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Original poster

Husband ignoring me

227 replies

Cos12345 · 29/12/2020 19:56

So my husband got very drunk boxing day night, with dd and two stepsons.
I went to bed they were so noisy I slept in spare room, they then drunkenly couldn't find me at half two so d called family and friends but didn't look in house for me
Next morning noone is talking to me, kitchen and house is a mess with bottles and food. Someone has thrown up in sink, still we are on day three of no talking dh is sleeping on sofa and I'm.uoset ! should I apologise!

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Mummypigisalwaysright · 29/12/2020 20:01

Apologise for what? They were drunk, noisy and messy. What do you have to apologise for?

robinsinthespring · 29/12/2020 20:02

why do you think you need to apologise

Original poster
Cos12345 · 29/12/2020 20:03

Exactly, but I'm beginning to doubt myself. It's so stupid but I don't think I should break the ice and apologise

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KarmaNoMore · 29/12/2020 20:04

Why on Earth for?

Original poster
Cos12345 · 29/12/2020 20:04

Just feel like if I apologise we will.all be talking again I hate a bad atmosphere.

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purpleboy · 29/12/2020 20:05

I don't understand op? What on earth are you apologizing for? I hope to god you didn't clean up their mess. Is no one talking to you?

littlebirdworrying · 29/12/2020 20:05

They should be apologising to you!

Aquamarine1029 · 29/12/2020 20:05

Are your family members frequently such drunken, disgusting slobs? I would be waking your husband up and get him to clean up the mess.

KarmaNoMore · 29/12/2020 20:05

I would take a step back, don’t do absolutely anything for them until they apologise and clean the house.

Mummypigisalwaysright · 29/12/2020 20:06

No op, don't apologise to these selfish arseholes. Take yourself off somewhere, do something for you and enjoy the silence. If they're not talking to you they can't ask you for things can they?

purpleboy · 29/12/2020 20:06

They should be apologizing to you. I wouldn't accept this childish silent behavior. Ask them all why they are ignoring you, but dear god don't apologize.

ForTheLoveOfCatFood · 29/12/2020 20:06

Tell him to grow up or get out
Why are so many mumsnetters with such man children.

Lemonpiano · 29/12/2020 20:06

He do this often?

doctorhamster · 29/12/2020 20:07

I would sit them down and tell them you're still waiting for an apology!

Mummypigisalwaysright · 29/12/2020 20:07

I wouldn't be talking to them until they had apologised. Their fault they looked like twats, not you.

PurpleDaisies · 29/12/2020 20:07
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BlueSuffragette · 29/12/2020 20:08

Don't apologise. Read the riot act. Hope you didn't clean their shit up.If you act like a door mat they will continue to walk all over you.

Omeara · 29/12/2020 20:08

I'd be expecting an apology from them. I would be furious if someone threw up in my sink.

Original poster
Cos12345 · 29/12/2020 20:08

I did clean it up s I knew it would be left !
My dd thinks I'm in the wrong for not joining in ( I didn't want to get drunk I was tired from Xmas day), she's 19 and not talking to me
Stepsons have gone to their own homes
DH ignoring me completely, he has just been up to get the sleeping bag for the sofa

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june2007 · 29/12/2020 20:08

Apoligise? No but talk about it yes.

Motnight · 29/12/2020 20:08

What would you apologise for?
I really hope that you didn't clean up the mess.

Whatsnewpussyhat · 29/12/2020 20:09

No you shouldn't apologise! I hope you didn't clean up after them.

Gonkytonk · 29/12/2020 20:10

This is how people spend years being treated like shit. Apologising when you’re the victim of their shitty behaviour. Christ it’d be a cold day in hell before I apologised in these circumstances.

EckhartLolly · 29/12/2020 20:10

They were drunk and didn't do what would make sense for them to do because drunk people don't think straight. You didn't do anything wrong. They should apologise to family for disturbing them unnecessarily and to you for being dicks.

Original poster
Cos12345 · 29/12/2020 20:11

Thanks I'm not intending to stat a conversation, I won't get an apology as yes he does do this often when we argue- his son is just the same often he comes here because his girlfriend and him have fallen out.
I'm not apologising but I would like an apology, sometimes I want to run away from it all.

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