My DC got nothing from their siblings..

[Pip899]

I have two children with DH age 2 and 3, DH also has two older children with his ex ages 8 and 9. The children have a lovely relationship with each other and the older ones dote on the youngest two.

For Christmas I bought the DSC gifts from me and also gifts 'from' my two. Buying 'from' the kids is something DH has always done but most importantly (because it's relevant) it is something his ex has always done too, for other people on behalf of the kids.

DSC arrived today to spend the night with us and have a second Christmas of sorts, they had a big pile of presents waiting for them with at least 5 being labelled as being from my DC.

DSC brought with them a present for DH that their mum gave them the money to buy - but nothing for my two DC.

I have no hard feelings toward the children whatsoever, they don't have money, I feel like this is their mother being petty.

AIBU to think this is almost spiteful?

It's the principle of the matter, even a chocolate bar would have been a nice gesture so it's not me being grabby.

they are kids are you expecting them to go shopping just to cheer you up?stop being a sop what dose a few chocolates or a gift matter have you not heard there is a pandemic and people are losing there lifes and risking them to save others if you want them to do the gift bit maybe you should of put your hand in your pocket and helped the kids out

@Pip899

She funds gifts for school friends who are nothing to do with her though?

So what?

It's you and your dh job to facilitate gifts between the kids
Its your job to organise gifts to your dh from your kids
Its the ex job to organise gifts for her kids father

Why does your husband not help to fund & shop for the presents for his DCs school friends, aunt etc? Why do you both think that's his ex's sole responsibility? He should be going halves with her (money AND effort).

Another woman bitching about another woman ‘failing’ in her wife work duties even when’s she’s the Ex wife, FS!

Im the same as you

@Pip899

I see where people are coming from, but it wouldn't hurt her to spare a quid or two for selection boxes or a bar of chocolate surely?

It has never occurred to me not to buy something myself, to pass on to the DSC as it were from my DC.

But the DSD share a parent with your children. So you facilitate that.

Their mum has nothing to do with your children with dh. That's dh responsibility.

@LouJ85

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... now been deleted!

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If your DH is anything like my sister's ex, he's as tight as a rat's arse on his ample salary, while she's living on a pittance.

He's wearing designer clothes, moved into a des res area, etc, while my sister is scraping an existence together coping with the trail of destruction he's left behind.

Some men do leave a trail of misery behind them.and of so it might be that there's no desire to ingratiate into his "new family".

anon666 We have absolutely no idea if the ex is living on a pittance and the op’s dh is living the high life.
People have been projecting so much on this thread.

My ex has left a trail of misery too but I certainly didn’t apply it to this thread. The op’s dh is a bit thoughtless I agree, but I definitely didn’t get any “the ex is in poverty” vibes. I must behave missed something.

Their Dad should have sorted that, not their Mum. Though your DC probably didn't even notice.