What would you love to say to your ex?

[Ostryga]

I’ll start - I’m kind of grateful.

I’d never experienced emotional abuse before you, and now I know exactly what it can do to me in such a short space of time. And I’ll never allow myself to ever feel like that again.

Thanks for making me fight for myself. I know how fucking immensely strong I actually am.

XH
Trying to pass your 5 beautiful children off as your sister's to your new partner was an all time low.

I don't regret any of the abuse I went through at your hands as it means I have 5 wonderful children, 4 of whom are adults now.

After you dodging paying maintenance for 13 years I have to admit I laugh like a drain every time they take it from your wages , knowing full well you're only working now thinking the payments will stop in 18 months when the youngest becomes an adult.

DOES NOT APPLY TO THE ARREARS

Have a lovely Christmas!

The way you treated your son and me is absolutely disgusting . I will not and can not ever forgive you. I will be polite when discussing anything to do with our son but apart from that you will not be getting anymore of my valuable time or effort.

Hard one... even though you were a cheat, I needed that love and admiration you gave me in the beginning. So thanks for loving me for who I really am, for the short while you did anyway 😂 now I know I’m too good for you!

You tried very hard to make me believe that I was worth nothing. That you were doing me a favour by being with me. That you only stayed with me because you worried that if you left me, once my looks faded, I'd have nothing else to recommend me and I'd die alone.

Those were your exact words.

Didn't happen, though, did it?

I left you, and it was the best and bravest thing I've ever done. Oh, you wheedled and you lied. You threatened to kill yourself. You promised to destroy me. You put a great deal of effort into making that happen, and you almost succeeded.

But in the end, for the first time ever with you, I won.

Look at this man who loves me. See my beautiful home, my two incredible daughters, my head held high; I don't apologise for anything anymore.

What's that? You're still single, nearly eight years later? You're over forty and you're still living at home, sponging off your long-suffering parents?

Guess it'll be you who dies alone then!

Karma's a bitch

Dear Ex,

I am so much better off without you. You made me miserable with your drinking. You never wanted a partnership, only to tick off the box and have me fill the wife vacancy in your life.

You are awful, coming into my life when you knew my late husband, and playing dad to my kids before deciding we weren't your dream family.

You made me feel like I needed you because it was the only way you could keep me. In truth, you needed me.

I hope you enjoy Christmas sleeping on your sister's sofa. I hope you enjoy your 40th birthday, single. I hope you enjoy going home to an empty mouse-infested house.

I have a wonderful man now, I am retraining to start a new career. I have achieved so much without you. And my kids, not that you care, are thriving.

Sapphire

There was never anything wrong with me. It wasn’t my fault that I didn’t fit in with your friends. It’s perfectly ok that I didn’t love camping. It’s perfectly ok that I hated the club scene. Leaving you meant I was finally able to accept myself for who I am and I very much like myself. I’m happy that you eventually found someone better matched to you, I just wish you hadn’t tried to make me feel like I was inferior just because we were a poor match.

I hope you die as lonely and as alone as you've lived. You had two chances to have a lovely family and you ruined it both times. You've missed out on so much. I'm so glad you are not in my life and you are one of the few people I wish nothing but ill

Nothing really. He's an ex because he was incapable of listening or understanding words from another human being that weren't singing his praises.

You’re a cunt.

That he really was absolutely rubbish in bed. I was so naive I thought I was the problem but have found out subsequently that I'm pretty damn fine thankyou.
It's not what you've got but what you can do with it. Preferably more than 30secs helps as well

I'd say to Stbxh; you're a fucking walking Petri dish, stop going around making women physically ill and anxious- I now know that there are others. Going to my violent ex, knowingly putting me at risk, to try and get dirt on me was one of the lowest things you did. Learn how to use the shower, realise being a miserable prick has an effect on other people and "everything isn't always about you" is not a get out of jail card. Learn some manners, have an ounce of pride - stop being a cocklodging gold digger. Leaving dog shit everywhere and filth/litter for other people to clean up makes you a repulsive human being. Have some respect for other people and their homes. stop trying to play the victim and just accept that people don't like you because you're not a very nice person. Tbh you only got away with it for so long with me because of your looks and you've long since lost those.

I hope you and your weird, cold, manipulative family all reap what you sow.

Sorry

Why haven't you bought DD a Christmas present - not a single one.

Same as @FlyNow
Rest in Peace, you're not dead yet, I'll be glad when you are.

On and off ex from years ago. I'm sorry that I said you weren't my favourite lover but you did ask!

Long time ex from a long time! Hi, how are you doing! ( well I know actually because we are still friends and I see what he is up to on face book, he's a nice bloke)

I wish you were still here because our son misses you. And wtf did you send me a Little Britain meme from you deathbed?!

Well, this is cheaper than therapy! I would be saying;

1. splitting up was the best thing we did
2. you may have left me to marry someone else and have a child. You may have married her no child in sight after your big talk
3. you’re mum is a cunt and part of the reason you are the way you are
4. people say lm more confident and happier in myself. Yeah because you’re not knocking me down all the time
5. life is so much easier. Even me making dinner was a drama when l was with you

@Oneborneverydecade that’s very random under the circumstances

@WhatKatyDidNxt it was kind of funny. No apology or heartfelt message for our son for the future. I got David Walliams in drag.

That he had a small dick, he’s shit at sex. That I know he slept with his police buddy and oh I slept with his chief inspector to get back at him. Piece of shit thought it was hilarious to cheat on me. His cards marked at work.

It's Christmas you have an amazing dc but never bought a gift why?
Thanks for giving up your job so you don't have to provide for dc. Found it quite funny when I saw your now a cleaner and you clocked me don't worry I won't go for maintenance we've managed 16 years without you.
Dc1 is a wonderful young person now and by the way passed all gcses thanks for the support.
Dcs health is poor but you know this and not once have you asked about it, why not?
Why did you cross the road to avoid dc1?
But most of all I want him to know I have a lovely relationship with dc and despite everything we've had some great times and he's missed out on so much its his loss.

@Oneborneverydecade that’s very random! Was it a mistake or was that kind of his style?