Child maintenance

[Givemeabreak88]

I received cm for 4 children at £7 a week. I split up with my ex 4 years ago and since then he has been an absolute nightmare, refused to parent and refused to pay. He spent half the time not paying a penny but has now been paying £7 a week for over a year. I thought over the years he may finally get a job so kept the case open but 4 years down the line I’ve given up hope of that. I’ve now decided to cancel the claim because I don’t want the £7 a week, it’s a pathetic amount and just a constant reminder of how little he gets away with. It’s been really frowned upon though and people seem to think you should claim it no matter what even if it is pennies, I’ve even been told it’s not my money it’s theirs and that I would be “depriving” them of it and they will be missing out. It works out to £1.75 a week per child not sure how cancelling it can be seen as depriving them in anyway. Has anyone else cancelled cm or just decided not to claim at all?

I have never claimed off my eldest biological dad. He was always working on the side, cash in hand so I had no chance of getting a decent amount, and tbh didn't want him thinking he had any say in how much child was raised, or have any reason to contact me.
I don't see that as petty at all. I would do the same in your shoes.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion thank you. , I don’t know why anyone has seen it as I’m begrudging others when it’s not like that at all, I’m saying If it was worth it and improved our lives and we benefitted from it then of course I would continue to claim but it basically pays for a packet of crisp and a drink at the shop after we’ve been to the park. It’s not worth the stress it brings me. It’s a reminder of him every time I see it in my account or cm write to me. It doesn’t enhance or improve our lives, I had it open in the hope that one day it would be more but 4 years later I’m don’t believe that day will ever come.

Hi, just wishes to reassure you that I do understand.

My ex completely keeps to the cusp of having nil cms to pay all to avoid the £7 per week.

I do get the triumph that he waves about for things he does, for £7 a week it's up to you if you 'buy' a point by not accepting it. You'll have to please yourself really as if our experience played out the same then I know no amount would get through to the ex.
Good luck

I get £7 a week- irs all i have recieved since i left him 12 years ago.

I keep the claim open simpĺy because it is a reminder ofvthe child he doesn't see and i would find out if he died.

It isn't like it supports my child.

Starlightstarbright1 it’s been £7 the whole 12 years? It’s interesting about the finding out if he dies I suppose that would be the only benefit (we don’t have any contact with his family)

I have not rtft, however, I have just recieved some money nearly 30 years after I made a claim to what was then the CSA, I was asked about a year ago if I would like to 'close the claim', long long after I had even remembered that I had engaged the CSA. I said NO!, I got the paltry sum that came out at about an average of £2 a week, I have kept the cheque, I will be seeing a lawyer in the new year as I feel that since my ex has paid this amount he has basically admitted liability then I will be asking for a more realisitic settlement of money due, hey ho, we will see

@Givemeabreak88

Starlightstarbright1 it’s been £7 the whole 12 years? It’s interesting about the finding out if he dies I suppose that would be the only benefit (we don’t have any contact with his family)

Yep. Well it used to be £6 i think when it wss csa.

I also amuse myself by the fact he doesn't consider getting a job as he would have to pay me more so restricts his own life.

Tbh though i barely think about him or even do anything with the money. That would give it value

There are also lots of resident parents that don’t financially support their children as well, the state and other tax payers do. Yawn. At least the money actually goes on the children though. Once the money goes to them it’s their money, so they do provide for their children.*

Funny that, just a few weeks ago none of them could afford to feed their kids and they were all starving. The whole nation's kids had to be fed by the state because of the few that don't spend that money on their kids 🤔🤔

Funny that, just a few weeks ago none of them could afford to feed their kids and they were all starving. The whole nation's kids had to be fed by the state because of the few that don't spend that money on their kids 🤔🤔

That's an amazing twisting of the situation.

You should be a scriptwriter with that ability.