I was the only one not invited aibu?

[breadandwines]

I started a new job in July in a call centre.
I quickly made friends with my team.
In august I started seeing a man off our team and was invited on meals out (few and far between with covid ) but we had outdoor meet ups in between.
We all speak on a group chat on WhatsApp.
One of the group doesn't like me(it's obvious ) and I think she doesn't like the fact I'm part of the group.
Nye the girl wrote to one of the members "sleep well,excited for tomorrow "
I didn't think much of it and thought maybe they were meeting for a coffee or something.
Anyway last night they had a house party (which I wouldn't have went to anyway due to covid restrictions"
They didn't invite me and the guy I'm seeing is there and didn't invite me.
He hasn't spoke all day yesterday or today
Aibu to feel pissed off ?

Keep well away from them all.

He can't be trusted either can he?
He should have mentioned it to me
I'm annoyed he didn't say "if she's not coming il sit it out "

Id take the hint

They are Covidiots. Steer clear.

YANBU they’re not nice people.

Are they 16? seems a bit childish

YABU from the point of view that noone is due an invite IYSWIM

however YWNBU to just treat them as colleagues rather than friends- as for your BF, depends on whether he knew, as this is a bit duplicitous

He has shown you who he is. No loyalty or backbone to him. He has done you a favour actually

Tbh I'm not bothered about the group not inviting me it's just the guy I'm seeing going along with it.
It feels a bit sly.

I agree with @pudcat stay away from them all.
I’ve found through long experience to never mix friendship or relationships with work. It never ends well.

I don’t think it is sly to go, but it is sly not to discuss it with you.

I hate toxic work environments.

Put him straight in the bin.

I'm annoyed he didn't say "if she's not coming il sit it out "

Well, I’d not expect that, but I would expect him to tell me. However dating work people is never going to end well. The fact he hid it and has ignored you for two days shows this is over.

A. They have deliberately excluded you (including the bloke you’re seeing)
B. They broke lockdown rules.

Two pieces of evidence that they are all unkind and selfish twats.
Defo get rid of the bloke and treat these people with professional courtesy that’s all.

He'll have been shagging another girl in the team before you came along, probably the one who doesnt like you but possibly a friend of hers.

If you want to keep this job, I would remain friendly - in the professional, Chandler Bing work laugh sense - but cool it off with the guy who sounds like a non starter anyway.

Just lie and say you're not in a good place for a relationship right now and then don't date in this workplace again. It sounds like toxicity personified.

@TheEwok

I don’t think it is sly to go, but it is sly not to discuss it with you.

This, of course it’s not sly to go, he’s allowed to socialise without you. It’s sly not to tell you though.

They obviously planned it on another group chat that didn't include me.
I feel stupid

You just feel hurt op. Which is natural. It sucks to be the one excluded and everyone knew.

He is obviously putting this other girls feelings before yours , as you have a feeling she doesn't like you so she didn't want your there so he chose not to mention it . Maybe they were seeing each other before or she was hoping to get with him either way he could have mentioned it. Plus he is stupid going with the covid situation anyway !

Yep. He’s not that into you it seems. He’s putting his mates before you.

Would you say anything to him about it ?

I'm concerned that you seem much less bothered that they're all breaking lockdown and more upset at being left out (even if you said you weren't going to go... so if that's true why care about being left out?). Head >>> wobble.

@WhatTiggersDoBest because the person I'm seeing who I obviously have feelings for didn't care about going behind my back like that.

Why would you start dating somebody on your team?

Have you made your feelings on people who break lockdown rules clear?

I don’t know anyone who is idiotic enough to have a house party, but if I did, everyone knows my feelings to the extent that none of them would even consider inviting me because they’d know that I would express my views both on them and on the fact they were having a house party in the middle of a pandemic.

TBH I think you should be more annoyed at the kinds of people they are rather than feeling excluded. Why does it matter if you’re excluded by people who have already shown they have no consideration for anyone else by having a house party?

If my DP had a house party I wouldn’t be upset that I hadn’t been invited, I would end the relationship based on the fact he was a moron who had no qualms about spreading COVID far and wide.

They sound bloody awful
I'd consider it an honour that they didn't like me, who would want to be friends with people like that