What would you love to say to your ex?

[Ostryga]

I’ll start - I’m kind of grateful.

I’d never experienced emotional abuse before you, and now I know exactly what it can do to me in such a short space of time. And I’ll never allow myself to ever feel like that again.

Thanks for making me fight for myself. I know how fucking immensely strong I actually am.

I now know what 'gaslighting' means. I'll never forgive you for the way you treated me.

Thank you. You were a wonderful first love and first shag. We didn't work out but you showed me to expect to be treated with kindness and respect and I'll always be grateful.

Your ex wife was right, you’re a controlling, angry misogynist. I know your final divorce hearing was scheduled for this month, I hope she was awarded every penny that she asked for; an amount that petrified the living daylights out of you.

You're an awful human being and I wish I had never met you.

'Thank you for all the experiences I've had with you. I am a bit sorry that we were just too young to keep what we had. I am happy now, but sometimes think how ace it would be to be with you'

I wish I'd never met you.

“I wasn’t a nymphomaniac, you were asexual. And that’s ok, just not for me.”

I’m now 95% sure that you were cheating on me the whole time we were together. Or rather, you were cheating on your long-term partner with me. I hope the truth comes out one day, when you least expect it and bites you on the arse.

P.S. I didn’t say this at the time, but you made a total tit of yourself at that public speaking event. You ranted on endlessly and pulled weird exaggerated faces when the other speakers were talking. People were laughing at you. I’m glad no one there knew I was your ex.

Stop choosing alcohol over your children. You've already lost the respect of one and the other one won't be far behind when he realises what a bullshitting waste of space you are.

I'm sorry. Sorry I froze on you, sorry I didn't do anything to put things right, sorry I was never really there for you. I don't know if we would still be together if I'd been less up myself, but I regret not putting you first for a change and trying to fix things, or trying not to let them break.

You made me believe your depression was so bad that you couldn't be with me. Then you ghosted me. I worried about you and pushed aside my own health because I thought you were going to harm yourself. I had a complete break down. I continued to worry about you for 18 months. I was left believing you were a king, decent man, who just had mental health issues.

You fucking lied. You are a serial cheat. A compulsive liar. The weakest most spineless man I've ever met. You told me you'd never cheated, the biggest lie of all, to lure me in.

Please stay away from women forever and get intensive therapy. And, get rid of that fucking comb over, it's utterly repulsive.

Dear First Love, I was so glad when you got in touch with me again. You're lovely and I wish I had been mature enough to have treated you better. I'm really glad we are friends now.

Dear Ex, You underestimated me and didn't realise I would keep pushing and pushing until the CMS finally had to take notice. I know you will be raging every month when they take the money out of your account and your DD will probably be about 30 by the time the arrears are paid off.

Remember how you had a string of women in your bed as soon as we split and loved rubbing it in my face when you found someone to marry you? I laughed my head off when she dumped you, and laughed even more when I found out you got drunk and fell and broke your leg. It was a bad break too, someone shared the pictures of your stairlift and rails to hoist yourself off the toilet.

I saw you've managed to get another woman to let you move in with her, you're going to fuck this one up too.

You are the worst thing that ever happened to me. You took everything from me and then hated me for my unhappiness. I deeply wish you were not my kids' Father, the poor souls you've damaged them like you damaged me. You are a deeply defective, foul, disgusting human being. I genuinely hope you die.

You are an utterly repulsive human who is a creep, a pathological liar and morally reprehensible.

There's no point in raising any of the shit you put me through. I don't expect an apology, it's not as though I give a fuck enough to be your friend. That's just not worth it for me. But if you don't stop manipulating your children's emotions I will fuck up your relationship, it won't take much. I have found out all the lies you used with the woman. I have proof too. I also know she has a hard line on men who cheat. Sort your head out. You've got one more chance.

You are a shitty husband and a shitty father. I hope I live long enough to dance on your grave.

Blimey it looks as though someone has taken the spirit of this thread out into the real world. I keep finding comments from a VERY bitter ex all over a BBC news story. Whatever happened between them she clearly resents any focus not being on her.

I'm sorry your dad died. He was so kind. I'm sorry your mum is very poorly with alzimers. They were both amazing people. I'm sorry you are a cunt. I wish you had done it when you threatened to jump in front of a train at Stratford. But then, that was before I realised you were a cunt.