Do you have a favourite child?

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I have a boy and girl. They are mostly opposites. I much prefer my son's personality. They're adults btw.

No def not I couldn't even imagine this. I love them both equally. One is my first born and one is my baby. I can't imagine ever having a favourite. I love them both

Deffo don't have a favourite, but I prefer to do different things with one or the other. They are so different. One is a real conversationalist but quite inflexible, the other is like me and introvert but very go with the flow. Tho I do try and do a mixture of stuff with both as I would hate if they ever thought I favoured one over the other. I feel so sad whenever I hear that parents say/act like they have a favourite.

I have never considered myself to have a favourite. Then the other day I was cuddling the youngest while the oldest two were squabbling and said (out loud ) "that's why you're my favourite"

Generally my favourite child is just whichever one is being the least horrid, though

My dad has a favourite grandchild. I had to have a word once, my son is bang middle of two granddaughters age wide and he kept expecting him to act like the older one (when they were quite small). I pointed out that he was the same age gap to the toddler and he recalibrated expectations. I think he has a preference for the eldest though, she's always been the most independent and therefore the easiest. Doesn't need behaviour managing and is quite interesting to talk to.
If you have a favourite it behoves you to make an effort with the others.
I don't. I'm miserable, I like it when they all go out!

The cat? If I ever decided to pack up and go - I'd take him.

We have 5 and they're all loved equally, all have very different personalities and can be quite infuriating at different stages in their lives.
We don't have favourites although in-laws favour our eldest. I regularly have to put my foot down.
My sis in law has two sons and youngest knows very clearly that his dB is his mum's favourite and she makes no secret of it.
It horrified me the first time he said to me, don't worry he's my mum's favourite, I tried to reassure him but she was also quite open and proud to state the same.
Poor kid takes alot of flak for his older brother who he doesn't blame but it does sour their relationship quite a bit

Absolutely but i onto have one. I do not have a favourite cat though, I have a favourite 'at the time' cat depending on which one has clawed most viciously that day

My Nan does, has said repeatedly her life only began when my 2nd uncle was born, despite already having two children. It's (quite rightly) caused massive resentment

I don’t. I’m an only child - always thought people did, but just didn’t admit to it! I genuinely don’t, though.

They're each "easier " in their own way.
DD (teen) and I get on really well, share the same sense of humour. Shes very creative and conscientious about work (like I was at a similar age)
DS is kind and funny (as in he makes everyone laugh) is quite sporty and much easier to please than DD.

I only have the one, but sometimes prefer the dog. Both cats are arseholes

Yes, but it varies from hour to hour depending on what the little buggers are doing this time.

I have 4 children. My 3rd child (3yo) has ASD and although he’s not my ‘favourite’ as such, I have a completely different type of love for him than I do the other 3. It’s not that I love him more than the others at all, or enjoy his company more. I can’t really explain it.

No but DH does I think. My first child is more difficult. Anxious, reactive intense but a lovely child. Bright and interested in learning things. Can be difficult to manage making mistakes. It’s hard as the younger 2 are currently appealing in different ways because they’re little but I think that’s about stage rather than the individual. I hope I can be the parent all 3 of them need and that they know they are all loved so much. Oldest one tends to push buttons more so I’ll need to keep working on myself. I’m pretty sure my brother is my mother’s favourite and I was so busy taking her side in my parents divorce and made to feel like a terrible child because my father ‘favoured’ me I didn’t even get any of the benefits of a good relationship with him. Families are such hard work.

No favourites and I hope it stays that way. I adore them both

My kids are convinced that my youngest is my favourite.

I don’t have a favourite. But because he’s more laid back, he gets in less trouble and that makes them think I prefer him.

Dd is the list difficult but with that comes a strength and sassiness that cracks me up!

Eldest is easygoing too but 14 so spends about ten minutes with me voluntarily.

I genuinely love them all the same but there’s no convincing them that that’s true!

No I don’t. It’s totally possible though as my mother openly prefers my sister to me- they are similar personalities. I dislike my mum but I’m ok with my sister as she’s a bit less annoying lol

No. They are different and I love them differently but equally.

I love them both so much that Sophie's Choice just makes me feel a bit sick imagining if I was made to make that choice.

No.

But my mother did.

It wasn't me.

I definitely prefer the dog

My mother always used to answer this one with "whichever one I happen to be thinking about at the moment". Sounds good to me.

Yes, whichever one is being the least irritating at any given moment.

Luckily I have one DD and one DS, so I get to say "You're my favourite daughter/son" and mean it

ATM I do. Youngest DD is so sunny, always keen to help, to tidy, cuddly and sweet. DD1 has never been very affectionate, anger issues and rude. Might change and do my best not to show it..

No. I think I would detest myself if I did. It must be awful.

I thought DD2 was my favourite for the first two years of her life (my precious baby etc etc.) and I fretted about it; then she hit the terrible twos and it totally switched for awhile. I do have very different relationships with each of them. No idea if I will have a favourite when they are adults.