To be pissed off that my DM helped herself to nearly all the chocolates?

[AngeloMysterioso]

My PILs gave DH and me a big tub of heroes for Christmas - we opened them last Sunday, but hadn’t got through that many- I’d had a couple of the fudge and eclair ones, DH had had a few, but we hadn’t made much of a dent in them. There was probably 80% left.

My DM, who is extremely hard work at the best of times (and who, incidentally, is type 2 diabetic and paid a small fortune for hypnotherapy to cure her of her “chocolate addiction” 18 months ago), came to us on Christmas Eve, bringing with her a big tin of Quality Street that I ended up giving to the bloke who voluntarily drove here at 3am Christmas morning to pick up the prescription for all her meds that she left at home, as a gesture of thanks (that’s a whole other fucking saga).

We took her home today, when we got back I opened the tub of heroes, thinking I would love a crunchie, to find it virtually empty- a few dairy milks and double deckers are all that remain. I knew Mum had had a few (she talked about the “guilty secrets” in the bin in her room that she tried to hide, which turned out to be wrappers) but I hadn’t realised she’d scarfed nearly the whole tub. I asked her about it, and among her responses were “Alcohol is far worse than chocolate!”, “Oh poor you! There wasn’t any Twirls either!” “I did buy you a big box of chocolates, so not thoughtless. But then you gave them away!!”

She’s got through more in 3 days than DH and me put together in a week, and apparently she’s not even sorry. AIBU to think that’s a bit bloody rude?

@Iamthewombat

You've gone to the effort of starting a thread on something that is so pathetically trivial given the year we've had, and the struggles that many have had to deal with?

I despair.

There are more trivial threads for you to jump into with your sanctimony. Here are some ideas from the ‘active threads’ list:

• can you tell the difference with higher quality baking ingredients?

• my first baby is named Evelyn, what should I call my second?

• what is your skincare routine?

• my husband sits down and wipes his arse after weeing.

Are you on those too, telling the OPs that you despair of them? If not, get over there stat. They surely need to be shown the error of their ways?

Well said @Iamthewombat 👏🏼

@Smallgoon is obviously in so much ‘despair’ they feel the need to make such an illogical comment -clearly not having RTFT. Diabetes and the likelihood of awful long term consequences if the condition is not managed well seem to be lost on this poster.

Christmas chocolates are there for the eating. You snooze, you lose.

Wow - wonder how many of your mum’s sweets and treats you ate when you were younger. She BOUGHT you a box of chocs which you chose to give away. You appear to be begrudging her some chocs from a cheap selection tin - makes you sound really mean and petty.

Annoying but I can’t believe you wrote a post about it to be honest lol

This thread is hilarious. Who counts chocolates. My son opened the heroes last night and i sent him home with them. Shock horror.. 4quid for a new tub doll.

@Jeeperscreepers69

This thread is hilarious. Who counts chocolates. My son opened the heroes last night and i sent him home with them. Shock horror.. 4quid for a new tub doll.

Does he also have diabetes that he mismanages? Forgets his meds? His eye sight has deteriorated so much that he wasn't allowed to drive from the ophthalmologist and you had to sort it from miles away?

@AngeloMysterioso

What would you have given the chap who did the meds run had your mum not brought the tin of Quality Street with her?

A blowjob.

Brilliant, OP! I think in future I’d hide any tins of chocs when your mother visits. You’re not mean, you’re concerned and she’s acting like a naughty child. She could literally eat herself to death.

You sound really judgemental and like you don't like her much. It's Christmas, stop judging her for eating chocolate.

"wouldn’t let her drive herself home from her appointment (her first in four years) a couple of weeks ago- which was another problem I had to solve for her, from 60 miles away."

Calling a cab is hardly a "problem"

@OverTheRainbow88

I’m Shocked your first choice was a fudge and then an eclair followed by a crunchie

They are like the worst ones!!!!’

LOL agreed!

Its not the biggest heist in the world but I'd probably be a bit annoyed too. Its probably the whole situation that's got to you though as it sounds like there were other things going on and that was the final straw. Hope you pick up a new tub before they disappear for another year!

@Sinful8

"wouldn’t let her drive herself home from her appointment (her first in four years) a couple of weeks ago- which was another problem I had to solve for her, from 60 miles away."

Calling a cab is hardly a "problem"

Why couldn't OP's mother do it herself then?

I would give my right arm if my DM could have been here to eat all our hero’s after losing her at Christmas last year !! They’re only bloody cheap chocolates !!!!

YANBU. Your mum sounds fucking annoying and greedy to boot. She owes you a new tub of chocs.

Either hide them away, or accept that they’ll likely be decimated in future.
My father came for Christmas and ate the entire box of Roses I got as a present that morning, I didn’t get a single one, I just rolled my eyes and binned the empties.

Did you count how many sheets of loo roll she used too?

You sound like hard work TBH

the toilet roll isn't making her ill though Sarah, is it.

That being said, after re-reading your posts, she sounds exhausting and I can see why you’d be pissed off.

I had Bell's Palsy several years ago and as well as steroids and taping my eye down I had acupuncture which I found really helpful

Oops wrong thread ! Sorry!

You gave away her chocolates.

She ate yours.

You had a go at her instead of spending less than a fiver on getting some more.

That about it?

Sounds like she’s saved you a whole pile of calories and a visit to the dentist, so get over it and be thankful!

I think you're more bothered about the chocolates than your Mum's health. We had a tub of Heroes, I remarked to DH how small the tubs are now, it didn't take long to get through it.

She has issues around chocolate once you pop you can't stop.
We've gone through 3 boxes of heros.
They're only cheap chocolate.

If that’s the worst you have to put up with 🤷‍♀️ Though I’d definitely mention in jest more than once!

My DM ate all the orange & strawberry ones out of my tin of Quality Street. No backstory and no diabetes here and I was still annoyed! They are my favourites!