · 04/01/2021 20:02

@Blulights

To be honest we should all assume we have covid and then maybe we wouldn't mix and ruin the NHS in the process. You're as much to blame for mixing regardless of ridiculous bubbles which is just fueling the virus. The issue is everyone seems to think they're not to blame and it's others
I didn't agree with OP but what a thoughtless , nasty comment.
Elianna · 04/01/2021 20:07

Well a sore throat was my first symptom and the first symptom of all the people I know that have tested positive! So I’d be completely upset that my mother would put my family at risk.

WanderingHopefully · 04/01/2021 20:12

@niknac1

I would go to work with a sore throat, your mother hasn’t endangered you. If that’s her only symptom she shouldn’t have been given a COVID test.
It's no bloody wonder we're in the mess we are as a country.
niknac1 · 04/01/2021 20:28

If you call 111 they would not advise a COVID test for a sore throat.

tenlittlecygnets · 04/01/2021 20:32

A sore throat seems to be the most common first symptom for about 50% of the teens dd knows who have had Covid - so about 35 people.

If your mum has a sore throat and was worried enough to get a Covid test, OF COURSE she should have stayed at home!! Official guidance is: isolate until your test result comes back. It's not difficult!!

Op, I'd be angry with her too.

NotBeforeCoffee · 04/01/2021 20:34

Sore throat isn’t usually a symptom

Was my first symptom along with a bit of dizziness

Iheartbaby · 04/01/2021 20:41

Glad it was a good outcome. I would of been very cross too, it was very selfish, why didn’t she care that she could of put you in danger.

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