What would you love to say to your ex?

[Ostryga]

I’ll start - I’m kind of grateful.

I’d never experienced emotional abuse before you, and now I know exactly what it can do to me in such a short space of time. And I’ll never allow myself to ever feel like that again.

Thanks for making me fight for myself. I know how fucking immensely strong I actually am.

I'd probably say the same. And that I wish I'd never met you.

I wish I knew then that I am strong enough to not take that crap! I’m sorry I spent so long working that out.

You were really an idiot, probably still are, but at least I’ve learnt it wasn’t my fault!

I know for a fact that you slept with Jenny on numerous occasions despite your insistence that you didn’t. Your gaslighting and lying about it gave me trust issues which were really difficult to shake, and interfered with the relationships I had after you. I’m now in a much better place with a man I trust and love, but I don’t think you fully understand the impact you had at the time.

That I'm sorry. I was young and immature. There was a lot of shit going on at home that I knew you couldn't handle. I'm married now & have beautiful children. I have grown up a lot and I'm so happy you was able to move on and be happy. I see you're still with the same girl & now have a baby of your own. Congratulations.

Stop with the drugs. You joked about living fast and dying young, and you did. You're gone and not even 32. You were worth more.

The way you have behaved this week is lower than I ever thought was possible even by your standards. Your own mother was appalled by it and for once I agree with her.

You fucking things up first time around was beyond painful, but I know you thought you were making the right choice and that it would probably work out for me in the long run. Begging me for a second chance many years later and then screwing that up because you were too scared to even try? I don’t know if I’m horrendously angry or just sad. Sad and numb in a place that will be that way forever.

I hope your new gf wises up to your controlling abusive ways soon. She seems lovely and you don't deserve her.

Two different exes -

Ex one - It wasn't me. It really wasn't me. I'm not crazy, I didn't exaggerate and I am not impossible to be with. Whatever the reasons for your behaviour are or were, they are your reasons. The way you treated me was unacceptable. I was an adult. I should have been able to make decisions and leave the house as I pleased, stay up late or go to bed early if I wanted to. You were so much older and more experienced than I was when we met and I feel like you groomed me in a way. You're not a monster but the things you did were wrong.

Ex two - I know the distance is big and the pandemic has made things harder but we wouldn't always have to be so far apart. I am getting on with my life and I'm doing things I know you'd be proud of, but it doesn't feel so good without you here. I worry about you and I don't want you to be alone but I'm scared of you meeting someone else because you're right for me. It's so stupid for us to not be together, we both love each other and we made each other really happy. I respect your decision and I'm staying away, but I think you have made a mistake. I know you're missing me too.

I love you and I wish we tried harder. You are a great dad & our kids are lucky to have you.

You used me for years and I just put up with it like a total idiot. I wasted 10 years of my life on you and that depresses me.

I love myself far more than I ever loved you and in my worst day now I'm still happier than my best days with you.

Also, I love wearing heels now I've left you, I hated not wearing them for years just because you felt emasculated being smaller than me, you poncey little short arse

I'm so glad I left you behind. I know you think of me now and regret how you were.....I couldn't be happier to be rid of you.

Happy to say that 5 years on I'd only like to say 'thanks' to the ex.

Life is good.

I said them to my ex a couple of years ago, (and every time we have had a drink together since - birthday Christmas etc).
And we are going to spend Christmas Eve & Day together with DD.

I wish you were dead. And when you die I’m going to come and dance on your grave you evil bastard. There might be a queue!

Rest in peace!

I hope your next shit is a cactus now fuck of and leave me alone!!

"I broke that tacky vase that was apparently expensive but actually from Asda's which belonged to the side chick you were screwing around with"

Oooh and I'd tell him to go sky diving. Dude hates heights, and airplanes/helecopters

What a shame that you only saw your son once in all these years. When he was 3 you turned up unexpectedly at my door (having left when I was 6 months pregnant), stayed for two hours, said "I'll see you both soon" and I never heard from you again. He is now a lovely man in his 30s and you have no idea what you have missed. Your loss.

Fuck you. You ruined my life. And why, a few months after you ended it because you hated my kids and didn't want a family did you move in with someone with a small child? They'll be far more annoying than my teens. And now she's pregnant. Well ha. You're stuck now aren't you! I know you well enough to know that wouldn't have been planned. So more fool you. Idiot. i love you

My self esteem was on the floor, non existent, battered. And I still knew even I was too good for you and your disgusting behaviour.

You’re missing the kids you adore grow up to chase a dream.

I'm sorry I couldn't save you. I tried but in trying to save you I very nearly lost myself. When you died this year I felt that overwhelming sense of loss even though we hadn't seen each other in years, then it dawned on me that you were lost to me and the rest of the world a long time ago. (Heroin OD)

Thanks for making me a fighter.
And
Told you I'd have the last laugh.