DH wanting sex at ridiculous times?!

[legalseagull]

AIBU at being really pissed off at DH. It's not even 9am and yet he's come in to the bedroom with a brew (it's my turn for a lay in whilst he's got up with the 1yo and 3yo) Coffee is appreciated but he then immediately says "have a sip and perk yourself up 'wink wink'" Apparently the toddlers are downstairs plonked in front of the tv and he wants a quickie.
He doesn't think that's inappropriate or dangerous at all. They're not 9/10, the youngest is one year old!
Obviously I said no and he went off in a huff. He'll no doubt be feeling sorry for himself that I'm boring and he doesn't get enough.

The op is not 30 seconds away from her DC when she's got to get her "D"P out of her, get off the bed and gotten two flights of stairs.

And why can you still not just wait until the kids are actually safe instead of meh, kinda safe instead of having sex next door whilst they roam around

And why can you still not just wait until the kids are actually safe

When is that? When they have a babysitter? Don't say asleep because children can wake up in the night.

@BubblyBarbara

And why can you still not just wait until the kids are actually safe

When is that? When they have a babysitter? Don't say asleep because children can wake up in the night.

But of you're 30 seconds away aka next door is rather they started off asleep, not be wide awake, coming looking for me because they've just had a parent wander off.
I just don't see the need to leave a 1 and a 3 yo alone to see if you can have a quickie when of it's only a quickie you're after, it's highly likely you can do that once they're asleep.

Can't believe this is still going.

From the posts I get that he shouldn't have left the children to ask about a quickie. By the same criteria he probably shouldn't have taken OP coffee.

Was he wrong to go off in a huff? Depends how long it lasted. If he's still in a huff today it probably is a bit long but we can all get a bit huffy when disappointed.

OP is however being massively unfair posting this in the first place. Its a basic simple disagreement that she should have talked to her husband about rather than post on mumsnet. Posting things like this reminds me of Tam O'Shanters wife in the poem 'nursing her wrath to keep it warm'.

When you have children, especially little ones, sex can be a problem. On the go all day by bedtime you're knackered and if you do try to have a bit of fun a little face will appear by the bed looking for a cuddle or telling you teddy wants a cuddle. Next thing you know all and sundry are hearing that mummy and daddy were in bed and didn't have their jammies on. Best leaving sex until you can get granny and grandad to look after them for a while.

I must admit I’m kind of curious as to whether OP’s DH is still in a huff or not

He should have respected your need for a lie in & he shouldn't have left two children that young unsupervised. And getting huffy over being turned down in those circumstances is childish & manipulative. What a charmer.

@veronicalondon

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It depends , a morning quickie could take 15 mins !
This is an age old problem with kids
If he is generally a nice decent husband just have a chat with him about it