To be pissed off that my DM helped herself to nearly all the chocolates?

[AngeloMysterioso]

My PILs gave DH and me a big tub of heroes for Christmas - we opened them last Sunday, but hadn’t got through that many- I’d had a couple of the fudge and eclair ones, DH had had a few, but we hadn’t made much of a dent in them. There was probably 80% left.

My DM, who is extremely hard work at the best of times (and who, incidentally, is type 2 diabetic and paid a small fortune for hypnotherapy to cure her of her “chocolate addiction” 18 months ago), came to us on Christmas Eve, bringing with her a big tin of Quality Street that I ended up giving to the bloke who voluntarily drove here at 3am Christmas morning to pick up the prescription for all her meds that she left at home, as a gesture of thanks (that’s a whole other fucking saga).

We took her home today, when we got back I opened the tub of heroes, thinking I would love a crunchie, to find it virtually empty- a few dairy milks and double deckers are all that remain. I knew Mum had had a few (she talked about the “guilty secrets” in the bin in her room that she tried to hide, which turned out to be wrappers) but I hadn’t realised she’d scarfed nearly the whole tub. I asked her about it, and among her responses were “Alcohol is far worse than chocolate!”, “Oh poor you! There wasn’t any Twirls either!” “I did buy you a big box of chocolates, so not thoughtless. But then you gave them away!!”

She’s got through more in 3 days than DH and me put together in a week, and apparently she’s not even sorry. AIBU to think that’s a bit bloody rude?

If you had not said she is a Type 2 diabetic, I might have said, "Let it go."' But since she is, Christmas or not, I'd make a firm resolve to lock any sweets away during future visits. You do NOT want your mother going into a sugar coma.

@Schmoozer

Poor woman clearly struggles the control her chocolate consumption She’s even been to hypnosis - she’s clearly aware of the problem Christmas is a difficult time for people with compulsive eating behaviours Don’t shame her and be grateful you can control your chocolate consumption.

Yes food addiction is an eating disorder and what clinicians call BED

YANBU to be annoyed though! ED or not that is annoying and rude! I'd feel the same way if it were bulimia or that type of anorexia where sufferers binge. If be kind but I'd be annoyed

@AngeloMysterioso

I probably shouldn’t have started the thread to be honest. I was just so fed up, getting home to find that, on top of all the fucking stress she’s caused me pretty much from the moment she got here, she’s also chomped through most of my cheap shit chocolate. And I wanted someone to back me up and say that it’s ok to be annoyed. But clearly it isn’t!

I dunno I think it would peeve me too! But only because my mum is mental for taking chocolates and also seems to be able to sniff out when we’ve just sat down for tea and we always feel guilty and make her a bowl! She does this with all her children... 🤦‍♀️

read the Leonidas thread.
Buy yourself some good chocolate.

@EveryDayIsADuvetDay

read the Leonidas thread. Buy yourself some good chocolate.

Is there a link to the Leonidas thread

Really ?? I had assumed you were joking ! It’s cheap shite chocolate after you took it upon yourself to give away her cheap shite chocolate !! If this is your only Christmas worry then you probably are the spoilt self important cow that you sound ! If your mothers behaviour offends you then perhaps look at your own and ponder ....
Beyond words !!

Why would you invite anyone and begrudge them food?

I can never quite figure out that when an OP is annoyed about something and MNers don't agree, the MNers become more irate than the OP

My mum went into the cupboard, opened my unopened lindt chocolates (pressie from son) and proceeded to eat a few. I couldn't care less. It's Christmas and it's been a shitty year. I also get on really well with my mum which I suspect is more the issue here. Don't be stingy with her even if she's a bit of a pain. We all need to be a bit kinder this year.

Mean bunch on here. She is addicted and also did it on purpose as you gave hers away. Id steer clear of her and leave her to her own devices. my mum is the same and somehow doesnt have diabetes. Bt she does have the highest blood pressure so she shd be dead ....

sugar addiction is hell - i gave up all sugar 2 years ago and still it calls me! It's hell.

BUT - she is diabetic!! Too much sugar could kill her, make her loose her legs (very common with diabetes) - it's just irresponsible.

For all those 'what does it matter' ' it's christmas' 'who cares' you dont like your mum'... one it's bloody rude to take all of someones sweets and 2 - most importantly - it's really dangerous to her mum! A tub of heros for a diabetic over 3 days could easily lead to diabetic coma for godsake - i think being pissed she narfed the lot knowing it could do that is far from not liking her mum - she is seriously concerned!

Annoying but have a clementine and move on

She came on Christmas Eve and you had ONE tub of chocolates in the house??

THAT"S the weird bit!

When you have guests over Christmas it's usual to share! You chose to give her tin away...the one she contributed...maybe you should have thought on and had some chocolate suited to her needs??

All I can say to you is this sounds like something my mother would have done . Now not with us to do this. It’s not a your lucky to have her around story but she did do this kind of selfish stuff big time before the Alzheimer’s hit hard .all her parameters of good behaviour seemed to disappear . She would buy us a small tin of something sweet but her intake throughout the day would far exceed what ever was bought. The children’s sweets were fair game too. 😮🤷🏼‍♀️It’s not nice . When we become the parent .

Oh jeez!

RTFT PEOPLE!!!

You gave away her chocolates.

She ate yours.

There you go, OP. You DESERVED to have vengeance visited upon you. By your mother, who forgot to pack her own meds (but not the Quality Street!)

Did any of the posters attacking the OP for ‘giving away her mum’s chocolates’ absorb the following?

• a kind man drove the mother’s meds, which she had forgotten to pack, over to the OP’s house at 3 am on Christmas morning. 3 am!

• the OP, after checking with her mum, gave him the tin of Quality Street that her mother had brought with her, by way of thanks. Who wouldn’t want to thank somebody in those circumstances?

What was the OP’s crime here?

Some posters on here sound like children: give away my sweeties and I’ll eat yours, that’ll show you!

When you have guests over Christmas it's usual to share! You chose to give her tin away...the one she contributed.

Once more, the OP’s mother wasn’t doing much sharing if she ate 80% of the tub. This thread is an insight into the minds of greedy immature people.

Also, I think that the posters attacking the OP should decide what they are attacking her for. Half of them seem to think that the OP’s mother was entitled to eat all of the tin of Quality Street she brought with her and that the OP having given it away TO THE MAN WHO DELIVERED HER MOTHER’S FORGOTTEN MEDS AT 3 AM ON CHRISTMAS MORNING, AFTER AGREEING THE GESTURE WITH HER MOTHER constituted a diabolical liberty.

For those who think that the OP’s mother intended to share the Quality Street tin that was given away: why do you think that she then went off the sharing idea by eating 80% of the Heroes then hiding the wrappers?

I was disappointed my Christmas guests didn't eat more of the chocolate and other treats I'd bought in to be honest

@NewyearNewme2021
Leonidas Thread

Lots of great suggestions for good chocolate.

Annoyed yes. Would I endlessly take the piss thereafter ? Absolutely. Would I put then under lock and key thereafter. Totally

I think this thread is demonstrating why T2 Diabetes is such a problem.

It isnt simply that OP's DM ate most of the chocolates, she also has diabetes. She is already having to have injections and has problems with her eyesight which means that her diabetes is advancing.

Diabetes doesnt go 'Oh, it's Christmas, you just crack on eating chocolate, dont worry'. It plods on, getting worse.

@Iamthewombat

When you have guests over Christmas it's usual to share! You chose to give her tin away...the one she contributed.

Once more, the OP’s mother wasn’t doing much sharing if she ate 80% of the tub. This thread is an insight into the minds of greedy immature people.

Also, I think that the posters attacking the OP should decide what they are attacking her for. Half of them seem to think that the OP’s mother was entitled to eat all of the tin of Quality Street she brought with her and that the OP having given it away TO THE MAN WHO DELIVERED HER MOTHER’S FORGOTTEN MEDS AT 3 AM ON CHRISTMAS MORNING, AFTER AGREEING THE GESTURE WITH HER MOTHER constituted a diabolical liberty.

For those who think that the OP’s mother intended to share the Quality Street tin that was given away: why do you think that she then went off the sharing idea by eating 80% of the Heroes then hiding the wrappers?

They're mad at her because they have the emotional intelligence of a spoon and can't see past the chocolate. Oh and it's Christmas,cheap chocolate and mum's are great and wonderful.

Are you one of those boring people who never indulge?

The OP didn’t get much of a chance to indulge!