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Original poster

Opened stockings without me.

192 replies

HepLaurenceLB · 25/12/2020 08:42

I have 3 boys under 5. I spend weeks planning their Xmas presents and stocking fillers. He went downstairs with the boys and opened all of the stockings without me.

He did nothing. Did not buy a single present or organise anything but he got to watch all 3 open their stockings. He said he thought it would be a treat for me to lie in ( until 7.30am) instead of watching. First lie in that he has ever given me. I am so pissed off.
I will suck it up and be jolly but he genuinely will not concede that he has been inconsiderate.

OP posts:
7yo7yo · 25/12/2020 08:43

He wants to take the credit for your hard work. Cunt.

Original poster
HepLaurenceLB · 25/12/2020 08:44

The he in this situation is my husband. Father of my DC.

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FippertyGibbett · 25/12/2020 08:46

LTB !

toomuchfaster · 25/12/2020 08:46

I thought the point of stockings was to extend parental time in bed. I can't see what he has done wrong in this specific situation, but clearly there is a lot more too it.

Pipandmum · 25/12/2020 08:46

I would be furious! The reward in all the preparation is seeing the happiness on their faces! I think I would be tempted to say that if he gets the joy he gets the chores: dinner and tidying up after are his now while you get to sit and watch the kids play....

Marzipan12 · 25/12/2020 08:47

To be fair you have 3 excited under 5 year olds. If you didn't get up did you really expect them to wait?

HeyChubbee · 25/12/2020 08:47

I’s be really annoyed - but I think the kids are little enough that they won’t remember, you also need to make sure this is the 1st of many lie ins.

FippertyGibbett · 25/12/2020 08:47

To be fair to him, you know what is in the presents, and he thought he was doing something nice by giving you a lie in on Christmas Day.

midgebabe · 25/12/2020 08:48

If they are under 5 it's another 10 years before they realise just mam buys everything and another 10 before they realise what effort that is

peboh · 25/12/2020 08:48

I personally wouldn't have an issue with this at all. You got a bit of extra time in bed, and I doubt dad took credit for everything.

Rainbowqueeen · 25/12/2020 08:49

Sounds deliberate to me. Really nasty.

I’d hit the roof

ByersRd · 25/12/2020 08:49

Did you sleep through without him waking you?

Freddiefox · 25/12/2020 08:51

Why would you suck it up? I don’t understand, talk to him tell him how you feel. How selfish he is.
Don’t need to be now, but don’t swallow this

Hermanfromguesswho · 25/12/2020 08:53

That’s not inconsiderate, that’s downright mean. What an arsehole.

BiscuitDrama · 25/12/2020 08:54

@ByersRd

Did you sleep through without him waking you?
That’s what I’m getting from the post. I’d be really upset.
RosesforMama · 25/12/2020 08:55

Ours open stockings in our bed. This is made very clear. Just make it a new rule from next year (my boys are 13,16 and 19 and they still sit on our bed to open!)

TheGoodEnoughWife · 25/12/2020 08:55

Were you not aware they were up? I don't see how you managed to sleep through three excited under 5's?

notacooldad · 25/12/2020 08:56

Only you know your husband.
Was he trying to do the right thing or does he try to undermine you with the kids usually?
It's hard to call this one to be honest.

Original poster
HepLaurenceLB · 25/12/2020 08:56

I slept through. He slept with the toddlers last night for the second time in 18 months so that I could get some sleep.

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Helmetbymidnight · 25/12/2020 08:58

i think that was a horrid thing to do.

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TidyDancer · 25/12/2020 08:59

This really does depend on what his intent was. He obviously could be being an evil bastard who did this deliberately to deprive you of seeing the DCs. Or he could be trying to be kind and really didn't see that you'd be upset by this.

Are the stockings the only presents you have? Are there others to open? People do things differently so this could be a minor part of your present opening, or the only part. I think this is also key to how bad this might be.

Butterymuffin · 25/12/2020 08:59

How dim do you have to be to not think their mum will want to see them open their presents? I would be furious.

MoiraNotRuby · 25/12/2020 09:00

I'd be pissed off and just like you I would suck it up and be jolly... but make sure it never happened again!

You will have many more years of stocking opening OP, my DC are now bigger than me but brought their stockings in to open on my bed today, giving me knowing smiles about how thoughtful Santa has been. Its even more lovely when they know who to appreciate tbh.

Have a lovely rest of today x

Whaleandsnail6 · 25/12/2020 09:00

I wouldn't be too annoyed, He had good intentions.

Ozgirl75 · 25/12/2020 09:01

I’m in two minds on this. On one hand I’d be gutted as I love our Xmas day bed stocking opener. On the other hand, we did ours at 6.45 this morning and I wouldn’t have minded a lie in! It’s been a long day......