WIBU? Help settle an argument

[Confusedmelon]

My DP came to spend 8 days with me over Xmas (we are in a bubble) and came by train. He is upset I wouldn't pick him up and drop him off at the train station and thinks I'm being selfish.

From my POV, the station is 0.6 miles from my house (a 10 minute walk) and it's a massive pain in the arse to have to move my car for such a short drive (4 minutes) that can be so easily walked. He is a fit and able 32 year old man and I personally would walk if I needed to use the train.

Parking is tight and I have to reverse out onto a busy road with limited vision. Getting back into my very tight parking space is stressful (I'm not great at parking) and essentially parking wars on my street as I often come back to a neighbours visitor parked in my space after a short trip out and its a nightmare to find out who's car it is and to find another space. I'd also had a few glasses of wine on the day he left so especially didn't want to drive. I explained this to him but we had abit of a "do" on the phone last night as he still thinks I'm being unreasonable.

To be honest, I find the fact that he is making an issue of this quite unattractive. I spent the whole time he was here cooking, cleaning, bringing him drinks, buying thoughtful gifts etc. He did help out a bit but essentially he was a guest in my home and I treated him as such but because I wouldn't drive him to the station, I didn't treat him well enough according to him.

He is generally a kind, thoughtful person which is why I'm struggling to see his view on this. I know its petty but it's making me feel the ick for him.

Am I a selfish cow and WIBU for not ferrying him back and forth?

That's mean, YABU. He came all the way by train, would it have killed you to drive?!

Agree I should have walked with him but it didn't cross my mind that he would care if I "saw him off" or not. I thought it was more an issue of getting there and back. He had a carrier bag with his presents from me (clothes and a book) and a laptop bag so he wasn't exactly "laden" but I guess I was abit mean making him walk alone.

He didn't have a set time to leave as his trains are every hour and he didn't make it clear exactly when he wanted to leave so I waited most of the day before I had wine. Its my Xmas holiday too and wanted to enjoy it

HWBU. It's not worth starting the car for such a short journey, and definitely not after a few drinks.
You could have walked with him to the station.

Depends how long his journey was.
For example, 4hours of travelling, bus to the station, several changes and stressful connections = I would have picked him up in the car as he probably would have been tired and have bags of stuff.
20 minutes on train and no changes = walk the 10 mins by yourself.

I'd have walked to meet my DP (now DH). Romance and all that.

I'd also had a few glasses of wine on the day he left so especially didn't want to drive.

For this reason alone YANBU. There is never any reason to drive after you have been drinking and I'd LTB if they tried to encourage me to drive after having had a drink.

Aw OP you're missing a huge opportunity OTT it seeing him off, you should be there waving your hanky as he sticks his head out the window

@BackwardsGoing

I would have walked up to the station and met him. It's romantic to be met at a station and you could have helped to carry things.

I agree 😊

Oh crap just seen your had wine OP, I'd like to change my YABU to a YANBU

YANBU OP. It would be different if it was a much longer walk. I used to live in area where parking is as you desribe and would only move my car if absolutely necessary. He is being a bit lazy and entitled. Why shouldn't you have a few wines - I bet he had a couple of drinks? Also - short journeys like this are bad for the environment.

Agree you should have walked there and back with him - if you didn't - its not clear from your post if you did or not?

This is typical. Did he bring anything towards food/drink? Help out while with you?
You looked after him as a guest for 8 days and he is focusing on the fact you didn't meet him at the station? Or not have a drink so you could take him to the station?

He sounds precious and ungrateful.

Did he have a suitcase for this things and bags of Christmas presents and stuff with him? YABU if yes

He needs to grow up. I had to read this twice after not understanding a couple of the comments to realise you were talking about a love interest not your son. Seriously, 0.6 miles is like the distance to my nearest corner shop. I would struggle to respect someone who couldn't let this go during such a short visit when you're unlikely to get another one anytime soon.

I would have walked with him.

@TheGoodEnoughWife, no he didn't contribute to any food, drinks, cooking, washing up etc. and spent a fair amount of time working on his laptop while I pretty much catered to him.

I think that's where the ick comes from. My teenage sons walk further distances every day without complaining.

I agree I'm not the most romantic person and should have walked with him

He had a carrier bag of clothes (some gifts from me) and a laptop bag. He bought me makeup for Xmas (which was what I wanted) so hardly a huge gift to lug about.

Hand in heart if I got the train to his and CBA to walk, I'd get a £3 taxi. I don't care if someone waves me off on a train and feels abit OTT but that's just me I guess.

Slightly off topic but as you mentioned it, is it not possible to reverse into your space so you aren’t reversing out? I knew two people killed by someone reversing out onto a main road, it’s dangerous and not good practice.

YANBU only because you had had a drink. If you had not had a drink you should have collected and dropped him off.

I'd have gone to meet him and tbh I would feel a bit put out if my significant other couldn't be bothered to. I think you should have made the effort.

As I thought. He has been waited on hands and foot but because you didn't drive him half a mile he is unhappy? Bin him off! This is just a cover as to why he shouldn't be grateful. He is a twat.

I cannot believe that so many people think YABU! It's half a mile! 11 year old kids walk that distance to and from school twice a day without moaning! It wouldn't even cross my mind to give him a lift. If it's such a chore he could always drive to yours himself.

We are supposed to be getting ''exercise'' anyway. He is a namby-pamby for expecting a lift for so short a distance being a grown man and all. A big turn off. An then complaining about it?

Expecting a lift for a 10 minute walk is extremely lazy.

Only time it's acceptable is if it's late at night or dark, bad weather or they're carrying heavy objects.

YADNBU. It's only a 10 minute walk, & it's a standard part of his journey.

I've lived a 10 minute walk from a tube station my whole adult life, & only meet people at the station if they're the sort of person who's likely to get lost or anxious.

no he didn't contribute to any food, drinks, cooking, washing up etc. and spent a fair amount of time working on his laptop while I pretty much catered to him.

How unattractive.